(Closed) How much do you tell in-laws about TTC process?

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We actually never told anyone we were TTC. 

Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We tried for a full two years, including fertility treatments, and only told our family we were TTC when we were about to move onto IVF. Even at that point, no one asked us anything specific about anything. Only listened to whatever we were willing to share. I would have been suupppperrr uncomfortable with those questions and personally would have been really mad at my husband for making that comment to his father in the first place. Had you two previously discussed that it was alright to share with other people that you were TTC? We always felt that telling people we were trying would put too much pressure on us. I’m so glad we didn’t share initially, because it would have made things much harder for us.

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I would feel so awkward if that happened to me! We aren’t telling either sides anything. I told my Mom it would be happening in the near future, but that’s about it. When I’m pregnant then everyone will find out.

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

We’ll be TTC next year and won’t be telling anyone about it. When we announce I’m pregnant, that’s the first thing anyone will know anything. I’m really close my mom and I won’t even tell her when we TTC.

Post # 20
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

epon10642 :  Absolutley nothing whatsoever (including that we were even trying) is what they were told.

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

We will not be telling in-laws, parents, or anyone, anything. I think you just need to sit down with Darling Husband and explain how it made you feel, and your wishes to keep TTC things private should absolutely be respected. 

Post # 22
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I wouldn’t tell them a damn thing until 12 weeks (or later) — but I have a challenging relationship with my inlaws.

Post # 23
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

If they didn’t know you were TTC, they wouldn’t be asking, which is why I never felt the need to tell anyone we were having unprotected sex. If we had had trouble and went for treatements, then I probably would have shared that with my mum, but otherwise, I just felt uncomfortable announcing that we would be BDing to other people. I didn’t think anyone needed to know until we were actually pregnant.

Post # 24
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

Father-In-Law, DH’s Godmother, Brother-In-Law and SIL (who are the closest to us)were aware that we were TTC but didn’t know the dirty details…the rest of DH’s family knew that we WANTED kids, but were unsure of our timeline.

Post # 25
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Bumble bee

epon10642 :  I only did once we went through our MC before then they didn’t know anything 

Post # 26
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Busy bee

omg your FIL! at least he realized after he crossed the line – even if it came from a good place.

i’ve only mentioned to MIL/SIL that we “want a family soon”. DH’s family (and Darling Husband, for that matter) are really private, don’t ask questions, and don’t get excited about things. i have no clue how they’d respond if we said “we’re trying”

my mom and i are open books – she knows when i’m ovulating! which has made me a little weird because i’m like ew she knows when i’m having sex..haha. i told her we would want to keep TTC private and she was almost offended when i said we’d wait to tell people until the “safe” mark of 3 months, if god willing, we get pregnant. she said i better call her after peeing on the stick lol.

 

Post # 28
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I don’t even want to tell ILs when we plan to start! They’re well meaning, but who knows how long it could take? My Future Mother-In-Law would end up buying baby stuff before we even conceive knowing her lol. 

But sex timing? Oh heck no.

Post # 29
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

epon10642 :  They didn’t know a thing until we told them I was pregnant at 8 weeks. We didn’t feel it was anyone’s business and didn’t need the pressure. 

Post # 30
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Buzzing bee

My inlaws will know at 12 weeks when we tell them I’m pregnant 

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