(Closed) How much did you spend on the church?

posted 3 years ago in Catholic
Post # 2
465 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

My (Anglican) historical church was about $1500, which was room for 200 people. It included the organist and $250 of flowers. If I wanted to use the altar candles, I had to pay another $250.  It irritated me and was partially why I chose to elope. It’s $250 to have a priest come to my location. 

Post # 3
3803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

My church was around $400, but it wasn’t a historical church or cathedral or anything. The local cathedral was around $1000 though just for the building and not all the other fees that pop up. 

Post # 4
929 posts
Busy bee

Our Catholic Church doesn’t charge a set amount if youre a member. They suggested maybe $400? (It’s been a couple of years). That included the priests time, musical planning, and a few things we could use if wanted like a ubit candle holder.

Post # 5
51 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

We got married at the big cathedral in town, which cost $1000 for members ($2000 for nonmembers). This included use of the space, rehearsal and a cantor. We didn’t bother with flowers because the cathedral is grand and ornate enough as is (we did have pew bows to show people where to sit). 

We did gift the pastor, though I don’t remember how much. I haven’t heard of the 10% thing. 

Post # 6
385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2017

My historical church is $1000 then the music (a string quartet) $500 and $1500 in flowers. 


You have to donate more than what you are already pying for the use of the church? That’s a lot! 

Post # 7
411 posts
Helper bee

Are you a member of the church? If not I think it is appropriate to make a donation to the church, in addition to their fees. I’ve never heard of that being a specific portion of your overall budget though. Did you read that somewhere that was specific to this church?

Also, yes, it’s customary to compensate the priest and altar servers.

If it’s a historic church maybe you could save by skipping the flowers (or just one arrangement for the altar) as it likely is probably pretty on its own. (I have heard of having to leave decor flowers behind as a gift to the church, so I don’t think k that’s uncommon)

Post # 8
62 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Commenting to follow. Our deposit was 500. Not sure what the total is going to be when all said is done. Thankfully it’s refundable! 

Post # 9
102 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

We are members of the Catholic church we are marrying in.  The fee for us is $150. That fee included the priest and musician. We didn’t want to use the musician that does our normal masses, so we are bringing in a different organist ($100), a cantor ($100), a flutist($100), and a violinist ($100). It’s traditional to leave alter flowers after the mass, but not absolutely required at our church.  I’m doing artificial flowers, and will take the alter arrangements to use as reception decor.


Post # 10
579 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Our ceremony was free. We had what they called a “simple wedding”:

…consists only of a Liturgy of the Word, exchange of promises, blessing and exchange of rings, nuptial blessing and other prayers at the priest/deacon’s discretion.  A “simple wedding” does not include a nuptial Mass, music, a processional or recessional, or “cultural practices” such as arras, lazo, unity candle, flowers taken to the shrine of Mary or the like.

We are not religious so all that stuff wasn’t important to us. Worked out great!

Post # 11
2000 posts
Buzzing bee

$1500 + $150 to the deacon 

Post # 12
1471 posts
Bumble bee

$750 for the ceremony and dress rehearsal, $200 for the musician, and we gave the priest a tip of $75 (10%).  I have NEVER heard about giving an EXTRA 10% to the church from your budget??  Umm, no – that’s what the fee is for.  

I believe we also tipped the musican $40 day of and the day-of coordinator who was awesome.  My mom brought a bunch of cash in an envelope to take care of it as I was pretty busy that day 🙂

Post # 13
732 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I think our fee was $500 or similar for the church.  It’s just a normal church but a large one and very pretty, and I think the fee is higher if you’re not a member (I am).  We also paid for an organist.  Normally you pay for the priest but ours is someone very close to my family and wouldn’t accept the check.  If you’re going to do a mass you might have to pay for altar servers (when I was a kid it was like $10-20 per altar server so it’s probably double that now) but we didn’t do a mass, just the ceremony.

Post # 14
246 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I’m getting married at my family church. Our fee is $300 and then they recommend tipping $20 per altar server.

Post # 15
1336 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Painswick Church and the Falcon Hotel

My church cost £500 

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