(Closed) How much do you usually spend on a wedding gift?

posted 10 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: How much do you spend on a gift when you attend a wedding?
    $0-25 per person attending : (13 votes)
    6 %
    $25-50 per person attending : (83 votes)
    39 %
    $50+ per person attending : (105 votes)
    49 %
    Other : (14 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 77
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    We usually give $150-$200 depending on a number of variables: How close we are to the couple, how much we had already spent on showers etc.   A couple of weddings I have had to attend without my Fiance and for those I gave $100.

     

     

    Post # 78
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    900 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    In our group of friends, we typically feel that you should give a gift costing approximately what dinner cost, so between $75 and $100 per person.  Our friends from the East Coast always give more, and it’s always cash.  In California, people usually buy off registry.

    Our gifts were all over the map in price and I was definitely disappointed by some.  They ranged from quite a few that were around $50 a couple, to some that were extremely generous.  And quite a few people still haven’t given a gift…we’ll see if one shows up.  I used to do $60ish for the few years after college and now it’s closer to $100 for my friends…Fiance usually buys the gifts when it’s his friend and it is a bit more.

    Post # 79
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    576 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I had no idea how much people spent on wedding presents. I spent $70 on my brother for his wedding and I thought that was a lot at the time! haha Of course, I was (and am) a university student. 

    Personally, I have never exchanged expensive presents with friends/family for other occasion so its just been hard to wrap my head around it.

    Very interesting post!

    Post # 80
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    446 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Wow! I’m really surprised by the responses, thanks for the question! I typically give 100 per person for weddings if I go by myself, $150 for myself and my Fiance.  I thought everyone gave that much except for families.  Interesting!!

    Post # 81
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    3219 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I give people what ever I can afford at the time

    Post # 82
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    823 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011 - The Tribute Golf Club

    For us it depends on the couple.  Couples that we are closer to (and in the wedding party) get a higher amount.  I also like to factor in the amount that I put towards a shower (if I am invited to one).  We aim for about $50 per person.

    Post # 83
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    353 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I have never given less then $100 to a couple and that was only for someone I barely knew, generally it’s $175-$200. 

    Post # 84
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    49 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    For me, it’s at least $100/person if I don’t know the couple well. For good friends, I give at least $200 if I’m attending the wedding alone. If we’re attending the wedding together, my husband and I gift about $300, typically more.

    The huge range we see here is really due to where you live, imho. Most of my friends’ weddings, in San Francisco or L.A. cost at least $40k (and that’s doing it on the cheap for about 100 people). Ours was about $200+/person just for food and venue alone and we actually had a pretty low-key wedding!

    Wish we could live somewhere cheaper but we love San Francisco too much to ever leave!

     

    Post # 85
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    179 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    We do $100 a couple or 2-3 registry items adding up to about that. On average, the cash gifts were also $100 a couple. Some of our guests really surprised us, good and bad. One of my husband’s uncles gave us $100, even though he has 2 houses in foreclosure – can you believe it? To give a nice chunk of change when your financial world is imploding. We were very grateful.

    On the opposite end of the spectrum, my husband’s aunt & uncle and their two adult children gave us $140 as a group gift. When you count in their spouses and kids, we hosted ten people at $100/head. I hate that it bugs me and I feel petty, but there you have it.

    Post # 86
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    160 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    We usually give $100 in cash (or honeymoon or whatever cash registry) plus a physical gift.  I am just a teacher, but we do okay.  I like to celebrate the big stuff 🙂   I think it’s important to give as much as you can, but I’m from a family that tends to show affection through gift-giving. 

    Post # 87
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    384 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I would say that it depends how close you are to them. I have always been told that you should give a gift of at least equal value as to the cost of your “plate”. So my goal is always to give $50 per person, $100 as a couple and more if they are closer. Though we went to a second cousins wedding last year and were pretty broke and were only able to give $80 as a couple.

    Post # 88
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We normally give $50 per person who attends but it could be more or less depending on the event. If we show up and its a potluck dinner where its clear that they didnt put much money into the event then we may give $30 or so per person though on the other hand, if its a lavish affair that clearly cost a fortune, we normally up it a little. If its a close family member or friend, we generally give around $250 or so.

    Post # 89
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    510 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I usually spend between 50-75 between the bridal shower gift and the wedding gift.

    Post # 90
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    311 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    If the wedding is for someone I am not super close with, I give $50. If I know them well and they are family I give $100-150. Not everyone thinks like me though. I had an engagement party recently and from a family of 4, I received $15! Like you said, its the thought that counts but everyone has different financial situations so I wouldn’t take it personally, unless you know they have the benjamins.. 😛  jk!

    Post # 91
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    286 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    Wow, i’m surprised that someone would say they are disappointed if they get a $25 wedding gift because they are paying $250 a head for dinner. Hey, the person you invited didn’t ask you to spend that much on dinner, so you should be happy with what you get. If i went to a wedding with Fiance and 2 kids, we would be giving $50 probably. Sorry, we’re not rich and raising 2 kids in a tough economy. I don’t expect any gifts at my wedding but will be grateful for what i do get.

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