Post # 1
I’m from Long Island and I’m trying to narrow down things I would like to do for my bachelorette party. The problem I’m having is I’ve never been to one and I have no clue how much is too much to spend. I know everyone is going to say “however much everyone wants to spend”, but can you NY/NJ/CT brides tell me where you have gone and how much have you paid and for how long. Thanks!
Post # 3
@BrideFromTheBeach: Do you know what kinds of things you want to do? A fancy dinner or something more subdued? A club with bottle service or a casual low key bar? A Broadway show or a strip club? Are you getting a hotel room?
For my bachelorette party, we’re going to have dinner at Lucky Cheng’s or Lips (both restaurants with waitstaff in drag) and then going to my favorite tiki bar in Brooklyn. Dinner will run around $50/pp and then it’s just whatever we drink at the bar.
You have a zillion options in NYC, so… it really does depend on how much everyone wants to spend. 😉
Post # 4
@KatieBklyn: just a heads up not sure if it matters or not but I have been to 2 bachelorette parties at lucky chengs and both bridal parties suggested we bring enough cash and that it would be about 50/pp for that and it was over 100 each time. Those fishbowls add up!
Post # 5
@janinaPK: Yikes! Good to know. 🙂 I think we might actually go to Lips… I’ve been there for bday parties and I think their food is a little better… And a smidge cheaper! But those drinks do add up. Especially with me there. 😉
Post # 6
@BrideFromTheBeach: I went to Lucky CHengs and half the room was full of bachelorette parties!
For my best friend last year, I arranged bottle service at 230 Fifth (I paid for the bottles though b/c she doesnt have many close friends). Before we went to 230 fifth we went to dinner which cost about $40/person.
For my bachelorette party…some of us are going to Jamaica which is costing about $800/person. I spoke to my girls about it and that’s what MOST wanted to do.
However, I am also having a “bachelorette” in the city which will probably consist of bottle service at a rooftop lounge in August since my wedding is Labor Day weekend.
You have to decide what things YOU like to do and then see what your friends are willing to spend or pay for. From there you narrow it down.
Post # 7
Like everyone has been saying, it all depends on what you and your girls want to do.
For most of the ones I’ve been to, it’s just been about $100/pp for dinner + drinks.
But I”ll give you a perspective from another end of the spectrum: For one of my friend’s bach (I was a BM) we went to Atlantic City (this was before it was demolished by Sandy) and spent a weekend there. We paid for her as well (transportation to AC, hotels, dinners, drinks, clubs, games, tiara/tshirt, gift) and probably dropped about 500-600 each but we were fine with it.
For my bach, the girls actually ended up planning 2 separate trips with me due to scheduling conflicts. One is going to be in Tulum, Mexico and the other is a Yoga/Juice Cleanse weekend in Jamesport. I know it sounds extravagant/crazy but my BMs and I have always been talking about doing a 30th weekend trip together anyway so the bachelorette just provides the excuse/timing for it.
I made it clear that I do not want anyone to pay for me and I am telling everyone else in the bridal party/close friends group they are under NO OBLIGATION to come. But I actually have a good number of people who are all itching to take weekend trips so more people came than I expected. So I’m totally psyched but again, I’m not really wanting a traditional bachelorette as I just want to go on a TRIP and it just so worked out that everyone else did too!
Hope this gives you some kind of insight, but I think anywhere from $50/100 for a night out is pretty standard. And for the more traditional bachelorettes, usually your Maid/Matron of Honor or Bridesmaid or Best Man will buy some props like boas/tiaras/a checklist of “dares” to do/raunchy games to play, etc but it’s totally up to their discretion how they want to plan your party and spend.
Post # 8
@KatieBklyn: I go out in the city quite often so I was really looking forward to some kind of chill weekend out on the east end of Long Island. Most rental houses on the north and south forks are 3 night minimums though. I also don’t want any of the girls paying for me either.
I think my issue is that if I say I want to go do XYZ regardless of what it costs my girls will say they’ll pay for it. I don’t want them to feel obligated to spend more money than what they had in mind. I guess I need to speak to my Maid/Matron of Honor and have her privately talk to the other girls about money.
Post # 9
oooh! why don’t you try Montauk? We went there for a girls’ weekend and stayed at the Montauk Manor for 2 nights (no min). It’s a hotel so they don’t have restrictions like the house rentals and i remember it was pretty affordable because we did 1 room for 4 girls (it had a living room w/ a pullout couch).
It was one of the options for my friend but we ended up going to Atlantic City because it was closer/more affordable for some of her friends in NJ and Pennsylvania vs going to Long Island
Post # 10
@lilcshelli: Thanks for the suggestion! I’ll look into it!