Post # 1
I wish I could make this “Poll-Only”, but I’m curious.
I was thinking about this the other day. When I was single, I’d typically gift $100 – regardless if I was given a +1 or not, or regardless if I took a date. For really close friends, I’d typically gift more – around $250.
When I would take a date, I’d still gift the same, because I figured the gift was just from me (not my date, since usually my date didn’t know the couple).
Now that I’m married, I’m wondering if my gauge for gifting should chanage. If we both know the couple casually (because it’s inevitable through marriage) do we gift more? (like $100/each).
The reason I ask this is because I was shocked at the way people gifted – there seemed to be no standard (and it was much less than I thought, generally speaking).
Did you find this to be true?
And, have you changed your gifting practices, now that you are married (to give more, not less)?
Post # 3
I’m surprised by the number of people saying they gift the same as a single person as they do as a couple. Fiance and I have always done $100+/person so $200+ from the two of us (the + for friends that either one of us are close to, not necessarily both of us). The way I figured, they are paying for two of us to eat there, not one, and just because one of us doesn’t know the person doesn’t mean we only eat for one. Regardless of whether we were dating or engaged, we always covered for the number of people attending (just him/me or both of us).
Post # 4
I can’t vote because I’m confused by the poll options.
Basically I gift now the same way I did when I was single and bringing a date which was to give an amount that would reflect two quests. So if I was coming alone and would have given $100, I would double it to $200 if I was bringing a date. That practice has not changed now that I’m married.
Post # 5
@lilbluebird: Pretty much the same– there is no difference between when I went with H as my boyfriend and when I go with his as my husband. I do give more when two of us go than if only one can for some reason, which I’ve always done.
Post # 6
We give more now than when we were dating, but a lot/most of that has to do with the fact we’ve both gotten better jobs :).
Post # 7
It depends on how well I know the couple.
Post # 8
I just want to comment on how different the gift amounts are compared to where I live…or maybe its just the people I know? An average gift amount is $50 for weddings around here. Anything more, say $75-$100 is considered generous. We got about $400 from my grandma and that was considered extremely generous. We got a lot of $30-$40 gifts. We were at a brand new venue, amazing food etc…its just how things are around here I guess…
Post # 9
Fiance and I just give $100 to every wedding we go to, no matter who lol….$100 from the both of us.
Post # 10
What I’ve learned from my own wedding is that I have been giving more than a lot of people give! But I give it b/c I love and care about the couple so I will definitely give about the same amount as always.
Post # 11
I just graduated from law school and have $130K plus in loans, and we just moved. So, right now we are still giving the same amount as before we were married. I wouldn’t automatically double that just because we are married, because we were already living together and engaged when we started going to weddings together.
Post # 13
@Bao: Another one here from the Midwest, and our numbers are around the same as yours. Typical is $75 (ish). Anything more is considered pretty generous.
Post # 14
I have always given $100+ for myself. Since I have been with Fiance, we gift double the amount. Now that we are planning our own wedding and have learned the costs per person, we have upped our gift to $300+ for the two of us. I will also add it’s also culture-influenced to cover your plate.
Post # 15
Depends who it is. But if it is just a friend we are not that close too we’d gift $100-150.
Post # 16
$100 per person is standard here no matter if youre married or not, Fiance and I always give $200 ($250 if theyre family or best friends) you have to remember you are paying for your meals plus you want some money left over for the couple on top of that…..