(Closed) How much did you think about weddings before getting engaged?

posted 10 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2005 - Westside Loft, New York

I got married in the olden times when it was just magazines.  Oh to plan a wedding today with all the fabulous resources out there!  this is exactly why we have to have a vow renewal. 5 year is too close (one year away!), but the 10 year mark will come before we know it! 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I didn’t find this site or many other weddding blogs until too late in my wedding planning.  I only had 6 months before my wedding and by then I made too many decisions I couldn’t change.  I didn’t really think much about weddings before I got engaged and I was a litttle too lazy about the planning early on because I felt like I had forever and that 6 month mark bit me in the butt out of nowhere!  These girls who start thinking before they get engaged I would consider pretty smart ladies because at least they know the resources available to them while it can still benefit them. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I started thinking about it and researching once the fiancee (woo! I can say that now!) and I started getting serious enough that the "when we’re married" and the "oh by the way, I want to do this at the wedding" conversations started cropping up about 10-12 months ago.  However, we only just got officially engaged a week ago.  One perk is that we can joke that we already have the whole thing planned out.  Not really of course, just the fun stuff.  Now we have to hash out the dirty details.  

Weddingbee was the first blog I found and I had absolutely no idea that the blogosphere was so huge.  I’m not even sure I knew it existed.  Needless to say, I now have a google reader chock full of assorted blogs.  Weddingbee is totally a gateway drug.  😀

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

My fiance and I dated just over 3 years before he finally popped the question, although I was pretty certain after only a month or two of dating that we would eventually get married (we were friends for 4 years before). I’ve always been excited to get married and plan my wedding so I started checking out the Knot before we were together, so I was really just thinking about my dream wedding.

However, once I knew he was the one and I was ready to get married I started to really search and save up inspiration photos, but this time with him in the plans 🙂 I also called two reception venues to ask about pricing and other details a year and a half before we got engaged. I guess I was a bit crazy, but I knew he was the one and wanted to be prepared (and thankfully he didn’t mind my wedding craziness!).

I think it has really helped with wedding plans because I’m very busy with professional school now and have moved 4 hours away from where we will be getting married, but I was able to get a lot of big stuff done very early on.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

I didn’t think about it at all.  In fact, I wouldn’t even buy a wedding magazine until a few weeks after we were engaged, and then I did so reluctantly. I only found weddingbee by accident, while looking for help with my first real wedding dilemma, and from then on I found it invaluable!

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I thought about getting engaged a lot…but like you, I never really thought about planning a wedding. I’m not that kinda girl that has a big picture in her head of what it’s supposed to be. In fact, until we found our venue, I was kind of dragging my feet on the whole thing.

 Now that I’m really into it though, it’s fun :o)

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

We dated for 5 years before the proposal. My now fiance, gave me a promise ring early on and we talked baout marriage a lot. After about 2 years, he kept saying the ring was coming soon. So I started really thinking about the wedding and would randomly pick up magazines.

I was really into weddings pre-engagement, but it wasn’t until post engagement that I found the many amazing websites, I am now addicted too, weddingbee included!

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

a little over a year before i met my FH, my sister got engaged and wedding stuff was all jumbled (actually more like stuffed) into my little head. then i met my FH… after a couple of months of dating, i learned that he was actually "everyone’s favorite wedding DJ". he’s a part-time wedding DJ i the DC area! so needless to say, wedding stuff has been on my mind for YEARS now!

i’m one of the fortunate brides out there that gets to go with her FH to all sorts of weddings throughout the year. so with him being a "vendor", i get to also experience a lot of the behind the scenes stuff. it’s so crazy, but also extremely helpful for our wedding. thanks to FH’s DJing jobs, i know so much more about all this wedding stuff!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I didn’t think about mine at all! I had no idea how much work was involved in planning a wedding!!! I NEVER picked up wedding mags before getting engaged, nor did I find all of these sites.

A friend recommended WB to me after I got engaged (One of those, "Oh, congrats…  by the way, check out weddingbee"). And wouldn’t you know it, I just passed along that same advice to a newly engaged friend too. So once we got engaged, I bought a few magazines the following week, and then started reading WB a week or two after that. 

And I’m hooked, of course! 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

I’m definitely in the same boat as you, penguin!

I let the engagement soak in before I even thought about anything "wedding" related. At the time of my proposal, my sister was just wrapping up a 16-month engagement, so I was not in wedding mode at all ("burnt out" was more like it)…It took about 2 months after hers was over for me to shift into wedding gear.

I also wish I had started my blog addiction earlier in the engagement, as do you. I feel I would have made a lot of different decisions!! However, I’m keeping my chin up and am looking forward to putting it all together on March 21st. 

Best of luck in the rest of your wedding planning and the marraige afterwards! (Seems a lot of brides lose focus of the prize at the finish line).

 

 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I became a Weddingbee addict before I was engaged.  My mom says I have been planning my wedding since the age of 12, and I have had so many versions of what kind of a wedding I want that I could have had, ooooh, about 18 weddings by now.  But now that I’m actually planning my REAL wedding, it is a whole new ball game.  I’m so glad a married friend told me about Weddingbee BEFORE I got engaged because it made the process so much easier when it actually came to making decisions.  I even found my candy buffet jars and photographer thanks to the hive. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018 - Coyaba Resort, Montego Bay

I didn’t look at a single wedding-related thing before we got engaged.  I had thought about trying on a dress once, but didn’t want to jinx it…

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Um, I shamefully had a dress hanging in my parents closet and a photographer almost booked.  le sigh.  I thought about it CONSTANTLY!

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I didn’t think about it at all – in fact, even when he asked, I assumed that we would go to the courthouse with a couple of friends to stand up for us, and then have a little dinner for our families and closest friends.  It was my husband who already had a guest list prepared when he asked!  Once he hooked up with my mom, there was no hope.  Luckily my sister and one of my best friends were married just a few years ago, and my mom is super-organized, or I would have been in big trouble.  Mom had her own version of The Knot’s to-do list put together the day after I told her we were engaged.

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