Post # 32
I think it really depends on how formal the affair is, and what kind of gifts that you are looking into. If they are on the expensive end, then it is common for people to combine and go in together on some gifts. I think anywhere from about 40 and up is good, so I went with the middle range. And honestly, even though you might be paying for an extravagant affair, it really depends on what people can afford. I say any wedding gift is a blessing in its own right, and will be extremely helpful.
Post # 33
There are a lot of factors that play a part (especially closeness to the couple), but we usually give a gift worth $100-$125.
Post # 34
I usually do $75-100 per person. I’m still in school, so I’m definitely limited to that. I know my parents give around $100-150 for each of them.
Post # 35
I always give a gift from the registry. Where I live, giving cash is really not done. I would choose a gift ranging from $40 to $125 depending on the situation. On my registry, I have many $5 and $10 items so everyone who wants to give a gift feels comfortable doing so.
Honestly, it really bothers me to hear someone ever complain that a gift was not enough.
Post # 36
I think that my answer is going to change now that I am out of school and have a job… but I’ve only been to one wedding since I’ve really been “out.” My standard used to be $50 whether I was attending alone or not. Now I think it’ll be a bit dependent on who it is and how far I have to travel. For example, my Fiance and I are probably going to VA for my cousin’s wedding, and I’ll probably give $50. We’re driving 7 hours and paying for a hotel, so I feel like we’re already spending a lot of money. However if they were getting married here I’d prob do $100. Also, if it was a really good friend of mine I’d probably do more, like maybe $200ish.
Post # 37
It depends on the couple. Money is pretty tight right now, so I’m usually in the $50 range.
Post # 38
i think it is regional. i live in nyc, and cash is always given–NEVER gifts…especially if the couple already lives together. My Fiance and I have been to lots of weddings..we give at least 200–if not more…we always looked at it as “covering our plates”
Post # 39
I grew up in NorCal and am now getting married here and it seems the average for a couple is about $100. But my friend who got married in NY says their most common cash gift amount was $500 by almost everyone.
Post # 40
It depends on the person getting married, but usually I give about $30 for a shower gift and $70 for a wedding gift if I attend. Maybe I will spend more once we have more money.
Post # 41
In my culture (Portuguese) we always give cash instead of gifts and its normally $100-$150 per person depending on how close I am to them regardless if I attend the wedding reception or not.
Post # 42
We’ll usually spend or give around $100 as a couple.
Post # 43
Personally, I tend to give a gift around $75 ($150 since I got engaged), unless it’s someone I’m really close to (like a sibling), and even if I can’t attend.
If it’s someone I really don’t feel close to (I’ve gotten a couple of out of the blue invites from old friends) and I’m not attending, I’ll give a $30-50 gift.
Post # 44
I’m definitely in that boat with you – I don’t generally consider myself a materialistic or greedy person, but I am SHOCKED by how – no other way to put it but – CHEAP a lot of our guests have been. My bff’s parents, who own FOUR private homes across the country (beach house, 2 ski houses etc) have 2 cars each (one of which is a Viper – who really even owns those things??) are a lawyer & doctor couple gave us a $40 serving set from our registry. My parents, an electrician & stay-at-home mom, gave this friend $200 for her wedding last yr because they’ve known her for so long. I’m so annoyed over their gift, I want my parents money back (haha)!! For her shower, my mom spent about $80 and I, as Maid/Matron of Honor spent $50 on the joint gift from the bridesmaids plus another $200 to throw the shower. This friend & her mom together gave me a $30 set of glasses for my shower last week (and my bff didn’t have to contribute to the shower at all since FI’s aunt threw it – in lieu of a gift, btw). WTF? I know it’s not a tit for tat thing, and I hate myself for feeling this way…but I DO, I can’t help it.
Anyway, to answer the question, I always give somewhere between $100-$150 for the wedding whether I bring a date or not, and I’m totally getting the idea that I’ve been WAY TOO GENEROUS over the years=(
Post # 45
I usually do between 60-100 $ as couple.
Can i just add that someone wne in with another girl for my shower and bought me a 25.00 iron…:p
Post # 46
I give minimum $250 per couple. I don’t know about other people where I live but we always cover the plate at a minimum, and the plates are not cheap around here. For family or really really close friends I’ve given up to $500 for the both of us. Both my Fiance and I in our cultures only give money for weddings.