(Closed) How much does your FI helping with planning?

posted 8 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 17
388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Mine wants to be very involved. Unfortunately, he’s in the police academy and only comes home on weekends. I work on weekends so we rarely get a one on one time to wedding plan. I usually text/call him when I have something on my mind and he lets me know his opinion. 

He told me at the end of the day everything is up to me, but I want him to be included in the process of many things. 

Another big thing I’m doing to include him is to have a “Jack and Jill Shower” It’s half Stock the bar- men and half Gifts- ladies. 

I’m pretty OCD when it comes to planning…So, when I ask him about cardstock he’s like “Um, does really it matter?” Well, to me…of course! Will any of my guests really notice? Probably not! But hey, I’m happy! Haha 

Post # 18
93 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Mine is pretty much just going to show up.  I ask for his input, I want it to be everything he wants also but he says he trusts me and can’t picture anything anyways.  It is hard to get him to help!

Post # 19
471 posts
Helper bee

my gf said that i can “plan the whole damn thing” which i was excited for but overwhelmed now that i’m looking at venues!

Post # 20
256 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Oh man, my Fiance hates every bit of it but so far he’s been really good at helping me make decisions. Tonight he said “I think I have made enough wedding decisions.. I think that I should be allowed to be done now.” and I responded with “Okay…so you’re saying..that I can make all the decisions by myself now..without asking you?” and He realized he hated that and responded with something along the lines of “I know what you’re doing.. No, nevermind.” hahahha

Post # 21
95 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

He has helped me so much!  I am really blessed.  From our DIY projects (invites, favors, etc), to deciding on bridesmaid dresses, the cake, the venues, chasing up on the RSVPs, arranging sound equipment, advising me to get professional hair person on the day, choosing the celebrant and arranging meetings with different vendors etc. He has been an immense help! I love him. 🙂

Post # 22
652 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My Fiance is a huge help, takes on some projects on his own, and has come to all of the vendor meetings. Like previous bees have mentioned, mine is also not super interested in flowers, though he does have color preferences. 

So far, Fiance has taken the lead on the website, the Save the Dates, and securing the location for bachelor/bachelorette weekend. I’ve helped, but they were definitely his projects. On his own without me at all, Fiance found his perfect vintage tux and had it altered to be a more modern fit. He’s a great partner! Honestly,  I have to make some secret decisions just so he doesn’t know everything!  I want him to have some surprises!

Post # 23
275 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@JacobsMama:  Basically I tell my fiance what I want/what I’ve researched into/ideas and he always agrees with me. A few times he offers some counter ideas. He’s not involved at all with the decision making. To him, he’d be happy with anything. Which is kind of bad because so am I… It’s boiled down to my mom making most of the choices 😛

Post # 24
1896 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@JacobsMama:  At first my Fiance took a very hands off approach, but now that planning is underway he’s taking a more active role but mainly in small ‘bits’, about twenty minutes at a time.  I bounce ideas off of him and he likes to put in his two cents but still firmly maintains that it’s mainly my thing.

Post # 25
131 posts
Blushing bee

My Fiance is so interested in being involved! He wants to see all of the things I’ve been pinning (EXCEPT dresses of course) and writing down. A lot of our ideas aligned which is great, but for the most part everything that I have found that I definitely want, he is totally happy with. 🙂 I like having him involved as much as I can. It is OUR day, isn’t it?!

Post # 26
25 posts
  • Wedding: March 2014

He was pretty hands off at first but now that the date is closer he is getting excited and joining in! 

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