How much do you socialise with work colleagues?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Socialising with work colleagues outside of work?

    All the time (weekends, after work etc)

    Occasionally (like work related events, Xmas parties etc)

    Never

  • Post # 2
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    532 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    I used to see a couple of colleagues regularly outside of work, as in catching up on weekends and after work. One has now left, and the other has put me in an extremely awkward position at work due to her negligence, and I just can’t bring myself to want to socialise much with her anymore. I’m pretty sad about it to be honest!

    Post # 3
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    10 posts
    Newbee

    It’s a tough situation. When I first started in the work force I was more than happy to be open and honest with people and be friends. Sadly over the past few years it’s been more difficult. Not only have I left and started new ones but it’s difficult to know who you can and can not trust. Luckily I have met great individuals I still meet with and can honestly call them my friends. Those that were simply “work friends/acquaintances” are no longer in my life but that’s OK.

    Post # 4
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    My company definitely has a culture of colleagues socializing frequently. I voted “occasionally” in the poll because relative to my colleagues I engage much less, but I realize now that compared to ‘normal’ I still socialize outside of work on my own accord very frequently (i.e. like every weekend that I’m not traveling…and that’s not including work-organized events)

    I’d say the vast majority of my friend group are work colleagues, but given that I knew nobody when moving to the city and my job is long hours and lots of travel, it makes sense that it’s work colleages that I end up making plans with! Some colleagues who grew up nearby have non-work friends but even they still hang out with colleagues quite a lot in their spare time.

    Even before this job I socialised a lot with my colleagues. DH on the other hand almost NEVER socializes — he really likes his colleagues but has hard and fast “work/private life” lines.

    Post # 5
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    6349 posts
    Bee Keeper

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    panda87 :  I prefer to keep my personal and professional lives separate. So I will attend work functions, but that’s it. I just think sometimes it can blur the lines. 

    I have a handful of colleagues on Facebook, but it’s a few select individuals, and I don’t post very often (and am careful what I post when I do: absolutely nothing work-related, nothing political, etc) 

    Post # 6
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    2171 posts
    Buzzing bee

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    barbie86 :  This is me as well. 

    I have been forced to separate my work life & personal as I’ve been a manager at two different jobs. I have learned the hard way that being friends outside of work can absolutely blur the lines at work. 

    Post # 7
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    1744 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    Now? Only at work or work events. But I’ve also made quite a few friends from work. My prior job, I made 6 friends and we hang out often still. 2 of my bridesmaids are people I met at work. 

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    Other than my 5 colleagues there aren’t too many other foreigners in my town so we hang out sometimes outside of work. Probably I hang out with one or another once a week on average  But it’s an unusual environment to live in so things are different. 

    Post # 9
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    1579 posts
    Bumble bee

    I don’t trust any of my work collegues any further than I can drop kick them.  The office environment is very competative (caused by the head of the division) and people are constantly trying to get others in trouble over things that are said, no matter how innocous.  

    I only deal with them during the occasional team building or work party.

    Post # 10
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    1037 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    Never. I may have in the past, but now I have a long commute and I’d rather get home to my toddler.

    Post # 11
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    840 posts
    Busy bee

    I try to be pleasant since its nice to be nice… In general I keep my work life separate from my personal life… I’m in a satellite office and the only employee based out of it… I get assigned an assistant for field work on a job by job basis… I’m a bit isolated which suits me perfectly… I never attend work functions since my office is 3 hours from the main office.

    Post # 12
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    466 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2018

    Out of about 20 people in my department, I only have 3 close girlfriends I actually make plans with outside of work and talk to almost daily. Other than that we try and do a Christmas party with everyone outside of work.

    Post # 13
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    9425 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    before i got married i socialized a lot more with my coworkers.  i also lived closer to where some of them lived.

    now with marriage and kids and moves, i don’t socialize with them as much.

     

    Post # 14
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    1293 posts
    Bumble bee

    I voted occasionally, but it’s probably somewhere between that and all the time simply because we’re a busy bunch and it can be tricky to arrange times to get together.

    Post # 15
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    2355 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I’m a teacher, so maybe its different? I dunno, but yes I do go out with my work buddies. Some were invited to my wedding. We do book club, go out to dinner etc. etc.  Not saying that you shouldn’t be careful of who you befriend in the workplace…because you should…and that doesnt mean I tell them EVERYTHING, because I don’t. Some mystery is good. But in my case I feel like we need each other because the world seems to hate us, we are understaffed, over worked and no one really gets us. We also work in a high poverty  school and there are just some days I need to lean on someone who has had the same kids in their classes because they understand. 

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