How much do you spend on wedding gifts for friends?

posted 3 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: How much do you spend on wedding gifts for friends?

    Less than $100






    Try to estimate the per plate and spend that

    Spend what they spent on your wedding gift

    Don't buy wedding gifts

  • Post # 16
    338 posts
    Helper bee

    I’m in the chicago area and my friends tend to give $150-$200 per couple for weddings

    Post # 18
    1963 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    What I can afford. If that means I can only give $20 gift, that’s what it is. I’m not going to break my budget because of a marriage. Sorry. 

    Post # 19
    1009 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    It varies a lot depending on how close I am to the person, whether I have to travel for the wedding, and my current financial situation. I guess it averages about £40. The max I’ve given is £110.

    It’s been interesting watching people buy from our registry. People are obviously reluctant to buy “boring” items, or any that comprise group contributions for a big ticket item, even though those are often what we need and want the most! One close friend gifted over £100, which I thought very very generous. 

    Also, we have a friend of my parents coming from Germany. I hardly know them but they gifted £200. My parents and I were flabbergasted. Maybe it’s more common to give more in Germany?

    Post # 20
    600 posts
    Busy bee

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    goldenbrown :  I definitely get the urge to go tit-for-tat and not give them a gift, especially if their registry comes off as greedy. I would say rise above it and give them a gift you can comfortably afford. If you can’t afford or don’t want to buy a gift from the registry, I would give cash or a gift card to a store they are registered at for the amount you would normally give another friend.

    Post # 22
    410 posts
    Helper bee

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    goldenbrown :  You can give a gift card to where shes registered if you cant afford or dont want to pay for the high priced items on the registry.

    Thank goodness I live in area with a low cost of living or I probably wouldnt be able to attend weddings. I have traveled to some NY/DC/Boston weddings and gave 100 as a couple and thought that was good (honestly thats considered a very good gift where Im from). People probably think Im cheap haha.  I also dont feel you have to compensate for someone having a fancy wedding or because someone lives in an expensive area (the hotel block for this DC wedding Im in is 300 a night!)

    Post # 23
    156 posts
    Blushing bee

    I think $100 per guest is around the minimum that is polite. 


    Edit: I feel like I should add, that although I personally would save up so I could afford this once I receive an invite. I do know that sometimes you just can’t afford it, and then it is what it is.

    Post # 24
    6457 posts
    Bee Keeper

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    goldenbrown :  for a close friend around £100 pp. It depends though eg I was bridesmaid for a friend in Australia and because the travel costs were so high (plus I had some other costs like hen party decorations) I spend a little less, I think about £150 between two of us.

    Post # 25
    699 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2019

    We usually do between $250 & $300 deoending on how close we are to the couple and on the venue/wedding

    Post # 26
    123 posts
    Blushing bee

    Wow I guess I am cheap … I have been giving $100 for me and boyfriend, and even bought gifts for less than that for two friends who had informal weddings.  But they have all been out of town where we were already spending $1000 or so on airfare and hotels.  

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