Post # 120

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Newbee
Kslim13 : I bet that orthopedic surgeon finds great fulfillment in his work though, and the 1 million is just an added perk, not what actually motivates him to do his job.
hampsterdance : more like reverse ageism when the higher ups refuse to quit and have allll the power, so the more junior staff can’t move up the ladder…a vent for another time.
Manifestation doesn’t mean all I do is say “I want a million dollars” and I get it. For me, it’s about how I change my perception and then do something about it. Instead of “I HAVE to go to work/exercise/study” it’s “I GET to go to work etc”. Instead of “i have to walk 5km to work because I can’t afford public transport” it’s “i am privileged to have a healthy body to allows me to walk etc”. I also say “it is easy to make money” because it is all perception. But I don’t just say it and sit around. When I told myself running 10km was easy I literally found doing it in 54 min was comfortable (and I’m not that fit), a time I couldn’t achieve before.
I’m constantly changing and I think by making “provide for family” my biggest priority, superficial wants melt away with ease. Like I honestly agree the 70k car every 5 years is so stupid now, what was I thinking?! Deciding between several designer bags or a year of private school is an easy choice.
Post # 121

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Buzzing bee
bougainvillea : wait so you’re Australian? I haven’t seen you say that elsewhere. Is your ideal income Australian money or American? Im sure everyone thinks you’re talking American dollar. $100,000 AUD is $70,000 USD.
I live in Auckland and it’s very expensive. Average house price is $1 million Nzd which is $660,000 USD. That’s a super average house in a suburb i wouldn’t live in.
Post # 122

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Busy bee
OP, I commend the fact that you’re receptive to ideas, pushback, and can handle criticism well. It’s not super common.
Post # 123

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Buzzing Beekeeper
bougainvillea : plenty of people do flip clothes as a side gig! My husband flips items from his hobbies all the time to finance the hobby. If it allows you to enjoy something within a reasonable budget then that’s perfectly legit.
The key here is you have big goals. Which is great! But every scarf is that much money away from your ultimate goal of buying a home and retiring early with 4 kids in private school. Whenever I consider a purchase I think “is this worth taking $70 away from future Lilli?” if it’s something I need or really want then the answer is yes. I won’t give up all comforts for present Lilli for future Lilli. But I do give up a lot when I think of it that way.
Post # 125

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Helper bee
bougainvillea : I’m just happy I don’t have to eat boiled chicken anymore.