Post # 1
When you go to a wedding, how much money do you give the couple?
I was always taught to give based on how close we are, so at least $50, but $150 or so for a close relative. Around a week ago I made a post and commented that I always try to cover the cost of my food. If I go to a black tie wedding where it likely cost $100/plate, I give at least $100 per person.
I never knew that everyone has such varying opinions on giving! A lot of bees seemed to be upset that this is what I was taught.
What were you taught about wedding giving? How do you decide how much to give?
*Edit: It might be helpful to explain where you live too! I live in a pretty poor region, so the cost of living is very low. Expecially compared to major cities.
Post # 3
Usually we give $200…..$300 if it’s a family member… and $100 if we have to stay at a hotel and travel far.
Post # 5
Same, my parents always gave atleast $50. And so do I, unless weare closer then I give more, but no more then $100. I dont live in a rich area, so the weddings here arent so expensive.
Post # 4
I was a bridesmaid in my friends wedding and we gave $100 only because we spent easily over $1000 on the bride’s desired bachelorette party weekend, our dresses (shutter) shoes, hair, etc. etc. etc.
Post # 6
Depends on our relationship to the couple. Sometimes I’ll buy a registry gift if I know it’s something they really want. It also depends on our current finances and if there are other expenses entailed in attending the wedding. Usually around $200 though.
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza
It depends on our relationship, but usually around $150-$200 (which is not an option on your poll!).
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
It depends. For a regular friend, cousin, etc, we’ll give $100 either in cash or have a registry gift sent to them. For a really close friend, we’ll give something in the $200 range. But that will also depend on how much we spent on the shower and shower gift as well. Like one friend’s shower cost me a lot of money, so we stayed at $200 for the wedding gift. But another good friend’s shower was paid for by her family, so I was able to spend more on her gift.
Post # 9
$50-$100 per person depending on how close I am to the couple and if I gifted for the wedding shower or not. That’s a pretty typical wedding gift around here, I feel.
Post # 10
@Mrs. Coyote: Oops! Which option should I add?
Post # 11
We were just at a wedding a few weeks ago for a guy that Fiance is friendly with, but would probably not hang out with on a regular basis. I think the real reason we were invited was because this guy had been renting FI’s basement apartment for 2 years before he got married.
Anyway, we gave them $150 and the guy thought he had just won the lottery! This didn’t seem unreasonable or over the top to me, but apparently, it was huge!
Post # 12
It depends how close we are to them but i usually give $200 being under the assumption that we will each cost them $100 in food and drink.
Post # 13
We give $200 for the both of us.
Post # 14
I’m in school and money is tight, so we usually give a registry gift.
Post # 15
@Mrs. Coyote: Me too, usually $150-200, so I couldn’t vote!
Post # 16
I voted a money amount but in this stage in my life I would get them something off their registry. When my husband and I are older and more financially stable I’m sure we’ll cut checks for gifts instead. Personally, as a bride myself, I got almost everything I needed off my registry and got a fair amount in checks. Neither one was considered better to get than the others.