(Closed) How much does your SO have to make for you to stop working?

posted 9 years ago in Career
  • poll: How much does your SO have to make for you to stop working?

    $40,000 or less

    $41,000 to 60,000

    $61,000 to 80,000

    $81,000 to 100,000

    $101,000 to 120,000

    $121,000 to 140,000

    $141,000 to 160,000

    $161,000 to 180,000

    $181,000 and greater

  • Post # 32
    1820 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I am not interested in leaving the workplace, but if I was, my husband would need to make at least $800K/year, probably more.

    Post # 33
    3977 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Like others have said, I don’t think I’d ever stop working entirely. Maybe go to part time.

    Currently I make more than my DH as well, so it’ll be awhile before that’s even a possibility, if ever.

    I’d say at least in the high 100’s, given the cost of living in our area.

    Post # 34
    664 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    cost of living in the DC area is very high.  We make over $100k combined and it’s not enough.  SO would need to double his salary for me to quit my job, and I would still need to have a “fun” part-time job to make ends meet (like work at a gym or a store).  He will need to make over $250k for us to live like we do, have kids and have me not work.

    Post # 35
    329 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Well over 200,000- probably closer to the 300,000 range. Right now we make 140K together, most of that being his salary, so it’s out there that he would get somewhere near that much farther down the line, I just couldn’t imagine never working. I would go crazy.

    Post # 36
    5154 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2010

    I voted “I would never stop working”.

    I worked hard to get this career. I enjoy my career and find a lot of personal fulfillment in it. Even aside from the personal enjoyment, it is also important to me to bring in an income and not have our household be entirely dependent on one income.

    I was the sole breadwinner for a while (and still am the main one, and likely will always be the main one), and honestly if my husband ever wanted to stop working, that would be fine by me as he basically took care of ALL the “home stuff” when he was not working (I would certainly rather be working full-time+ than clean the bathroom!)…but I know he enjoys working too even if he prefers a rather easygoing working environment compared to his former career.

    I am childfree by choice, but even if we were going to have kids, I would NOT be staying at home. My husband, if we had chosen to have kids, would have likely done so when they were small, but that is not really relevant for us now.

    Even if we won the lottery, I would continue to work. I would likely cut back in the sense of taking more vacation time or something, but I would not cut out working.


    Post # 37
    2695 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2008

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    @edub:  Agree!  …..that or a job in finance with nice big fat bonuses 🙂    This city is just too darn expensive otherwise

    either way I wouldn’t quit entirely, but at the right level I might more seriously re-evaluate my career alternatives. 

    Post # 38
    540 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I wouldn’t ever stop. I don’t think it would be fair to Fiance to stop working, and honestly I am a workaholic and get completely depressed and stir crazy being home more than two days a week. I LOVE my job (im a teacher) and can’t imagine not at least subbing. Right now I am subbing every day and hardly feel like I am working the 47-50 hours a week that I am  pulling becuase I don’t have any planning/grading to do.


    I plan to take a year, maybe less, off once we have kids, but my schedule will allow me to have ample time with kids when they aren’t in school and still have a career.

    Post # 39
    592 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    DH makes $110k and I make $80k…we still dont live as comfortably as I’d like.  Granted we do enjoy some luxuries (nice house, country club, random way too expensive artwork purchases) we still dont have enough disposable income.  Some of this is due to DH’s student loans (a cool $2500/month) so I think when those drop off we’ll be much happier.  Taking all that into consideration – if DH made $250k (which is likely if he makes partner someday) I would consider cutting back on work.  I have a great job for side consulting jobs, flex time, etc so I would love to think I could do a 3 day work week.  

    I dont think I could ever go completely not working – for me personally I enjoy it!

    Post # 40
    18628 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Enough to be able to pay our bills and put an equivalent amount in savings accounts that we are doing now maxing out retirement and to cover additional expenses of me doing things while he is working.

    Post # 41
    9478 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Depends on the sort of life we would want to have.  We’re not trendy, outgoing people.  We’re homebodies and enjoy the simple life we have.  We, of course, do enjoy going out – but not too often.

    Post # 42
    170 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    The money would make no difference – I would work anyway, even if he were the richest man in the world. I love my job, and it’s a part of who I am. 

    Just for fun, I suppose there are some situations in which I would agree to quit my job. Say, if my husband wanted to be the president of the united states, and he needed my full time support. I would miss my job a great deal but I would recognize the bigger picture. Thankfully, this will never happen since he’s not in politics lol. But short of that, I don’t really see any other situation in which I would quit my job for him.

    Post # 43
    891 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I would never stop working just for my Fiance makes enough money, I would stop working and pursuing my career when I have more children for at least a few years yes but I would never be dependent on FI’s salary. I have been taught to take care of my own. If I could I would totally avoid it. It feels good being part of providing for our family. My Fiance just got promoted and a hefty raise which of course means alot to us. But never would I stop working unless I needed to. I love my job far too much and it keeps me very happy and productive. 😀

    Post # 44
    1795 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I wouldn’t stop working. Also, I outearn my H and I think I would need to earn at least $200k to be fine with him staying home permanently.

    Post # 45
    2280 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I work from home right now, making VERY little money as I’m just getting started with a few jobs. I’m doing what I love–it’s my lifelong passion–it’s just unprofitable at the start.

    We don’t lead a modified lifestyle at all, and he’s not earning these astronomical sums people say would be their financial safe zone to stop working. The only real difference in our finances is that we haven’t been saving the way we’d like to (mainly, for building a house).

    For us, it’s not about the amount of money, it’s about the lifestyle. We’re working to free ourselves from the 9-5 grind completely. I LOVE my life and work right now, and I want DH to love the work he does just as much, not slave away in an office for a cozy middle class salary!

    Post # 46
    1381 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2017 - Seattle, WA

    My boyfriend and I each make roughly $43,000 a year so if he made double that ($86,000) i would quit working ASAP.  Everyone who said they would not quit working must really love their job!!  I would LOVE to stay home and focus on the house, I love reading home decorating blogs and am always looking for new DIY projects I could do.  I would also go to the gym each day, run errands, maybe join some sort of club or do volunteer work if I get bored at home.  That right there sounds ideal to me.

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