Post # 1
As the title says – how much have you spent on bachelorettes you’ve attended? (and what did they involve?) Do you know how much attendees spent on your bachelorette?
All of my friends are UK-based, and so far I have had: 1) a 5 day Vegas bachelorette at ~$3000pp (with a separate 1 day London bachelorette at ~$250pp), 2) a 2 day Paris bachelorette at ~$1100pp 3) a 2 day UK spa town bachelorette at ~$750pp (with a separate afternoon tea party in London at ~$70pp) . I was in wedding 1) so I went to the London bach but not the vegas one, I didn’t go to the Paris one and am going for 1 day of the 3rd (~$150), and the afternoon tea. I have another 2 day one in Portugal in August which I don’t know the cost of, but will be missing as I’ll be at an overseas wedding.
I’m wondering if these prices are normal and I’m out of touch (as so many of them seem to cost so much), or if I’m right in thinking these are crazy OTT?!!
Post # 2
cece_intheuk: I spent about $450 for a friend’s bachelorette weekend in a city about 5 hours from home.
Post # 3
cece_intheuk: the most i’ve spent was $500 for a beach weekend (south carolina, USA)…we just got back from a weekend at a cabin in the mountains for my bach party, and i think everyone spent max $250 each.
Post # 4
- Wedding: February 2015 - Bethesda Academy Whitefield Chapel & Brockington Hall
For my friends bachelorette party a two years ago we got a room at the W Hotel in Hollywood, and went to the nightclub in the hotel. It ended up being about $400 a girl, there were only 5 of us. We had fun getting into trouble and it was great fun to be someplace where all the shenanigans were in one spot!
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
cece_intheuk: The most I have spent was around $450 for a bachelor party I threw for a friend which included dinner, decorations, hotel room, travel costs, drinks, club entry … This was out of town and paying for the bachelor. The girls that attended probably spent closer to $100 as they only paid for part of the accomodation, their dinners, some drinks, and cover.
For attending it usually ranges in the $40-60 range which is dinner, buying a shot for the bride-to-be, club cover and some drinks.
Post # 6
PennyLove5: kb7: blankenshiptobe: laceydoilies: Thanks for all your replies, really useful to get an idea of what’s normal!
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle
Wow that’s a lot of money to spend on a bachelorette party. For example, that’s more than half of what my entire wedding cost. I could never, ever ask my friends to spend that much money on a bachelorette. I’m not sure if your circle is different and has a lot more financial freedom… but I mean, to me – that is a sizeable down payment on a car… and I would not only be hurt that I wouldn’t be able to attend a friend’s bachelorette due to financial reasons, but I would probably be a bit annoyed with my friend for expecting us to shell out so much money for a bachelorette.
ETA: I just noticed those are parties YOU attended, not things you were suggesting… I’d be in huge financial debt right now if I was in your circle lol!
To answer your question, the most I’ve spend was probably around $400, but that’s because I hosted the party. For my bachelorette, my Maid/Matron of Honor got us a hotel suite in downtown Chicago, we ordered in pizza and Italian food ($17/girl), we went to a drag show ($20/girl) and then we just went back to the hotel bar afterwards. The max my friends spent was probably $200 to attend my party.
Post # 8
FutureDrAtkins: Haha, that would be a pretty phenomenal sequence of bachelorettes if they were all for me! My friends currently getting married are all lawyers/doctors and they move in those circles so they have more disposable income, I’m definitely the poor friend! I expect and hope when my poorer student friends (like me) get married, the bachelorette costs will be a bit more manageable. Yours sounds entirely reasonable and really fun!
Post # 9
The bachelorette that me & one of the other bridesmaids are planning right now is going to be relatively inexpensive for the guests. The only bigger cost is the hotel (2 rooms split between 8 people, so not bad!). Their other costs will include their own dinner & drinks, cover for the bar and a brewery tour (where the most you pay is $26, depends on what you want at the end…a bottle opener, 6-pack of beer or 12-pack of beer). So the base cost (not including their own dinner & drinks) will be less than $100.
Post # 10
cece_intheuk: Unfortunately the bachelorettes I’ve attended have cost me similar figures to yours. My friends are also all well paid professionals married to professionals – doctors, lawyers, business execs, while my husband and I are both academics. There is a pretty huge difference in our household income vs theirs. I have four weddings to go *this year*… Thankfully, after this year, all of my good friends should be married off so I can be bachelorette party free (sorry casual friends, I don’t shell out that kind of money for you)!
Just because I’ve paid to attend obscenely expensive parties, doesn’t mean I don’t think they’re out of touch and inappropriate to expect of friends.