(Closed) How much information do you prefer to know for a proposal?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Private lodge

I know he knows what rings I like. and I know its coming before june 15.  but the suspense is killing me.  Literally I think.  Anyone else feeling like they KNOW they should just relax and enjoy the wait?

Post # 17
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Bee Keeper

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merebear486:  I am betting you are going to get the ring and proposal you want and be thrilled. Your friends run the risk of being disappointed due to lack of communication. There are multiple threads about that on WB ALL. THE. TIME.

I don’t really understand the whole idea of the proposal being a “surprise” if the couple has already established they are getting married. It isn’t like if he keeps the ring and date a secret you are going to be like “Oh my gosh, I never saw it coming!”

Congrats on your upcoming engagement!

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee

I knew nothing about the ring or proposal. And I liked it that way. But honestly, not everyone feels the same way. And that’s fine.

Post # 19
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - City, State

I think it’s totally personal preference.

We’re going ring shopping together just because we have different tastes. However, I don’t want to see the finished product (if he ends up buying the setting and diamond separately), until the actual proposal.

I don’t want any surprises when it comes to the ring LOL, but the proposal is all him.

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee

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Bridey77:  we had talked about getting married in our first year of dating. he didn’t propose until 3 years later. We new we were getting married early on but he still wanted the proposal and the ring to be a surprise. I think it makes it more memorable. And there wasn’t a lack of communication either. He knew what I wanted and he proposed in a way that was special for both of us. I had no idea what was going on. Haha.

Post # 21
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

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merebear486:  I picked my ring setting.  Other than that I knew nothing.  I didn’t know when he bought it, I didn’t pick the center stone.  His timeline had already passed (his 30th birthday) then our 8 year anniversary, christmas, new years and then it was my 30th – 9 months after his said timeline).  If he hadn’t proposed for my birthday, there probably would have been an argument/serious discussion but I’m glad I didn’t KNOW.  I had a pretty good idea.  Christmas was hard, I knew in my heart it wouldn’t be Christmas but we were with his family back east and everyone kept telling me they thought it would be Christmas which was hard. 

Long story short, not knowing is hard, but having that little surprise is also pretty great 😀

Post # 22
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Newbee

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merebear486:  All I know is the ring and that it’ll be before Christmas! I don’t want to know anything else now. When he gave me my promise ring it was a complete suprise,  so I’m ok with just knowing the proposal will happen! 

Post # 23
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Once DH wanted to go look at rings, so I could get a sense of ones may look like on – I knew a proposal would come at some point – just not as soon as it actually did.

I didn’t feel like my moment was any less special. He wanted to make sure that I loved the ring, and wanted to check things out before.

The proposal was still a surprise, as I figured he’d wait MONTHS after we looked before buying. But nope! He went a little over a week later, and proposed that same week. That, was my moment.

Post # 24
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Helper bee

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Free2bme:  “Anyone else feeling like they KNOW they should just relax and enjoy the wait?”<br /><br />

My thoughts exactly. Way easier said than done lol. I want it to be a surprise (and so does he) but I can’t get it out of my head.

Post # 25
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

To be honest, I wish I knew more! We looked at rings together a while back and got an idea of what looked good on me, what he liked, and what I didn’t like. But other than that, it’s been radio silence. 

Any time I try to bring it up, suggest alternatives, or do some research about good places to check out, he completely shuts it down. I wish we could openly discuss it together, but he’s very traditional about the whole thing. 

I guess it will work out fine in the end, but it’s hard to give up some of that control.

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I’m in the same boat. I know my SO made the first payment on the ring, I know he asked for both of my parents permission, (they of course said Yes) , and I know it should be done by the end of this year. My sister made a comment two days ago, as to why he would tell me. I said, well we are very laid back and I don’t care if I know because in a way it makes the proposal more special, then a surprise. Before he found the ring ,we were actually going to go ring shopping together. I mean, yes, I didn’t want to know anything, but then I thought about it and I thought this is unique. So either way if I knew or not the question will still be a surprise. 

 

Post # 28
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Newbee
  • Wedding: Tom\'s Country Place

It sounds like you only know about the ring…not the proposal. Having input on a piece of jewelry you’re expected to wear for pretty much the rest of your life is not unreasonable. Having a timeline will help keep you sane—not ruin things. If he starts giving actual details (eg. plans to take you to a nice dinner, profess his love in front of the restaurant) tell him to please keep that part a surprise. 

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

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petitendetailed:  yeah,that is the only thing I know is about the ring. It is still exciting though knowing that I’ll be engaged soon. I don’t know what the ring looks like, I assume small because I have very small fingers. I’m simple so I didn’t want to much on the ring. It would look awkward. We went ring shopping before and tried on various rings.  From what he told me it should be around Christmas time. I knew it wasn’t going to be my birthday (yesterday) . He is keeping the actual proposal a “secret” . He asked what I wanted in a proposal , which quite honestly I never really thought of. I said I want it private, not in front of people.  I mainly want him to come up with something. I know he is creative,so he will come up with something in someway or another. So I don’t have to be worried about professing his love to me in front of people.  Haha. He hasn’t given me details about the actual proposal ,but just about how he paid for the ring. Which is enough  for me. A proposal is coming soon , so in a way it is knowing , just not as detailed. 🙂 I’m excited though!

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Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I think it’s all up to the person. Who cares what everyone thinks. It’s what you want. I prefer to not know a single detail. 

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