(Closed) How much does your SO have to make for you to stop working?

posted 6 years ago in Career
  • poll: How much does your SO have to make for you to stop working?
    $40,000 or less : (13 votes)
    4 %
    $41,000 to 60,000 : (13 votes)
    4 %
    $61,000 to 80,000 : (34 votes)
    10 %
    $81,000 to 100,000 : (34 votes)
    10 %
    $101,000 to 120,000 : (55 votes)
    16 %
    $121,000 to 140,000 : (23 votes)
    7 %
    $141,000 to 160,000 : (31 votes)
    9 %
    $161,000 to 180,000 : (17 votes)
    5 %
    $181,000 and greater : (61 votes)
    17 %
  • Post # 3
    873 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Won’t happen.  Darling Husband makes over just over $100,000 a year, we’re very comfortable, and I’m still working.  It’s not about the money for me, it’s about my career and having something to do.


    Post # 4
    1572 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    80,000 – 100,000. I wouldn’t marry someone for their salary but in today’s day with the cost of education and living….but that’s if I ever wanted to not work.

    Post # 5
    1586 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I dont really think i would ever completely quit… i like my time out of the house. i would work part time, but take maybe a year off work. i dont think it’d be fair for him to be the sole income of the house. 

    Post # 6
    1109 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    My Fiance and I have talked about me not working once he gets into the final stages of his job (hes movin on up! lol) 

    I might work part time until we have babies, but then I will be a Stay-At-Home Mom until they are all in school, and then probably take up a part time job again.

    We both agree that I should be home with the kids though once we start having them.

    ETA-  I voted for the 61-80 option

    Post # 7
    3943 posts
    Honey bee

    I voted $180K and greater. And even then, I dont think I would stop working. You never know what can happen in this economy and with the cost of living in MA as high as it is…I just wouldnt ever feel comfortable.

    Post # 8
    2414 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Hmm…together we make about $130k a year and that doesn’t afford us all of the ‘extras’ we hope to have in life…or kids! In Boston the cost of living is super high so even though we can put a decent amount of money aside each month, it’s not enough for the kind of financial security we want to have….I would say that he would have to make over $200k for me to stay home and even then I’d like to work part-time to get out of the house and stimulate my mind.

    Post # 9
    899 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    It depends. Our quality of life right now is pretty good, so if fiance made about double, we could continue living at the same quailty of life that we have now. BUT, in the future as we get older, we want a higher quality of life, so that number would increase. I voted what he would have to make right now, not in 20-30 years. 

    Post # 10
    5667 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Wayyyy over $181k.

    Post # 11
    10366 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Being completely dependant on one person’s job is too scary for me to ever consider this. What if they lost their job? THen nobody would be working! If that wasn’t a factor, he would have to make as much as both our incomes combined, with opportunity for advancement. So, $175,000+ a year. Good luck finding that job!

    Post # 12
    212 posts
    Helper bee

    way over 180k. especially if we continue to live in manhatten. dual income is necessary.

    Post # 13
    406 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013


    I’m with you! I would LOVE to stay home with little ones, but work part time before and after.

    Post # 14
    6998 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I def plan on being a stay at home mom at least for the first few years until i can put them in school. I think at this point we could survive on his salary alone. I think 70 – 80k is def doable in my situation. We have actually recently talked about ‘practicing’ living off his salary and just throwing my paychecks in savings.

    Post # 15
    2863 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I will never quit working. I worked HARD to get here and I’ll be darned if getting an Mrs. in front of my name washes it all away. I am not cut out to be a Stay-At-Home Wife or a SAHM- tried both of them and hated it. 

    Post # 16
    3624 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    This won’t sound like it makes sense but let me try. If we have kids, it has to be over 100k so I can be a Stay-At-Home Mom. Without kids, it would have to be in the high hundreds of thousands (over 500k) so I could live like a socialite. I’m not going to stop working unless I have kids or can live an outrageously lavish life.

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