Post # 1
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1709 posts
Bumble bee
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
Hello All!
I’m just curious as to what you guys do about posting wedding-related statuses on your FB accuonts. I like to share wedding planning “milestones”, like when I ordered my dress and such, but sometimes feel as if I say too much, it will bring dreaded comments regarding when invites are being sent or “can’t wait to see you on your big day”, when in actuality that person may not be invited (this is just a general example, not anything specific that has happened to me). Do you curb some of your wedding planning on FB?
Thanks!
Post # 3
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4437 posts
Honey bee
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
I definitely say too much, but most of my friends do too, I told when I went dress shopping, when I bought dress home, when there was 100 days to go, etc. I’ve heard people on here say that’s wrong because not everyone is invited, but IMO, come one people, not all of my 500 friends expected to be invited, mostly because I don’t regularly talk to or see 95% of them.
Post # 4
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1963 posts
Buzzing bee
I haven’t posted anything, except our engagement pics and our engagement status change, and the pics look like couples shots. I’m doing that to avoid questions by people not invited. I’m also more of a non-sharer and rarely post anything personal on FB- usually just after I’ve been somewhere fun/cool.
Post # 5
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2965 posts
Sugar bee
I speak absolutely NO wedding talk on fb because most of my friends on fb are NOT invited. I use WB to talk about wedding stuff. They don’t even know when the date is. I’m not giving anyone that if they are not invited.
Post # 6
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3367 posts
Sugar bee
I’ve posted a ton, but I’m one of those people who doesn’t really have a ton of “extra” friends. Everyone on my friends list is invited to the wedding because they’re all people who are close to me.
Post # 8
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3216 posts
Sugar bee
the only wedding-talk I did on Facebook was changing my relationship to engaged, a couple of engagement photos, then a post the day before that was something like “we’re getting married tomorrow!”
Post # 9
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1114 posts
Bumble bee
I share occasional things, like the fact that we gave notice yesterday (yay!) and when we booked our venue, but that’s it – just the big stuff. If and when I get awkward questions or assumptions, I try to field them by being honest as to whether or not the person is invited. Given the fact that I’m 23, the vast majority of my friends aren’t in wedding planning mode and a lot of them see it as just another party. When I explain the restrictions as to venue size and how many family members we’re inviting, most people are fine with not being invited.
Post # 10
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155 posts
Blushing bee
Other than the engagement photos and an occasional “engaged” or “fiance” comment here and there, pretty much nothing. My fiance has a LARGE extended family, who I happen to be friends with on FB (and in real life, but you know what I mean)–however, they are unfortunately not going to be invited to the wedding. I would hate to post details about invitations and such and get questions as to why they haven’t received theirs yet. That would be awkward and I hate confrontation. =(
Plus, I like the element of surprise. I don’t talk about the details of my wedding much to those other than the lovely brides here on WB.
Post # 11
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292 posts
Helper bee
I made one wedding-related post. It was a picture of all the cakes from our tasting, and the caption said “the sweetest part of wedding planning. :)”
Post # 12
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1709 posts
Bumble bee
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
So far, I have posted a pic of my ring the day I became engaged, there are a couple pics of us as a couple, and a few posts of where I checked in to go dress shopping and that I ordered my dress and such. I like to share my wedding planning but do get worried if some people will comment on something and allude to being invited. But, I did personally contact almost everyone on my guest list to get their addresses for the invites (with the exception of FI’s side where I get them from his mother and sister, since he’s deployed), so I would imagine that people would assume if I had not contacted them for an address, that they wouldn’t be invited….
Post # 13
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Worker bee
i tend to be vague if or when i post anything (i’m not really that much of a sharer) – for example some friends came over to help me make wedding crafts one night, so i made a general post about how i lucky i am to have some of the most generous friends – no one but those involved really know what i meant, but still a way to show appreciation.
i’m also avoiding mentioning things bc not everyone will be invited – i don’t expect people i haven’t spoken too since high school would be offended but perhaps the people i encounter at school/work where i am now. so wedding boards where i think we are free to be wedding crazy, and maybe gmail status bc its a personal account that people who are close to me have.
Post # 14
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1105 posts
Bumble bee
Nothing, I guess once I have pictures those will go up and I will post about parties, etc. But as far as actual wedding details, zilch!
Post # 15
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2818 posts
Sugar bee
I haven’t posted ANYTHING about wedding planning on FB, I keep all wedding information private.
Post # 16
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1709 posts
Bumble bee
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
@clumsylawyer: Yes, if I ever receive a comment asking when they should expect an invitation or something like that, I will definitely message them privately and just say that we are trying to keep guests at a certain maximum in order to stay within our budget (I can’t really use the venue size excuse because they can accomodate a larger number of people, it’s just our budget that I’m worried about). I hope they will understand and if not, there’s really nothing I can do. 🙁
