(Closed) How Much Input Did Your BMs Have In Dresses?

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 31
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I gave mine a lot, but I only have 2. My only requests were that they be long, flattering and not blue or red, lol.

Post # 32
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I am also doing mismatched. Different shades, different styles. My one requirement they all have to be long. My Maid/Matron of Honor gets to pick her color shade and style first.

Post # 33
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I picked a designer and fabric/colour and they all had free reign to choose any dress that was available in that combo. 

This was all their final choices. 

Post # 34
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I accidentally came across the dress I’ve picked for my bridesmaids – I wasn’t actually planning to start looking this early, but it was perfect. I showed it to my bridesmaids (individually) and they all gave it the thumbs up. If one of them had said that they hated it or something, I would have kept looking. If I hadn’t have found this dress, I was planning to ask them for ideas.

Post # 35
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2016 - Liberty House

I gave mine basically full reign. I picked the color and we went on Weddington Way and had everyone add dresses to the “showroom” that they liked. Weddington Way just so happened to be having a pop up shop near us, so we went after work and all of them tried a couple of different styles each. They ended up deciding on one together! (I also have pretty laidback bridesmaids lol)

Post # 36
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I told them I wanted them all in he same dress but that they could pick.  I was open to whatever but I showed them one that I liked (convertible dress that wound up being right around $100 once shipping was added) and they all loved it.  

Post # 37
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Besides saying – short and grey I gave my bridesmaids free reign for picking their dress. It was just easier for me that way.

Post # 38
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Sugar bee

They picked them themselves. I think where you’ve made life hard for yourself is on the face of it giving them free reign but in practice not actually doing that. like, if they’re picking them there really should be no need for rejections. they’re adults and can probably liaise between themselves to pull together a cohesive look *if* they really do have freedom to choose. If not, if you want control, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. But maybe make what you want clearer and send links to a handful of dresses they can select from. 

Post # 39
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

The times that I got to pick my own dress, I wish the bride(s) had been a little more clear. One bride who gave us the brand, length, color and material she wanted, but whatever style we wanted.That was a lot more helpful than the other weddings I’ve been in where the bride was like I want light pink. You have some many different shades of baby pink (or dark purple, etc.) and it made me more confusing. One, the bride gets a 100 emails from every Bridesmaid or Best Man asking if it’s the ‘right’ color. Two, as time goes on, the bride now decides not just ANY deep purple will do but now it’s got to be closer to eggplant and you have to return the dress to fit more with the idea she now has in mind.

Honestly, I’m never going to wear the dress again. I’d rather just have me bride tell me what to wear.

 

Post # 40
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I picked the material and length and color that I was aiming for. We all picked the specific color together and they each picked the style they wanted.

Post # 41
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

My case was different in that I only have my Maid/Matron of Honor, no bridesmaids.. so it was very easy.  I told her the wedding colors and we started a pinterest board and kept pinning anything we liked (and deleting anything the other person pinned if we disliked it).  We ended up agreeing on a skirt/top combo we both thought was great and would really compliment my dress.  She went out and picked the fabric, and her mother is making the skirt.. I can’t wait to see it!

Post # 42
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Bumble bee

I tried a weddington way board, then my stepsister found a beautiful (and cheap!) dress on Azazie. I sent the link to the group, they all liked it the best of any of the options, and it was decided. So I picked the length and color, but they had a ton of say over the actual dress (especially since my stepsister, who is a bridesmaid, found it 🙂 )

Post # 43
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

90%? I told them they should be grey, not too sparkly and cover their ass/boobs. They ended up all choosing tea length empire waisted dresses with at least some lace, so it looked like I had put in a lot of work making the perfect not-too-matchy set. Pretty awesome. 

Post # 44
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I was recently a bridesmaid and was allowed virtually no input. She was putting a bunch on pinterest, and her mom would comment about the dresses being too pretty and we would overshadow the bride if we wore them. In the end we were given 3 options to choose from. They were all pretty frumpy and she never asked how much we were able to spend. I had to have alterations done and she chose a color that had to be custom ordered, so I have no hope of selling it. I spent way more than I should’ve due to an $11,000 hospital stay, which she knew about. 

 

I’m honored she chose me as a bridesmaid, but being in her wedding soured our relationship a little. 

Post # 45
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Mine can pick any dress that is a) From David’s bridal, b) Satin, c) Horizon (color), and d) long.

That still gives them 19 options, which I think isn’t bad.  But they’ll still all look cohesive.

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