Post # 1
Hey bees! I was wondering if you all would be willing to tell me how much you spent to get married in a Catholic Church.
I am kind of stressing out about the additional costs. The historic church I am getting married in charges $1,300. That is for using the space, having a coordinator, the rehearsal, musicians, and parking lot security (sheriff’s).
I recently read that you are also expected to give 10% of your total budget (so $2,000). Then you also have to gift an amount to the priest (I am having a priest from another church marry us). I have no idea how much to give.
To cut costs, I wasn’t planning to decorate the church with flowers. However, I read that you have to gift the church flowers as well.
So $1,300 is turning into $4,500 pretty quickly and that worries me. My fiance and I have huge families so there is only so much we can do to cut the guest list down. At this point I may just have to have the ceremony at my reception location for $1,200 which I really do not want to do.
How much did you spend on the church in total?
Post # 2
My (Anglican) historical church was about $1500, which was room for 200 people. It included the organist and $250 of flowers. If I wanted to use the altar candles, I had to pay another $250. It irritated me and was partially why I chose to elope. It’s $250 to have a priest come to my location.
Post # 3
My church was around $400, but it wasn’t a historical church or cathedral or anything. The local cathedral was around $1000 though just for the building and not all the other fees that pop up.
Post # 4
Our Catholic Church doesn’t charge a set amount if youre a member. They suggested maybe $400? (It’s been a couple of years). That included the priests time, musical planning, and a few things we could use if wanted like a ubit candle holder.
Post # 5
We got married at the big cathedral in town, which cost $1000 for members ($2000 for nonmembers). This included use of the space, rehearsal and a cantor. We didn’t bother with flowers because the cathedral is grand and ornate enough as is (we did have pew bows to show people where to sit).
We did gift the pastor, though I don’t remember how much. I haven’t heard of the 10% thing.
Post # 6
My historical church is $1000 then the music (a string quartet) $500 and $1500 in flowers.
You have to donate more than what you are already pying for the use of the church? That’s a lot!
Post # 7
Are you a member of the church? If not I think it is appropriate to make a donation to the church, in addition to their fees. I’ve never heard of that being a specific portion of your overall budget though. Did you read that somewhere that was specific to this church?
Also, yes, it’s customary to compensate the priest and altar servers.
If it’s a historic church maybe you could save by skipping the flowers (or just one arrangement for the altar) as it likely is probably pretty on its own. (I have heard of having to leave decor flowers behind as a gift to the church, so I don’t think k that’s uncommon)
Post # 8
Commenting to follow. Our deposit was 500. Not sure what the total is going to be when all said is done. Thankfully it’s refundable!
Post # 9
We are members of the Catholic church we are marrying in. The fee for us is $150. That fee included the priest and musician. We didn’t want to use the musician that does our normal masses, so we are bringing in a different organist ($100), a cantor ($100), a flutist($100), and a violinist ($100). It’s traditional to leave alter flowers after the mass, but not absolutely required at our church. I’m doing artificial flowers, and will take the alter arrangements to use as reception decor.
Post # 10
Our ceremony was free. We had what they called a “simple wedding”:
…consists only of a Liturgy of the Word, exchange of promises, blessing and exchange of rings, nuptial blessing and other prayers at the priest/deacon’s discretion. A “simple wedding” does not include a nuptial Mass, music, a processional or recessional, or “cultural practices” such as arras, lazo, unity candle, flowers taken to the shrine of Mary or the like.
We are not religious so all that stuff wasn’t important to us. Worked out great!
Post # 11
$1500 + $150 to the deacon
Post # 12
$750 for the ceremony and dress rehearsal, $200 for the musician, and we gave the priest a tip of $75 (10%). I have NEVER heard about giving an EXTRA 10% to the church from your budget?? Umm, no – that’s what the fee is for.
I believe we also tipped the musican $40 day of and the day-of coordinator who was awesome. My mom brought a bunch of cash in an envelope to take care of it as I was pretty busy that day 🙂
Post # 13
I think our fee was $500 or similar for the church. It’s just a normal church but a large one and very pretty, and I think the fee is higher if you’re not a member (I am). We also paid for an organist. Normally you pay for the priest but ours is someone very close to my family and wouldn’t accept the check. If you’re going to do a mass you might have to pay for altar servers (when I was a kid it was like $10-20 per altar server so it’s probably double that now) but we didn’t do a mass, just the ceremony.
Post # 14
I’m getting married at my family church. Our fee is $300 and then they recommend tipping $20 per altar server.