Post # 1
How much do you usually spend on a gift, per person, when you attend a wedding? My FI and I generally give $100 when both of us attend. I am a bit surprised that many of the gifts we have received average less than $25 a person (for example, $95 from family of 4, $35 from couple) Am I just clueless when it comes to gifts?
(I am very thankful for any gifts we get. I understand they are completely optional and it is completely up to the giver to give whatever they desire. I appreciate the gifts we have received – this is just out of curiosity!)
Post # 3
I generally give $50 per person attending. Unless it is someone we are very close to (and in the wedding party), then we give $150 per person.
Post # 5
I will admit that if anyone gives us a $10-$25 gift, I will be pretty dissapointed. We are having a black tie wedding and spending $250+ per head.
Post # 6
Depends on the couple, but generally, Fiance and I will give gifts of $100-$150 from the both of us.
Your wedding is still quite a while from now, perhaps the people who have given you gifts mean them as engagement gifts? Have you already registered?
Edit: Oh, nevermind I must have read your wedding date wrong… could have sworn it said Sept 2011!
Post # 7
We usually give gifts of about $100 regardless of whether one or both of us attended the wedding.
Post # 8
Oh it depends on lots of things including geographic location, financial status, and honestly family size. I usually give $100 regardless if I go alone or with the Fiance. My sister gives $50 for her family of four, but that is all she can afford to give. When I was 18-21 I gave $20 because I was a broke college student.
My friend just told me when she got married, all her New York friends cut checks for $500-$800, since that is apparently what people from New York do. She invited 5 of her NY friends and they gave 15% of the cash gifts. I was shocked to find that out, but apparently that is just the culture.
I would probably give $150 if we had kids and they attended.
Post # 9
We give $100, whether we attend or not. If they are very close friends, we might give more like $150.
Post # 10
I’m currently a broker than broke college student and give about $40.
Post # 11
Typically – if I go alone $50, as a couple $100. If it’s someone we are very close with probably closer to $100 each?? I understand you should be happy with any gift you receive but there are certain monetary gifts that are a little shocking to say the least.
Post # 12
Usually between $150 and $200 if we both attend, $100 if it is just one of us. We are doing well now. Travel costs and budget can be significant, though, in choosing a gift.
Post # 13
Around $100 but more if I’m very close with the couple. I prefer to buy off the registry and don’t do cash/checks unless the registry has been picked clean already.
Post # 14
Maybe I’m off-base here, but I should think people give what they can afford. If they can afford a $25 gift, I totally honor that. Why should someone add to their debt to get a “nice” gift. Everyone’s idea of a suitabley priced gift is different as we can see by the poll. I’ve also heard that some people think that you should give a gift of equal value as to the cost of your “plate.” That is just plain crazy! Is the value of friendship and good wishes tied to the dollar value of the gift? I think not.
Post # 15
When my Fiance and I are invited to a wedding, we typically spend around $100 as a couple (so about $50 a person) on a gift. Obviously this varies slightly depending on how close we are to the couple, other financial factors at the time, the availability of gifts on their registry at different prices, etc so I’d give it a range of $75-$125 from Fiance and I.
Post # 16
We give $200 and will give $300 if we are really close with the couple and $500 if it’s a sibling. Things are really expensie in Boston so that may be why people tend to give a little more. For a shower I tend to give a give between $50-$100 and I just had my shower and that is what the majority of the people gave.