Post # 1
I am kinda frustrated. I took my BMs out in November to pick out dresses and get sized. I gave them the dress name/number/color and thought they would kind of figure it out.
But now they are asking me to look around for good deals on the dress and go with them to the store to put the order in. That was only after reminding them that dresses take time to come in so they need to think about getting them soon.
I really don’t want to have to hold everybody’s hand through everything. I already have no help from my Fiance so this is just….GAH!!
Anyone else having needy Bridesmaid or Best Man issues?
Post # 3
I don’t know if it’s just me, but I don’t feel that that is very “needy” of them. I sort of expect to do that myself. I guess if you have a lot of BMs that would be hard to manage – is that the case? Sorry you are so frustrated though! Just know they probably just want your final approval and to have a shopping experience with you rather than alone.
Post # 4
I gave them txt reminders and deadline dates… put all the dress info in my “wedding wishlist” when we all went to DB so all they had to do was call, give them my name and date info, and the dress info was there…and again.. txt reminders and deadline dates..
Just wait till you have MOB and MOG txting pics of dresses to make sure they’re okay. lol
There was no way I could go with them again.. I have 2 bm here and 2 out of town (oot being where db is)
Oh… and I’ve also had to give reminders about things like bachelorette party plannings and anything else dates related… lol
just breath and get on the txt and email train =)
Post # 5
Hmm needy wasn’t the right word, I guess. I just want to say “how hard is it to figure it out?” I already have enough on my plate without having to search online for deals for them when I am trying to plan as well.
Post # 6
I agree… its your wedding, you should be involved with them doing these things. I gave my BM’s a list of dresses as inspirations (or they could choose those dresses), gave them a list of stores, ordered their dresses for them (I’m still waiting for one of them to pay me back), etc. I would have gone with them for all of that if I were in the country. I don’t think they’re asking much…
Post # 7
Oh well I don’t think you should have to search for deals. If they want the deal, they can find the deal themselves. It’s not your “job.”
Post # 8
THANK YOU! I was thinking that was a bit too much! I already set up the order at the store andI gave them all the info they needed. I work full time and planning takes up a lot of my free time.
kingytobe (message) June 26, 2011 Illinois
@AmeliaBedelia: I agree… its your wedding, you should be involved with them doing these things. I gave my BM’s a list of dresses as inspirations (or they could choose those dresses), gave them a list of stores, ordered their dresses for them (I’m still waiting for one of them to pay me back), etc. I would have gone with them for all of that if I were in the country. I don’t think they’re asking much…
I HAVE picked out their dresses and set up the order at the store. I would love to be able to go with them everywhere, but we all work. I do not think it is part of my resposibility to search for deals for them or drive them to the store. Sheesh!
Post # 9
I went with all my BM’s on an individual “girl day” to hang out and order their dresses. Each girl was supposed to pick whatever they wanted as long as it was knee length and in the same color (that didn’t happen thanks to DB), so it was nice to go with them. I guess I just looked at it as a fun thing to do.
Post # 10
I guess I should clarify. We all have been tot he store to pick dresses. I thought I mentioned that, but oops! We had a really fun day. That was back in November. I sent them an email today, just reminding them that dresses take time to come in so they should order. The responses I got were “will you try to find it online for me” And “Can you come with me to pick it up”
Don’t get me wrong. I love hanging out with my girls. But when they have the means and opprotunity to do this themselves, it frustrates me. I am doing it anyway, because it’s not worth it to start a fight or anything. I am just frustrated.
Post # 11
maybe asking you to look for deals was their way of hinting that the dress was out of their budget?? Just a thought, otherwise, if you went with them to pick it out then they should be able to order it themselves. That being said, you sound super stressed out… breath… all of these details won’t matter in 10 years anyway 🙂