(Closed) How much help do you need to provide your BMs?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I don’t know if it’s just me, but I don’t feel that that is very “needy” of them. I sort of expect to do that myself. I guess if you have a lot of BMs that would be hard to manage – is that the case? Sorry you are so frustrated though! Just know they probably just want your final approval and to have a shopping experience with you rather than alone.

Post # 4
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5655 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

I gave them txt reminders and deadline dates… put all the dress info in my “wedding wishlist” when we all went to DB so all they had to do was call, give them my name and date info, and the dress info was there…and again.. txt reminders and deadline dates..

Just wait till you have MOB and MOG txting pics of dresses to make sure they’re okay. lol

There was no way I could go with them again.. I have 2 bm here and 2 out of town (oot being where db is)

Oh… and I’ve also had to give reminders about things like bachelorette party plannings and anything else dates related… lol

just breath and get on the txt and email train =)

 

Post # 6
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2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@AmeliaBedelia: I agree… its your wedding, you should be involved with them doing these things. I gave my BM’s a list of dresses as inspirations (or they could choose those dresses), gave them a list of stores, ordered their dresses for them (I’m still waiting for one of them to pay me back), etc. I would have gone with them for all of that if I were in the country. I don’t think they’re asking much…

Post # 7
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6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

@brenna1035: Oh well I don’t think you should have to search for deals. If they want the deal, they can find the deal themselves. It’s not your “job.”

Post # 9
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5498 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I went with all my BM’s on an individual “girl day” to hang out and order their dresses. Each girl was supposed to pick whatever they wanted as long as it was knee length and in the same color (that didn’t happen thanks to DB), so it was nice to go with them. I guess I just looked at it as a fun thing to do.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

maybe asking you to look for deals was their way of hinting that the dress was out of their budget?? Just a thought, otherwise, if you went with them to pick it out then they should be able to order it themselves. That being said, you sound super stressed out… breath… all of these details won’t matter in 10 years anyway 🙂

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