(Closed) How much do you usually spend on a wedding gift?

posted 10 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: How much do you spend on a gift when you attend a wedding?
    $0-25 per person attending : (13 votes)
    6 %
    $25-50 per person attending : (83 votes)
    39 %
    $50+ per person attending : (105 votes)
    49 %
    Other : (14 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 47
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    @marlew

    Would you like to come to my wedding as a guest 🙂

    Post # 48
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    995 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    We give $200 and that’s pretty standard around here. The different price ranges really surprise me.

    Post # 49
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    4485 posts
    Honey bee

    I’ve never heard of a price per person for a wedding gift, or any other occasion. I don’t know anyone else who has either. The price range depends on what the guest can afford. While I have heard that people who are closer to the couple will give a more expensive/extravagant gift, I have never seen or heard of that in real life. That said, the standard price range I have seen and personally used is $25, and slightly more if I can afford it at the time. Anything more expensive ($100+), people will go together on rather than giving individually. But again, it depends on the guest and their circumstances since everyone is different.

    Post # 50
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    1509 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    We spend $200 on friends and $300 on family members.

    Post # 51
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We give around $100 from the both of us.  Although now that I am planning a wedding and know how much it costs per person I should prob give more!  I also think it depends on who the couple is and what type of wedding it is. 

     

    *My one friend usually looks up how much it costs per person for the guests to attend the wedding and they give that amount!  I kinda like this idea because you should at least make a dent in the price the couple paid for you to be at their wedding!  It gets really expensive!!

    Post # 52
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    Honey bee

    Unless the guest in question is paying the bills for the wedding, there is no way they will have any clue what the per person price is. Even then, it is none of their business to ask, nor is it right for the couple or parents to hint as to what the price is. A guest should give what they can afford without going into debt and leave it at that. A wedding is not a fundraiser to see how much money the couple can make after the fact. You don’t do that for any other event and a wedding is no different.

    Post # 53
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    2702 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    we give at minimum $100 as a couple, $200 to close friends.

    Post # 54
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    I’d say we shoot around $100.

    Post # 55
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    Wow.  I thought a lot of our guests were cheap, but now even more so.  Most of our guests spent $25/person. Some of them are having financial troubles, but most aren’t.  I still can’t believe how many people didn’t even give gifts or a card.

    Post # 56
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    4485 posts
    Honey bee

    Gifts are never required in the first place. Cards are optional as well. Not giving either is not rude, especially if someone is having financial problems. Showing their support by attending (or sending well wishes in any manner if they can’t) is all that is required. Every single person has a different situation and should not be judged as a whole on what they can or cannot afford just because it doesn’t match what someone else thinks is proper.

    Post # 57
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    257 posts
    Helper bee

    so what is so wrong with getting an iron if you put it on your registry?  I never new people gave according to how many people were attending either. This is news to me..  For those that give $150 up and so forth, please email me your address so I can invite you to my wedding… lol

    Post # 58
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    Buzzing bee

    I was always told to cover the cost of my plate. I usually assume that most weddings I’ve been to cost about $75-125 per person so I usually give $100-125 per person. 

    My fiance thinks this is too much but I pay it for my friends/family. We went to his friends’ wedding (which was VERY small) and he bought the gift, which cost only $50. 

    Post # 59
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Minimum I would give $100

    Post # 60
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    depends on the couple. I used to give about $100 if it was just me (esp knowing that I already bought something $70-$80 for the shower). Now Fiance and I spend anywhere from  $150-$250 usually. My cousins who we are very close to got married and we gave them $250. I felt like I wanted to give them more but they had and engagement party that I got them an $80 gift for, a shower that I got an $80 gift for, and I went on a 3 night bachelorette party to Miami, so I felt I did my part. 🙂

    I just went to a wedding of a friend’s aunt who i had only met once. The wedding was here in NJ but my friend lives in Indy. Her aunt had a minimum that she found she was not hitting so she was kind enough to let my friend invite me and our other friend knowing that this would be our only chance to see each other and she would be paying for the plates anyway. (so so so nice) So we went as a “couple” and brought a card and $80. We didn’t want to spend a ton- we were GOING to get a cute vase or something but couldn’t find anything- and just would not go empty handed. I am sure she was grateful that we gave anything!

    Post # 61
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    We are both broke students so extra money (especially while planning our own wedding) is far and few between so we would give around $75-100 if we were close with them, and less if we weren’t simply because we can’t afford more.

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