(Closed) How much do you spend/give on a wedding gift?

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: How much do you spend/give as a wedding gift. (Per Couple for a formal wedding to a friend)
    Card Only : (0 votes)
    50 Dollars : (18 votes)
    23 %
    100 Dollars : (24 votes)
    30 %
    150 Dollars : (7 votes)
    9 %
    200 Dollars : (16 votes)
    20 %
    250 Dollars : (5 votes)
    6 %
    300 Dollars : (6 votes)
    8 %
    350 Dollars : (0 votes)
    400 Dollars : (2 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    4824 posts
    Honey bee

    Too widely varied to respond. Is it a friend? Sibling? D

    Destination wedding? Are we in it? What kind of wedding is it. Backyard vs. formal. What kind of income do they make? (wouldn’t want to make them uncomfortable with giving too much) 

     Edit- we come from a cash gift region. I do a present only for showers or if I can’t attend in grneral

    Post # 3
    4824 posts
    Honey bee


    Post # 4
    1429 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    IDK I said $50 but if it was a close friend of family member much more like $100 to $200.

    You say your wedding was an eye opener. How much was the average spent on you?


    Edit~ YIKES By reading everyone’s posts I am waaay under what should be spent. Granted I haven’t been to a wedding in 15 years and that was a Vegas quickie wedding. 

    I’m sure I certainly would spend much more. I usually spend waaaaaay more than I should!

    Post # 5
    2815 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    It really depends.  We recently went to a wedding that cost us well over $500 to attend.  I’m not working and we really don’t have the money to spend, so we just got them a card.  Otherwise, we would pick something we liked off the registry (this couple didn’t register and won’t live together for quite some time).

    Post # 7
    2815 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    @bobsoon2bewife9887:  What exactly do you mean we don’t spend/give as much as we should?  Who is “we”?  You and your DH?  Otherwise, no one should feel obligated to spend any amount.  A gift is kind of a perk, not a requirement.

    Post # 8
    10287 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    A friend who we’re not paricularly close to would get $50-$75 per person attending. So if Darling Husband and I both attend, we’ll gift $100-$150. A close friend will more than likely get $100 for each person attending (so, $200) and a close family member will be closer to $150 ($300). Though this also depends on how much in total we have to spend on the wedding (i.e. if we were in the Bridal Party or involved in another way that would cost money). 

    Post # 10
    611 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I’d say $100 per person for close friends (in our circle, it’s typical to invite only close friends cause most people want to keep their weddings <200 people); $150 for family.

    Post # 11
    2114 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    If it is a friend, we are guests , and it is a formal wedding we give $400 for both of us. $100 to cover our plate (ish) and $100 as a gift from each of us. 

    Post # 12
    4824 posts
    Honey bee

    In part it depends on what they may have given us. 

    For really close friends we do a great basket of wines from near us for their anniversaries with maybe glasses from their registry.

    Others it would range from 200-400 plus the cost of travel since we live on the west coast and most of them live on the east. For showers I spend between 75 and 175 and try to get discounts and sales. Again depends on what circle of friends. You don’t want to ‘that’ person that gives too much and looks showy.

    Post # 13
    2195 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Well, last year when we went to 9 weddings, we were both really poor. I was in school and hubs was struggling to make bills. We mostly bought actual gifts that we could find for cheaper, rather than a check. I usually spent <100. Now that we’re both employed and doing much better, I’d say at least $100. At our wedding, we got anywhere from $50-$1000 from guests, but I’d say $200 was average.

    Post # 14
    80 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    My rule of thumb is $100 per person invited (so usually $200 for my fiance and me).  I always give $300+ (total) for close friends or family.

    Post # 15
    4354 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    $100-$150 per person for FH and I.

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