Post # 1
I’m not going to lie, I’m 27 and my dad pays for my cell phone because he hadn’t figured out how to kick me off the family plan we’ve been on since 2000. My mom paid for my car insurance until I was 25. Everything else is up to me and has been since I graduated at 22.
Most of my friends are 100% on their own by now, but I also have friends who live rent-free in their parents’ properties, or who had their folks buy them a house. I have one friend who is 28, and her mom takes her to the mall once a month for new clothes, and another whose dad just paid $4k in car repairs for him.
Do your parents support you financially? How much? When did it stop?
Post # 3
My parents do not help, but I know that if I was in some sort of financial bind wherein I desperately needed money, they would offer to help.
Post # 4
My mother hasn’t supported me since I moved out when I was 19. If I ever needed help she would be there but I’m adult and my lifestyle is my responsibility.
Post # 5
I’ve been on my own since I moved out to go to college at 17, and I like it that way. My parents never had extra money to give me, my dad was sick the majority of my childhood. It has made me a pretty strong person 🙂
Post # 6
I’m 23 and the only thing my Mom pays for since my college graduation and marriage at 21 is my cell phone – its $40 a month ($10 add-a-line and $30 data) and I’m grandfathered in under an unlimited data plan. The idea is for me to start paying her the bill, since when I get my own bill it would triple. Same for my husband.
Post # 7
Mine have been supporting me through school, though I’ve also worked and given them most of what I’ve made while I’ve been in school. It all ends next week when I graduate! (scary, but the way it should be.)
Post # 8
I’ve been paying my own way for many years now, because that’s what grown-up’s do. I will accept gifts from my mom but only “normal” gifts that you’d expect at holidays. I’ve also opened a savings account specifically for elder care, when that time comes.
I think if you’re old enough to get married and start your own family, then you should be contributing to your parents’ upkeep (or preparing to), and not the other way around.
Post # 9
I’m still on the family cell plan and so is Fiance, but that’s it.
Post # 10
Being fresh out of grad school both my Fiance and I are really struggling to find jobs as funding for academia has been cut massively. While we manage to make ends meet for the majority of the time my parents have helped out here and there to tie up the ends in bad months (I’m self-employed and work on a project basis….). They only give me money when I ask for it and they know that I only ask for help when really desperate and all other solutions have been exhausted. The rest of the time we just live as frugally as possible and save up any windfalls for rainy days!
Post # 11
I’m an only child of two amazing people who have worked their asses off for what they have. My parents are very clear with us (me and fiance) that they get a lot of joy out of doing nice things for us and will not stop unless something drastic changes with their financial situation. The way my mom says it, I’m getting the money anyway so they’d rather spend it on us while they can see us enjoy it (or enjoy it with them) than give us a giant lump sum when they die.
I have to agree- I’ll be a complete wreck when they die and I can see myself not spending the money at all because it would just remind me of them.
In college they supported me completely. I worked 20-30 hours but that money was for my own personal spending and saving. They picked up all of my bills from tuition to rent to food to cell phone to car and insurance. I was on the family plan until a couple months ago because it was just easier that way.
ETA: as a PP said we’re also saving for their care when the time comes. We don’t want kids so we’ll be putting a lot of money away for our parents’ and our own elder care. And I often try to return the favor and get them very nice gifts or do nice things as often as I can.
Post # 12
Mine pay my iPhone bill. And my real dad gives me $50/week for “allowance.” And my stepdad gives me $100/month so I can have cable.
I don’t ask…I just don’t complain.
They also send me care packages once a week. Not necessarily to be kind. More of a “Thank God she’s out of the house, now we can mail her all her old shit.”
Post # 13
I voted “Yes, they’ve been supporting me all my life so I didn’t expect it to stop.” I live rent-free, they pay for my cell phone, and I sometimes get spending money. I’m not married yet and I’m female, so I my parents and I just always assumed they’d be taking care of me until I officially belong to someone else.
In recent years, I’ve been using more of my own spending money (or my fiance has used his own money on me), and I recently paid the vet bill for one of my rabbits.
My fiance lives rent-free and his parents pay for anything related to his car (so he can save money), but he pays for the rest of his bills and stuff.
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Post # 15
My parents stopped supporting me when I turned 18 and moved out, and it’s exacty how I like it!
Post # 16
I had a “real” job since I was 15 and haven’t stopped working since. My parents are hard workers and they expect the same from their children. They set aside some money for college and my wedding but I pay the rest towards my college and wedding. I have paid my own car insurance, cell phone, two cars, gas, clothes, etc. If I wanted it, it was my responsibility to buy it and pay for it.