(Closed) How much do you tell in-laws about TTC process?

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 31
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3902 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

Well we have decided to TTC right after the wedding… our family knows about it, Fiance will be 40 and me 32… they all know we want kids like yesterday or 5 years ago lol onviously I will not be sharing details, OPKs, POAS… we’ll tell my parents and sibling and his parents and sibling as soon as we know and the rest will have to wait till 12 week or so. 

Post # 32
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3729 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

epon10642 :  I told them when I heard a heartbeat.  We were open we wanted kids and I didn’t announce until there was something to announce. 

Post # 33
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5889 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

practically no one knew we were TTC.  last thing i wanted was constant questions like “ARE YOU PREGNANT YET?”

Post # 34
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6431 posts
Bee Keeper

epon10642 :  We didn’t tell anyone we were TTC for the first or for the second (I ended up miscarrying). I don’t really want people to know my business in that.

Post # 35
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1601 posts
Bumble bee

We did not tell my in laws we were TTC. My Mother-In-Law occasionally drives me to my appointments and she knows I have women’s issues, but I just keep the information general. When the time came for IVF we definetely did not say a word because my in laws would have offered to pay for it and we didn’t want that. 

Post # 36
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287 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I don’t see why there would be any good reason to keep someone updated on the process of you and your husband having frequent/well-timed unprotected sex to conceive a child. Sorry if that’s blunt but seriously, no one else is entitled to know until you are pregnant and ready to share at however many weeks you are comfortable with!

Post # 37
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8671 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

epon10642 :  the only update they’ve gotten is that we’ve started IVF. And that was only because they were getting mad at us for being wishy-washy about upcoming plans (we don’t know when our retrieval, etc will be yet so we can’t commit to anything for basically this entire month). 

Post # 38
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2166 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We told them absolutely nothing. We didn’t tell anyone that we were trying because I didn’t want answer questions. 

Post # 39
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422 posts
Helper bee

Everything. We waited a while to even start trying, and then after we’d been trying for a year and found we’d need fertility treatment, I finally told her it wasn’t for lack of wanting or trying, we just needed a lot of medical help to get there. Two years later when we underwent IVF, we were living with them due to selling our out-of-state home, so they had a front-row seat to the process. It would have been really difficult to hide the 2-3 weekly doctor appts we had to go to.

Post # 40
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

We told them nothing.  Nor my parents either.  My in-laws only asked me if we plan to have kids or no and said that of course they hoped we do.  Anyone outside of me and my husband got pregnancy announcement only.  I didn’t want the added pressure.  TTC stressful enough as it is.  It’s not like people asking questions will actively help you conceive!

I can’t imagine telling them when we had sex….???!  That’s great that your SIL was comfortable with it but you’re not, so your Father-In-Law should not be expecting you to be.  

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