(Closed) How much do you gift for weddings, now that you are married?

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: How much do you gift, now that you are married?
    The same as when I was single and got a +1 : (30 votes)
    52 %
    More than if I was single (double the amount) : (25 votes)
    43 %
    Other : (3 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    3625 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I’m surprised by the number of people saying they gift the same as a single person as they do as a couple. Fiance and I have always done $100+/person so $200+ from the two of us (the + for friends that either one of us are close to, not necessarily both of us). The way I figured, they are paying for two of us to eat there, not one, and just because one of us doesn’t know the person doesn’t mean we only eat for one. Regardless of whether we were dating or engaged, we always covered for the number of people attending (just him/me or both of us).

    Post # 4
    5494 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I can’t vote because I’m confused by the poll options.

    Basically I gift now the same way I did when I was single and bringing a date which was to give an amount that would reflect two quests.  So if I was coming alone and would have given $100, I would double it to $200 if I was bringing a date.  That practice has not changed now that I’m married.  


    Post # 5
    607 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    @lilbluebird:  Pretty much the same– there is no difference between when I went with H as my boyfriend and when I go with his as my husband. I do give more when two of us go than if only one can for some reason, which I’ve always done.

    Post # 6
    6394 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We give more now than when we were dating, but a lot/most of that has to do with the fact we’ve both gotten better jobs :). 

    Post # 7
    3451 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    It depends on how well I know the couple.

    Post # 8
    1128 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I just want to comment on how different the gift amounts are compared to where I live…or maybe its just the people I know? An average gift amount is $50 for weddings around here. Anything more, say $75-$100 is considered generous. We got about $400 from my grandma and that was considered extremely generous. We got a lot of $30-$40 gifts. We were at a brand new venue, amazing food etc…its just how things are around here I guess…

    Post # 9
    747 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Fiance and I just give $100 to every wedding we go to, no matter who lol….$100 from the both of us.


    Post # 10
    542 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    What I’ve learned from my own wedding is that I have been giving more than a lot of people give! But I give it b/c I love and care about the couple so I will definitely give about the same amount as always.

    Post # 11
    1351 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I just graduated from law school and have $130K plus in loans, and we just moved. So, right now we are still giving the same amount as before we were married.  I wouldn’t automatically double that just because we are married, because we were already living together and engaged when we started going to weddings together.

    Post # 12
    7901 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    @Meowkers:  me too

    Post # 13
    1623 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    @Bao:  Another one here from the Midwest, and our numbers are around the same as yours.  Typical is $75 (ish).  Anything more is considered pretty generous.

    Post # 14
    189 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I have always given $100+ for myself. Since I have been with Fiance, we gift double the amount. Now that we are planning our own wedding and have learned the costs per person, we have upped our gift to $300+ for the two of us. I will also add it’s also culture-influenced to cover your plate.

    Post # 15
    1572 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Depends who it is. But if it is just a friend we are not that close too we’d gift $100-150.

    Post # 16
    429 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    $100 per person is standard here no matter if youre married or not, Fiance and I always give $200 ($250 if theyre family or best friends) you have to remember you are paying for your meals plus you want some money left over for the couple on top of that…..

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