Post # 31
I had 2 bridesmaids and 2 bridesmen. My sister (a BM) went with my mom and I when I went dress shopping, and she helped out at my bridal shower (co-hosted by Mother-In-Law and mom).
Bridesman #1 came home with me a few days before the wedding to play buffer between my mom and I until DH could get there. He helped with a few last-minute projects (ribbons for programs and such).
The rest of the bridal party (and wedding party, really, since DH had a gender-mix group on his side as well) did everything we asked them to – they bought/rented their outfits, came to the rehearsal, helped set up the venue, and so forth. Our parties were widespread geographically, so we had zero expectations beyond the rehearsal and wedding day.
I did have a friend who broke her back and was confined to a bed for a few months, so I used to bring wedding crafts over that she could help with – but that was at her request because she was bored and alone a lot. We had a lot of fun chatting while working on little projects!
Post # 32
My mother is the queen of everything planning related and the person I’m relaying on most!
Post # 33
“Would I help her plan her birthday party? Well then I think I’ll probably help her plan her bachelorette party”
This had always been my perspective on it as well. My sisters that are helping me would have helped me regardless. And my friends that don’t care about hosting parties or organizing events wouldn’t be the people I’d go to for help with hosting and organizing things normally, so why would I go to them for a wedding?
I was just very curious where this prescribed role came from.
Post # 34
As one of the comments before me mentioned… as a bridesmaid you keep doing everything you did as friends. It really isn’t an extra responsibility. Example: I would normally attend and possibly help plan a friend’s birthday party, so as a bridesmaid I would attend and possibly help plan a bachlorette party.
There isn’t a job description for bridesmaids just like there isn’t a job description for friends. You choose your friends because they share similar interests and values and you enjoy spending time with them, so when one of the friends is planning a wedding some of the time you spend with them might be wedding related.
Overall, I believe the only “expectation” should be that both the bride and bridesmaid hold up their end of the friendship like they always did