(Closed) How much do you sacrifice for your husband

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I kind of think moving to Savannah for a better job is best for you personally as well as you as a couple. You get the satisfaction of having a good job once you graduate doing something you like in your field, and having a real job vs. a McJob will enable you to contribute more to the household. Once your FH graduates he can move to Savannah where you will already  be established. I say go to Savannah! It’s only an hour; surely you could see each other on weekends and some weeknights, or meet halfway for dinner?

(BTW are you graduating from Georgia Southern? Not to be creepy, but I did and it sounds like that could be your school!)

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I spend six straight months a year, every year, alone so he can have his dream job. 

 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I would say take a job in Savannah…Could you both move somewhere in between so you have an equally icky commute (him to school, you to work)?  I commute to graduate school 45 minutes each way.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

1 hour is nothing!! I spend over an hour in traffic everyday! It’s definately better for both of you to go for a job…financially and emotionally. If you stay, you’ll resent him, your job and yourself.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

OMG, one hour away? That’s it? Commute for a year. Or let him commute for a year. Or live in between. Don’t derail your career before it even starts over an hour drive. 🙁

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011 - The Providence Biltmore

I agree.  Go to Savannah and establish yourself.  Zeb and I went to colleges an hour away from each other and we saw each other on Wednesdays and weekends.  We alternated the travel. It makes being together that much…. ummmm… how do you say it…. exciting.  ;0)

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I did a 3 hour daily commute to my job to stay with my Fiance while I was searching for a new job.  I did the 3 hour daily commute for 8 months.  Talk about a sacrafice!  I was tired allllllll the time.  He definitely appreciated it though and still comments about it.

Post # 10
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Helper bee

I agree with others!  An hour commute is not that bad.  I commute 45 mins, it was annoying at first but now it’s kind of relaxing.  45 mins to think about nothing but driving!  I think moving in between is a perfect compromise.  Neither of you needs to sacrifice!

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We moved in with my husbands parents which was a 45 minute commute and that was tough (leaving by 7, not coming home till after 7) so we didn’t have a lot of time to spend together.  However, it was totally worth it because we saved up a good chunk of money to save as a down payment. 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee

take the savannah job!! 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@MadameLady:

LOLOLOL. Small world. I was just back in town a couple weekends ago for the FAIR!

Also, if you add it up and think the gas money would be doable, an hour commute each way wouldn’t really be that bad and you could still move in together. When my Fiance and I lived in Austin, we commuted into the city each day for work. Without traffic it was only about 20ish minutes away but with traffic, everyday was an hour commute each way. The good thing about going from the Boro to Savannah is there is no traffic on I-16, and an hour commute isn’t TOO terrible. Something to consider.

But in the vein of your original question, I gave up a job I LOVED in Austin when we had to move to Florida for FI’s job. It paid about $40,000 more a year than his job in Texas and gave me the chance to be able to stay home with our baby, so I did it, but I hated and still hate that I had to leave that job. 

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I have to disagree and say you should NOT sacrifice anything right now. You’re just starting your career, and you don’t want to put a void on your resume for a year. Employers will ask you why and your reasoning won’t necessarily fly with them. You should move to Savannah and visit him/your family on the weekends. Commuting is a big commitment (and that’s coming from someone who lives in L.A.!) Hope that helps and good luck with your job search! 🙂

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