Post # 1
Sorry if this is a personal question. But I am getting such a wide specctrum of suggestions of what we should/need to spend on these bands that I am confused. Some say that these are the lifetime symbols of our marriage and love and can be handed down to our children so they should be considered an investment – but my fiance is just not a jewelry person. I, on the other hand, am also not much of a jewelry person, but the few staple pieces I have can range from a few hundred to few thousand (some giifted/nherited). Just curious how much others are spending on their bands… Thanks! 🙂
Post # 3
I got him an engagement and wedding ring: total cost $220 at robandlean’s shop on etsy. His wedding ring is titanium with manzanita inlay. It’s gorgeous.
We just got my ring after watching the platinum market for the last 6 months. We got a screaming deal, probably because of some initial well-addressed problems with my engagement ring and the downturn in the economy. So I got a platinum and diamond pave band for $380.
We shopped hard, and it paid off!
Post # 4
My wedding band contains the platinum and diamonds from my grandmother’s wedding ring. The jeweler who custom made my engagement ring was able to melt down the platinum and make a band that fits and compliments by engagement ring perfectly. They had to add some extra platinum and the final total came to around $600 for my ring.
My husband’s ring is tungsten and I ordered it on overstock for $50. He loves the look and it will never scratch.
Post # 5
Our wedding bands are both white gold with channel-set diamonds. We had them custom made. Mine was $1200; his was $1400 (fewer diamonds, but lots more gold). Neither of us actually wears much jewelry. He only wears his wedding band and a nice watch. I am allergic to most metals, and so just don’t own much jewelry because it has to be nickel free. However, since I own very few pieces of jewelry, I like the things I have to be nice.
You can’t really consider jewelry of any type to be an "investment," unless you are buying heirloom pieces with significant historical value, or really large and rare stones. The value of gold and platinum do tend to go up, but the amount of gold in your bands is pretty small. And diamonds of less than 3 – 4 ct, particularly white diamonds, are actually very common stones and have little resale value. Any value that the rings would eventually have to your kids will be primarily sentimental. So really, you should get what you like.
Post # 6
$350 for his, $400 for mine.
Yellow gold bands from an estate jewlery store (mine is estate, his was ordered new). No gemstones. His is a plain band; mine has details (ie, milgrain and embosed flowers) all the way around. I agree with suzanno: you shouldn’t think of your rings as an investment, instead select something you like that’s in your current budget.
Post # 7
Wedding bands: $400 for his $800 for mine — that included engraving. His is simple 14K yellow gold, mine is 18K yellow gold with diamonds and sapphires. Click here to see pics of our rings.
Post # 8
There’s no such thing as a "good amount" to spend on a ring. A good price depends on context: what kind of rings do you like and what is your budget? Pick what you like and get a good price for it.
It does not, however, depend on the context of "my friends and family think I should be spending more." It sounds like you’re feeling pressured to spend more on rings than you would like. It is not a requirement of marriage that you be big jewelry people, or even that you wear rings at all! Don’t cave! A ring doesn’t need to be worth (or cost) millions, or even thousands, or even hundreds, to be meaningful. Don’t worry about "investing" or handing your rings down to future children. Get something you love and that you can afford. You can get plain yellow or white gold bands for only a few hundred dollars (combined) and that is a very classic and respectable option.
Post # 9
I should add, my ring was about $1500 and his was $760. Mine is a platinum half-eternity band and his is a 6 mm platinum band. It was a good price for what we wanted. My good friends though paid like $50 each for their recycled gold 4 mm bands, which is perfect for them.
Post # 10
Mine was $65 (just a simple yellow gold band) and his was $150 (just a white gold band). The bands weren’t that important to us, so we saved money on them!
Post # 11
- Wedding: October 2018 - Auberge du Soleil
My band cost $800. I bought it at a vintage jewler and it is from the 1920s. It is made with white gold and has 8 tiny diamonds in the front (about 1/3 way around band) and the rest is a hand carved design. This was more than I wanted to spend on a band but it was important to me that it was vintage and it is hard to be picky with vintage bands. Mr. PN’s ring was about $875 and he had his custom made by a celtic jewler in Massachusettes.
Post # 12
Mine came in a set with my ering. So that was a thousand and he is going to use a ring that has been handed down in the family, so whatever the cost of getting it resized.
Post # 13
My eternity and cost $1,500.
My plain white gold wedding band cost $100 with free engraving
FI’s plain white gold wedding band cost $300 with free engraving.
Post # 14
thanks, everyone! some of you are right to assume that we are feeling some pressure to spend more than we want. not that it’s not within our budget – but we also wonder why we should spend so much when the economy is the way it is.
my fiance liked a tungsten ring but it was less than $100 and my family freaked cuz it was so inexpensive (relatively speaking). My mom has even offered to pay for our rings and is looking at high-end jewelry stores like cartier – but i feel irresonsible to spend so much on wedding bands, although i understand and am grateful for the thought behind it. I never put much thought into bands – the most important thing to me is that our bands match each other (which means mine won’t match my e-ring). As for my fiance, he never even knew we had to get wedding bands! When I first brought it up, he asked, then what do you do with the engagement ring I got you?! lol. boys can be so clueless sometimes. 🙂
Post # 15
Well…… Let’s just say that we have connections with a hot shot jewelry manager in Vegas, and she hooked us up- BIG TIME! Lucky me got to design both of our bands for $1000. I know that is still high, but being that my engagement ring was custom from my hubby, I couldn’t find anything that looked right with the design. So we had them made. They are beautiful though. Mine is platinum with diamonds (identical to my E-ring) with milgrain carving & his is polished and brushed white gold with carving as well. Like I said though, we have connections. It would’ve been about $3000 if we didn’t, and that would never have happened! I think you should spend whatever you feel is necessary for you. If you aren’t big on jewelry, don’t spend as much. My friends have simple plain gold bands that they maybe spent $60 a piece on, and they are just as happy as we are (they don’t wear jewelry either). So do whatever works for the both of you. Good Luck!
Post # 16
Wow, if your family is freaking out because you’re not spending enough money, then I would just not tell them how much the rings cost! You can tell them that it’s a private thing (which it is, as all money matters are).
Besides, the question they’re really asking is "Is it a high-quality ring worthy of being a wedding ring?" They equate that with price, but it ain’t necessarily so :). And certainly whatever you choose will be worthy of being your wedding rings, so you can assure them that you have chosen something well-made, beautiful, and perfect for you.