(Closed) How much did you spend on your wedding? I went wayyyy over budget!

posted 5 years ago in Money
  • poll: Cost of your wedding
    $0-$5000 : (12 votes)
    6 %
    $5000-$10,000 : (19 votes)
    10 %
    $10,000-$15,000 : (40 votes)
    21 %
    $15,000-$20,000 : (23 votes)
    12 %
    $20,000-$30,000 : (38 votes)
    20 %
    $30,000+ : (22 votes)
    12 %
    $40,000+ : (33 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 3
    3572 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We spent about 5K on our (private) wedding trip. Ceremony, transportation, and the trip. (Got married while on a 5 day vacation to NYC)

    We budgeted about  5-6K for the anniversary party a year later. It actually ended up way under budget, but mainly because we had a lot of people RSVP “regretss.” Ok by us though! It was super fun and we spent the rest of the money on a Kenyan holiday. ; )

    Post # 4
    6350 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2014

    We thought we would spend about £5k ($7.5k); that was before we actually sat down and did any sums/research, and realised that was never going to happen for what we wanted.

    Our total spend now, without the rings and honeymoon, is around the £21.5k mark ($30k). With the rings and honeymoon, it brings it to about £30k, or $42k.

    We’re not even having a big wedding: we’re having 60 people for the ceremony and wedding breakfast, then an additional 40 for the evening reception, and that doesn’t include a fully open bar, which would take it soaring up by around another $6k realistically… We haven’t gone mad; we have splurged on photography, but are paying an average price for the cake, are DIYing stationary, have no decorations bar some simple flowers, aren’t having transport, etc. The bulk of that cost is food and drink, which comes to around £9.5k, or around 45% of our budget.

    Where I live isn’t cheap!

    Post # 6
    7992 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    We origianlly set our budget at £6-7,000  (9-10,500 US). Then we realised that we simply couldn’t do it. Extra expenses were:

    – The church costs. Yes, using a church often costs a lot more because you have to pay the organist, the choir, the church donation fees, and transportation costs to and from your reception venue. The only advantage, financially, is that you don’t have to pay the registrar call out fee, as you would for a secular ceremony.

    – The free bar. We decided we wanted to treat people, so we chose a space which was a blank canvas and bought in alcohol. This was a shocker…

    – FOOD AND DRINK (including alcohol). We are having a champagne reception, followed by a four course silver service meal for 80, and then a free bar, buffet, and evening reception for 100+. The cost of this alone will be above £5,000, and could be even more.

    – The rings were also quite expensive… almost £700. I’m not including my engagement ring in that price.Then there were a lot of other expenses… decor ended up being expensive because we found it was cheaper to buy the glassware and linens than to rent them, and that went into our decorations budget.

    New total: In excess of £10,000 and slowly (very slowly now, thank goodness!) rising. It will probably end up being £10-11,000 (around or over 15,000 US). I just don’t get how it got so out of control when we are DIY-ing so much of it and not having so many things. For example, we’re using a student photographer, I’m cooking the buffet… etc etc.

    Post # 7
    4495 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We are spending about $7,000 total (not including the honeymoon). We stayed in budget pretty easily. This is for ~50 guests.

    Post # 8
    1193 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    My budget is $30k and so far everything I’ve gotten (venue, photographer/videographer and DJ) has come in under budget. I’m using the budget tool on Wedding Wire and it helps me tremendously. I can delete categories I’m not having and add things I am or move things around to places I need them. I can’t say what our final cost is going to be, but I’m thinking it’ll end up right around 30k.

    ETA: I think a lot of areas have different budgets, kind of like with houses. So what $10k gets you in, say, a small town, might not be what it would get you in a bigger city.

    Post # 9
    1307 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    We originally planned to spend about 20k for maybe 100 people…but now it’s more like 35k and 130-150 people

    Post # 10
    1251 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2009

    We spent around $6k, not including honeymoon or rings. This was for 100 people, and we had a full meal and cake, but no alcohol.



    Post # 11
    51 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @krrmee5:  We had originally set a budget of $10k. I began planning just after we got engaged almost a year ago. I am a DIY bride so I did a lot of things myself. But with the wedding in 3 days, we came in under budget at $6984.62. The nice thing is, we won’t owe a dime when it’s all said and done!! We were able to pay for everything in cash! Including the honeymoon.  And I loved planning my wedding so much, i think i just might try my hand at being a wedding planner for DIT brides and brides on a budget. Well enjoy ladies!

    Post # 12
    960 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @krrmee5:  I think I’m going to be over too.


    Our original budget was 35k and it really depends on how you slice it to say if we’re “on budget” or not. I think in the end we’ll be “around” 35 if you don’t include the items that were gifted to us (aside from the exact cash gifts from the parents, thats included in the 35k) but it does not include the wedding dress or most of the stationary and there are a few small items I’ve not tracked as part of the wedding costs.


    Realistically I tihnk it’ll be around 40k which I don’t think was TOO bad considering I budgeted for 150 guests and we now have a minimum of 200 with 260 currently invited. My big fear is actually running out of invitations 🙁

    Post # 13
    3572 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @krrmee5:  Yeah, we kept costs low, but really we just knew from almost the beginning we didn’t want a bunch of people around on our wedding day. 

    Truthfully, the anniversary party was really nice, but I think the reason it stayed pretty cheap was because I more or less DIY’ed everything – except catering. We hired a friend to bartend and only had beer and wine, hired another friend to get a PA and had a playlist (although he is awesome and basically ended up DJing), I made and decorated the cake, and my family had a florist forever so we had all the flowers wholesale and my mom and grandma “gifted” me the design. Otherwise, it probably would have cost like – easily – 3 times as much. It was exhausting though! haha

    Post # 14
    1284 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Our budget was $15K and we ended up spending between $17K and $18K. I don’t regret it at all! (This doesn’t include our rings or honeymoon)

    ETA: We had about 100 guests too.


    Post # 15
    2295 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    My original kind of “I think we can come in around this amount” before we booked everything was $20k. We ended up spending about $23k all in – that includes things like paying for tuxes/dresses for the wedding party, hotel room for 2 nights for our friend that officiated, postage for thank you notes (and ALL mailed items), lunch the day of the wedding. I built in EVERY little detail, I didn’t just spend money here and there and not count it.

    Even if someone else paid for something, it was counted in the overall cost of the wedding. I think it is kind of deceptive as a comparison point when someone gets their dress or bar or catering paid for and they don’t include that in how much their wedding cost. When we were talking about weddings, Darling Husband was like, “My brother’s wedding only cost $5k!” Well, yeah, but all the meat for their BBQ was given to them and cooked for them as a gift (so way lower catering bill) and all their alcohol was gifted to them for their bar! So it wasn’t a fair comparison. /end rant

    So – about 15% higher than my original ballpark guess. But I did have the money set aside for it so it wasn’t a budget buster.

    Post # 16
    1846 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I kind of *hoped* I would spend about $15K, but that was before I really researched anything. We are going to end up spending about $24-$25K, and with the honeymoon it’ll be more like $32K. We are having a fairly formal wedding with 135 guests and all the fixins’

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