(Closed) How much do you tell your SO (esp spouse) about your family drama?

posted 5 years ago in Married Life
Post # 46
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

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breatheandrelax:  I tell him everything. And by everything I mean he knows every little detail even if he doesn’t want to hear about it since I can really prattle on – but I’ve also let him form his own judgement over time.

It’s comforting for me because he’s a great sounding board when sh*t hits the fan, he knows when to pull me back from the edge and when stuff really gets messy – he always reminds me that he’s my family now. That, to me, is priceless. 

Post # 47
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Newbee

my SO does not know a lot of my “family drama”,and i like to keep it that way. it hurts too much for me to talk about it and i don’t want to remember lot of stuff, so i just told him,that things happenend and i do not want to talk about them. it doesn’t mean that i should not marry him or that i do not trust him .(in my opinion)

Post # 48
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I tell my husband everything about my family. He has never met one of my sisters but he has heard enough from my other sister and my mom to know that my reasons for not inviting her to our wedding were very valid. He finally did see another one of my sisters in action a week ago. I had not invited her either and my sister and I call her “Mean”. She caused a whole scene at my grandmother’s birthday then stormed out and later sent me and my husband messages saying that I was a horrible person and I had been mean to her and upset her.She told him that he should get out now and marrying me was a mistake. The thing is, I said maybe 10 words to her the entire time and was never alone with her. My other sister or my husband were with me the whole time and there is no way I said anything even remotely mean to her (I wouldn’t anyway). 

When he got that message he just deleted it, blocked her and told me he loved me. I was upset about her for a few days and he was very supportive. He gets along really well with my one sister and my parents and that’s what matters because they are the ones that I am close to.

I think it’s important for him to know some of this stuff because he can support me, I know some of his family drama and I also support him. 

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