Post # 62
All I said was ‘No yellow gold’
He went to the jewelry store on his own, he described my style to the sales lady. She hooked him up with a round cut diamond on a plain white gold band to propose with. We went back after the engagement and picked out a new setting.
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Post # 64
He designed it himself with our jewler, who I didn’t know at the time. He knew from my friend that I liked something that looked antique, and liked a square center stone, and that it could not be gold, white gold, or silver because I am allergic to all of those things. When he proposed I received a beautiful palladium ring that looks very similiar to CupcakeSprinkles’s. Just make the center stone princess cut. 🙂 I think he did a great job, and I am glad that it was a surprise.
Post # 65
- Wedding: May 2011 - Trinity Lutheran Church & Idlewild Country Club
I told him I wanted a gemstone, and then emailed him about 12 different photos.
He picked out something perfect. IT’s funny though, I remember telling a friend of mine that I really would dislike something with yellow gold. Good thing I didn’t tell Fiance though, because he got me a yellow gold ring! And it’s perfect!
Post # 66
Thanks for all the input… and for those of you who posted pictures, BEAUTIFUL rings :).
I guess it totally depends on the couple, and while I think I’ll eventually make it clear that it’s important to me that my diamond has been graded by an independent lab like GIA, I’ll probably leave the ring-choosing up to him (with minor or possibly indirect input).
I still have no idea what I want style-wise… I always thought I’d want a round solitaire but lately have been LOVING halo rings… but for me the certification part is a must in a being-reponsible kind of way (it’s really the only way to have proof of the qualities of your diamond), so I’d better just say something.
Post # 67
I really didn’t know what I wanted and once he realized how expensive they are and how much he wanted to spend he kind of insisted that we go ring shopping together. I left the certification, etc. up to him because he seemed to be all over it and I knew anything I said wouldn’t make a big diffence in what he ended up buying. They only thing I hinted towards was that I would rather him spend more money on the stone than the setting, but that’s how he already felt. After going ring shopping we realized hands-down the best style for me was a six-prong brilliant cut solitaire which was easy for him to buy on Blue Nile.
Post # 68
I had told him my dream ring was a Tiffanys princess cut platinum cut diamond- and thats what he surprised me with 🙂
Post # 69
I told the Fi that since i have tiny hands I hate big rings. A big ring would look super tacky on my hand and very silly. I also told him i do not want a really exspensive ring I would not feel comfortable wearing something that put him in debt or that would restrian are future savings. He did a good job and got me a simple ring in white gold for under 1000 I absolutely love it.
Post # 70
I THOUGHT I knew what I wanted. He looked online and asked some opinions and he did pretty good… (with a few in there that were not so good.)
Originally, I told him what I liked, and then came a fateful day he decided to allow me to “try on rings.” Good thing too, I HATED what I thought I loved on my hand! It then became a search to find the perfect “band” first and worry about the stones later. We found one, and it’s not on my hand yet so I can’t be 100% sure that I’m actually getting that one 😉 But I’m glad that I did try on rings!
I still would have been happy and wouldn’t have really known… but now I should be getting perfection 😉
Post # 71
Didn’t give him any input at all.
A friend of ours got engaged around last Christmas and while she and I, with my fiance’s sister, were flipping through bridal magazines, we were lusting after the designer rings and I said very fleetingly, “Oh, I love the antique settings – the ones with diamonds around them in a square shape.” He overheard it and remembered it when he went engagement ring shopping for me. 🙂
Post # 72
I used my sister’s as a guideline (and easy way into the topic). Like, “Oh, I really like her ring, but if it were me, I would have preferred a. b. and c. Also made sure to tell my sister the ring I wanted, and she was able to be pushier with him (gotta love a big sis!) about making sure I’d love it. Have you dropped ANY hints whatsoever?
Post # 73
My fiance asked me what my dream ring would be and I told him
1. Platinum b/c I am allergic to gold
2. Square cut diamonds
3. 3 diamonds set w/ center stone of at leat 1 carat (I don’t like solitaires)
4. I wanted my e-ring and wedding band to be a matching set
He EXCEEDED my expectations in every way
Post # 74
I haven’t really said much yet… I guess I should probably figure out what style ring I want first, and then slip the other specifications in :).
Thanks for helping!
Post # 75
My center stone is an heirloom, so I only had input on the setting. We shopped together to look at styles I liked and then he was on his own.
Post # 76
Most diamonds ARE conflict free these days if you buy from a chain or a reputable dealer.
I honestly don’t care about certification , grading, etc. I don’t WANT him to spend 6K on a “perfect” 1ct. diamond. Dig it out the ground and put it on my hand… it’s about the symbolism of the commitment we’re making to one another not how sparkly my stone is.