(Closed) How Much Input Did Your BMs Have In Dresses?

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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kma291:  I told them I wanted long, sent them a ton of different pictures of styles I thought were pretty but when we went to pick out dresses in the store, I let them choose entirely on their own as long as they were long dresses

Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I chose the color, and told them they could wear what they wanted in that color. I did pick out a few of my favorites on the DB website, and when we went to the store they tried some of those on. They are all a similar style with different necklines/shoulders – 2 went with a one-shoulder, and 1 went with strapless, but the bodice and skirt are the same. 

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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mkebride2016:  that survey is such an awesome idea!!

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee

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kma291:  I did kind of the same thing you did I think.  I told the girls short pink dresses.  The styles chosen so far are fine but I wish I had given them more guidance on the color.  So far I have one bright dark pink, one coral and one that looks red.  But I have just decided oh well.  I let them have leeway in the first place because my preference was for them to each choose something they liked and felt flatternig to them.  I’m in my 30s so I’m not planning to put a bunch of pictures of my girlfriends in cute poses/matching dresses up on my walls anyway.  And the girls are seeming to like choosing whatever they want (go figure! :)). 

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I’m sure I’m a terrible bride, but NONE – no input whatsoever. 

That said, I included their dresses in their “will you be my BM” boxes, so I paid for them (US bride) and I also picked a style that’s pretty universally flattering (two wide straps, natural waistline, non-restrictive skirt). All of my girls are of “average” proportions in size 2-12. There was not a random outlier where I was worried about fit either way.

Because the dresses came before they accepted being BMs, I suppose they could have declined if they were that big of a deal breaker!! 🙂

Post # 21
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I told them what colour I was thinking, they ok’d that. Then I sent them a picture of the dress and they said it was pretty so I bought them. One benefit of being a UK bride and purchasing the dress for them is that they are probably more agreeable because they aren’t using their own money. 

I also only have 2, and both have similar body shapes and dark hair which made it easier to pick

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

None really. They were rented for $55 a piece from a local place. It’s basically where all Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses come from in my town, so it was pretty much assumed that would be the choice. I sent a pic of the dress to them, and I would have considered something else if anyone had voiced a concern, but they all loved them. Especially the price and the fact that they didn’t have to live with them.

Post # 24
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Bumble bee

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BeachBee1988:  

Completely forgivable to give no option if you’re paying, IMO. 

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I chose the color (plum), material (satin), and length (long) and asked them to all choose their own tops/silhouettes. All the dresses will be from DB as it seemed the most budget friendly. I also told my Maid/Matron of Honor and her daughte, my JR bridesmaid, that they could have a different color if they wanted (either lighter purple or silver/gray) but so far everyone is happy with Plum 🙂

Post # 26
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Bumble bee

I’m giving a color family and we’re working together to find something within budget (we’re all really close friends, so its a group thing, not one on one, but if it were, I’d then work one on one with them) and getting ideas and then just picking and choosing and eliminating. Since I’m having different colors anyway (all within the purple family) it doesn’t matter if they don’t match (we’re going with the same type of material and within the color family, and probably length). So that way everyone is happy at the end of the day. But like with everything, it works for some people, doesn’t for others. For us, we’ve just known each other for years and everyone is comfortable throwing out opinions and saying what they do and don’t like to each other. 

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

I wanted all of my bridesmaids to wear the same dress. I asked them for budget and what kind of dresses they didn’t like. Some girls wre uncomfortable in strapless. I picked out several choices, none of them strapless, and took all of my girls with me to try some on. The one we chose was most flatering and comfortable on everyone. 

Post # 28
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I gave them a link to about 20 dresses on Weddington Way. The dresses ranged in price and silhouette, and various price points. I got lots of input on what worked, and one brand won out. I told them to pick a dress from that color and brand; my only other requirement was that it was floor-length. 

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

I chose the colour and gave them 3 options to pick from! No one comlpained!

Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2018 - City Hall

My first wedding we went shopping together to find one style they all liked. That didn’t happen. So I decided to give them a piece of material with the exact color I wanted them to wear, told them I wanted the dress short. And they all went and got different styles of dresses, all perfectly matching the color I wanted, all short. And they were happy with their choices and what they spent 🙂 This second go around, I’ll be doing the same.

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