(Closed) How much did your bridesmaids help you/participate?

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 31
3951 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I had 2 bridesmaids and 2 bridesmen. My sister (a BM) went with my mom and I when I went dress shopping, and she helped out at my bridal shower (co-hosted by Mother-In-Law and mom).

Bridesman #1 came home with me a few days before the wedding to play buffer between my mom and I until DH could get there. He helped with a few last-minute projects (ribbons for programs and such).

The rest of the bridal party (and wedding party, really, since DH had a gender-mix group on his side as well) did everything we asked them to – they bought/rented their outfits, came to the rehearsal, helped set up the venue, and so forth. Our parties were widespread geographically, so we had zero expectations beyond the rehearsal and wedding day.

I did have a friend who broke her back and was confined to a bed for a few months, so I used to bring wedding crafts over that she could help with – but that was at her request because she was bored and alone a lot. We had a lot of fun chatting while working on little projects!

Post # 32
18 posts
  • Wedding: August 2018

My mother is the queen of everything planning related and the person I’m relaying on most!

Post # 34
501 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

As one of the comments before me mentioned… as a bridesmaid you keep doing everything you did as friends. It really isn’t an extra responsibility. Example: I would normally attend and possibly help plan a friend’s birthday party, so as a bridesmaid I would attend and possibly help plan a bachlorette party.

There isn’t a job description for bridesmaids just like there isn’t a job description for friends. You choose your friends because they share similar interests and values and you enjoy spending time with them, so when one of the friends is planning a wedding some of the time you spend with them might be wedding related. 

Overall, I believe the only “expectation” should be that both the bride and bridesmaid hold up their end of the friendship like they always did


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