(Closed) How much do you usually spend on a wedding gift?

posted 10 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: How much do you spend on a gift when you attend a wedding?
    $0-25 per person attending : (13 votes)
    6 %
    $25-50 per person attending : (83 votes)
    39 %
    $50+ per person attending : (105 votes)
    49 %
    Other : (14 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 62
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Hi — I give $500. I have given this whether I have gone alone or taken a date. East Coast Weddings are expensive. Why not be generous for someone’s wedding?

    Post # 63
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    761 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    When people are saying a family of four is that a family with small children because my currently my mom and dad are a family of four, them with a 9 and 11 yr old at home. I do not think that a 9 and 11 yr old should be adding an extra 50 or so to a cash wedding present. Having children that age is very expensive and they are not adding to the family income so my parents giving someone a cash present of 100 would be very generous in my opinion.

    Post # 64
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    173 posts
    Blushing bee

    I usually give $125-$150 per person attending.  If it’s a really close friend or family member, we may give more.

    Post # 65
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    176 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    If we’re invited as a couple and attend, then I give $150. If we’re close to them, then I give $200-250. For my brother last year, $500 in a mix of cash and gift certificates for cooking classes. If I don’t attend, then $75-100. However, there have been a few instances, when I felt like the invitation was out of obligation, they didn’t give me a plus one, and I barely knew them, so I gave less than $50.

    Post # 66
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    1732 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    East Coast Bride is officially invited to my wedding.

    We shoot for around $100, sometimes more if they are good friends.

    Post # 67
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    1297 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    It’s interesting to see some posts here from people all around the country/world.    First off, neither myself nor my fi have ever been to a wedding where actual gifts were given-it’s always been ‘envelopes only’. 

    My fi & I are from the NYC area.  It’s sort of an unspoken rule here that people expect you to ‘cover your plate’.  We never give less than $250/couple (even if we aren’t that close to the couple).  This price is not even inclusive of the bridal shower gift, which will add another $50-$75.  We actually *gasp* look forward to not being invited to weddings because of the cost.  For example, we are going to 2 weddings this summer–that’s costing us $600 ($300 per wedding/shower). 

    We are by NO means millionaires, but this is what is expected of us guests, and what I see as the norm.   In order to save on costs I’ve gotten used to wearing the same dresses, my fi the same suit!!

    For our wedding, we do not want people to think that they have to give a certain amount.  If a family of 4 can only give $100—then we aren’t here to judge.  Although, unfortunately, people will still feel obligated to give a higher amount, simply because of what they feel is expected of them.

    Post # 68
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    18 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I was shocked at some of the gifts received at my wedding.  It seems people were very generous or very cheap.  For example one family member came with 3 others for a total of 4 people with a $100 gift – and yes, she could afford far more.  In my area $100 per person is the norm.  Our per head cost was close to $150.  I don’t expect my guests to cover their plate because how can they know how expensive it is?  They can’t – but $100 each would have been great.  I recognize there are costs involved in attending a wedding, but at the end of the day attendance is optional and to be honest the bride is probably hoping a number of people can’t make it so she can save on the expensive per head costs.  But the good news is now I have a master list of each gift and when the kids in the above family get married – my husband I will be giving $50 as a gift – lol! …. I think people need to apply a little thought and think about how much a night out, meal and drinks would cost if they were paying for it and don’t stiff the bride and groom. 

    Post # 69
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    1254 posts
    Bumble bee

    My Fiance and I usually spend $100 for the two of us.

    Post # 70
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    3538 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Alright well… I dont give cash…

    I buy a present and usually its not that expensive, but its tasteful and well thought out. There is a store that is quite expensive where I am and I usually go there and buy a smallish item that could cost (40-50) but its great quality and I know it sounds bad, but I leave it in its bag so people can tell where its come from. I just really dont want people to open the present and think Im cheap.

    To me a person even coming to the wedding is fantastic enough. For this reason FH and I decided not to put a registry card in the wedding invitation.

     

    Post # 71
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    110 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    In Chinese culture, it’s common to give the bride and groom red envelopes filled with money. In the past, we’ve given $200/couple. Less for people we don’t know well, more for those we do!

    Post # 72
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    674 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    It really depends on who’s getting married and what our circumstances are at a particular point. For my BIL’s wedding we spent 300$. My cousin’s wedding’s coming up in a few months (her parents are my godparents) and I’m probably going to give 200$ (cash).

    I’ve only had two friends get married so far, and they both did so while I was a student and not very well off, so I spent depending on my circumstances. I got a 90$ gift card for one and spent 70$ for the other (I couldn’t actually make the second one’s wedding so I sent the gift at a later date). I was also single at that point so the gift was just from me.

    We’re going to a wedding of a distant relative in a couple weeks and we’ll probably give around 60$ (cash). His venue is very inexpensive and food will probably cost him about 20$ per person.

    Post # 73
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    674 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I forgot to mention that in my culture gifts are expected, and given, even if you can’t attend the wedding.

    Post # 74
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    140 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    Typically we spend according to how well we know the couple. Close friends of ours we spend usually a good amount, we usually will just buy like the whole “set” of things on the section of a registry, (like all of the bath stuff, towles, face cloths, soap holder, hamper, ect ect) If we don’t give an actual gift it’s usually like $100-$500 in a card, and then for people not very close to us (we both have huge families) we get a gift of about $100 or so.

    Post # 75
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    31 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    At least $100 per person. Depending on how close i am and the venue maybe $150 per person

    Post # 76
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    174 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I am always delighted by any gift we receive because it means that the person has taken the time to consider us and what we would like.

    I have never considered a per person amount to give or thought that I should or my guests should cover the cost of their plate – just like I do not expect guests to pay me back when I have a dinner party. I am just glad that people are going to join us and share in our joy – that is gift enough. Just my opinion.

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