Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2014 - Castaway Restaurant
Hello Bee’s, Well its been a while but I am happy to say I have FOUND MY VENUE!!! Mr. Real and I are going to put the down payment this weekend. Anywho.. now my dilemma is I have no clue how much it would cost to get married in a catholic church in the area. The venue is in burbank and it has a place for a ceremony which would run me around $750.. but Mr. Real and fam.. have convinced me we should do a church instead.. Therefore My question is… is a church in Burbank CA more expensive for a ceremony? Please HELP!!! If it is too pricey we will settle for a ceremony in the venue as well. : ) Thank you Ladies in advance..
Post # 3
it really depends on the church. my church charged $400 (or $450?) and that’s not including the donation for the priest or the cost of the pre-marital counseling and such.
edit- we were also required to use our parish’s musician, which was another $200
Post # 4
My chuch is asking for a $300 or $350 donation, I cant remember which one, plus the $250 we had to pay for our pre cana classes – which all together I didnt think was that bad.
I asked our priest if he wanted to donation when we booked or later and he said not to worry about it and give it to him on the day of our rehearsal.
Post # 5
Find the Church and ask. Ours gave us a little info sheet with what they expect for:
doation to the parish
fee for the celebrant
paying the parking attendant
gratuities for the altar server(s)
It all comes out at around $600 at the church we’ve chosen in downtown Vancouver.
Post # 6
@MrsReal: you have to call the Church to find out. They are all different. Here in NJ some are only a few hundred and others are a few THOUSAND.
Post # 7
My church is asking for $300. Plus a separate payment for the cantor and organist.
Post # 9
Our church was free, since we were members, but we spend about $900 paying the organist, soloist, “gratuity” to the priest, altar servers, etc. Churches here want $500-$2000 if you aren’t a member. The cathedral downtown wanted $2500 for the church itself just for Mass, not including the things listed above, and this is in Alabama!
Ask the church!
Post # 10
You shouldn’t decide to get married in a Catholic Church based on how much it costs!!!!!
Getting married in a Catholic Church is a HUGE deal. If one of you is Catholic, and you do NOT get married in a Catholic Church, then the Church does not consider your marriage valid and you will be considered “living in sin” and should not receive any of the Sacraments like Communion. But on the other hand, if one or both of you are Catholic and you do not care about that, or do not practice your faith, then it is rather sacriligious to get married in the Church -you are making vows (like you will raise your children Catholic) that it wouldn’t seem like you would be interested in or capable of keeping. That is a terrible way to start your marriage off- with a lie!
Sounds like you and your Fiance need to have a serious talk about WHY you would or wouldn’t want to get married in a Catholic Church, and what role the Church will take in your future life.
I’m surprised that no one has pointed it out yet, but I actually find it quite offensive that you are taking the decision to get married in a Catholic Church so lightly – as if it’s just another one of your “vendors” or simply a location to get married. It is SO MUCH MORE than that.
Post # 11
For us it was free but we paid $150 for the coordinator and $150 for the music director. We also “tipped” the deacon $300 after the ceremony. He brought up the tip several times during our premarital counseling sessions…awkward…
Post # 12
@MrsReal: Begging your pardon, but I am also a bit curious as to why you want to marry in a church when it seems like you could have gone either way with regards to your ceremony. Why was marrying in a church so important to you? Because I know it’s not just about the money, right? There are lots of pros and cons for each, correct?
Post # 13
Our church is getting $650 from us, plus we are responsible for paying the organist and vocalist – I think it should be whatver I want to donate to my church, but we want to be married in the Catholic church so we’re just paying up.
Post # 14
Ours is technically free because we are members. A donation is encouraged. We plan on donating about $200. My mom actually is the bookkeeper there and says that is a normal donation. We would have to pay the organist if we were using him but hopefully we will be able to use our own musicians instead. I find that out when I meet with them soon. We will also have to pay for premarital counseling but I don’t know how expensive that will be yet. Adding it all up it does seem a little pricey but getting married in the Church is extremely important to us – we wouldn’t have it any other way.
Post # 15
Our church gave us a letter with the breakdown of the fees. The cantor was about $350 and the use of the church was $250. We also gave a $175 honorarium to the priest; and, gave $10 to the altar server.
Post # 16
- Wedding: September 2014 - Castaway Restaurant
@red_rose: All I can say to this is “CALM DOWN!!!” Lol… I don’t need negative comments.