(Closed) How much did your engagement party cost?

posted 9 years ago in Money
Post # 34
597 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

My parents are throwing me an engagement party… Think it’s going to cost in the region of £500 ($1000ish?) we have invited about 100 people but I don’t know how many will come. We have hired a hall and will be providing drinks and snacks.

The main reason we decided to have one is that Fiance and I will likely have a 2-3 year engagement due to job and life situations, my worry is that when the wedding comes around we most likely want a tiny (12 people or so) or destination wedding so I’m worried about the etiquette of inviting all these people (albeit it’s too late now!) and my mum already told some of them that we are planning a small wedding and they were NOT HAPPY so I want to stick to the party line of ‘we don’t know yet, we’re just enjoying being engaged’ because a lot could change in the next 2-3 years, but I don’t know if it’s rude not to tell people that they most likely won’t be at the wedding as there will probably be an expectation if they are at the engagement party :(. Inviting more people to the wedding isn’t an option as it’s due to my FI’s anxiety, he asked before we proposed if we could have a small wedding when the time came and I agreed.

At any rate $15,000 will likely be far, far more than our entire wedding budget so I can’t imagine spending that on an engagement party!

Post # 35
5136 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@EmelK:  We didn’t have one.

We don’t believe in them. We have only gone to one engagement party and the only reason why the couple had one was because they were having a destination wedding in Jamaica.

Post # 36
360 posts
Helper bee

@EmelK:   I did even know them until a couple months ago, when I was three months engaged and didn’t miss having one. I’m having a bridal shower which is enough for me. If you feel the need to have one then by all means have one, but I certainly wouldn’t make it cost $15,000! That’s more than my entire wedding. I would have just a small intimate gathering.

Post # 37
133 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

That is a little crazy to me. I never even expected a party but my mom had a dinner party when my Fiance & I visited. There were 10 of us total (just family). My mom made steak & potatoes and then we had an ice cream cake. I would round the total up to maybe $50? It was perfect and so fun. Our whole wedding will be $10,000 max with 140 guests. 

Post # 38
1470 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

We had an engagement dinner for 36ish people (just family and closest friends). It cost us about $2,300. It was a sit down plated dinner at a nice restaurant. 

ETA: Price does not include rings, but includes center pieces, favors, my dress.

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