- 3 months ago
- Wedding: October 2015
It really depends, but I’m probably spending zero to $50 for wedding gifts if I am not attending the wedding (and frankly, I am still not gungho to be attending any weddings right now, local or otherwise). DH and I are down to a single income and we just had a baby, so we do not have the budget for “extras” that do not benefit us, which is what I would categorize a wedding gift. However, there are always mitigating facotrs that go into this sort of thing for me. For example:
Did you attend my wedding? If so, how much/what did you gift? If not, how much/what did you gift? (And yes, I still have all of my wedding spreadsheets nearly six years later and yes, my petty ass will keep score.)
How close are we? Do we talk regularly or are you my mom’s cousin’s son who I haven’t physically spoken to since high school?
My very best friend in the entire world is getting married next fall. We are planning to TTC in January due to infertility issues in the past and are aware we may be pregnnat by the time her wedding rolls around. I plan on attending hell or high water, but for some reason, if I couldn’t, I’d gift around $300 because this is my absolute best friend. On the reverse, DH’s aunt just got married and we couldn’t attend and we sent $0. It was not in our budget this month and it was a destination wedding with all of his unvaccinated family members, so I don’t personally feel like they sent the invitation honestly thinking we’d attend.