(Closed) How much instruction did you give him on the ring?

posted 12 years ago in Rings
Post # 62
268 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

All I said was ‘No yellow gold’

He went to the jewelry store on his own, he described my style to the sales lady. She hooked him up with a round cut diamond on a plain white gold band to propose with. We went back after the engagement and picked out a new setting.

Post # 64
96 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

He designed it himself with our jewler, who I didn’t know at the time.  He knew from my friend that I liked something that looked antique, and liked a square center stone, and that it could not be gold, white gold, or silver because I am allergic to all of those things.  When he proposed I received a beautiful palladium ring that looks very similiar to CupcakeSprinkles’s. Just make the center stone princess cut. πŸ™‚ I think he did a great job, and I am glad that it was a surprise.

Post # 65
249 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Trinity Lutheran Church & Idlewild Country Club

I told him I wanted a gemstone, and then emailed him about 12 different photos.

He picked out something perfect. IT’s funny though, I remember telling a friend of mine that I really would dislike something with yellow gold. Good thing I didn’t tell Fiance though, because he got me a yellow gold ring! And it’s perfect!

Post # 67
4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I really didn’t know what I wanted and once he realized how expensive they are and how much he wanted to spend he kind of insisted that we go ring shopping together. I left the certification, etc. up to him because he seemed to be all over it and I knew anything I said wouldn’t make a big diffence in what he ended up buying. They only thing I hinted towards was that I would rather him spend more money on the stone than the setting, but that’s how he already felt. After going ring shopping we realized hands-down the best style for me was a six-prong brilliant cut solitaire which was easy for him to buy on Blue Nile.

Post # 68
168 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I had told him my dream ring was a Tiffanys princess cut platinum cut diamond- and thats what he surprised me with πŸ™‚

Post # 69
383 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I told the Fi that since i have tiny hands I hate big rings.  A big ring would look super tacky on my hand and very silly.  I also told him i do not want a really exspensive ring I would not feel comfortable wearing something that put him in debt or that would restrian are future savings. He did a good job and got me a simple ring in white gold for under 1000 I absolutely love it.

Post # 70
2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I THOUGHT I knew what I wanted.  He looked online and asked some opinions and he did pretty good… (with a few in there that were not so good.)

Originally, I told him what I liked, and then came a fateful day he decided to allow me to “try on rings.”  Good thing too, I HATED what I thought I loved on my hand!  It then became a search to find the perfect “band” first and worry about the stones later.  We found one, and it’s not on my hand yet so I can’t be 100% sure that I’m actually getting that one πŸ˜‰ But I’m glad that I did try on rings!  

I still would have been happy and wouldn’t have really known… but now I should be getting perfection πŸ˜‰

Post # 71
25 posts

Didn’t give him any input at all.

A friend of ours got engaged around last Christmas and while she and I, with my fiance’s sister, were flipping through bridal magazines, we were lusting after the designer rings and I said very fleetingly, “Oh, I love the antique settings – the ones with diamonds around them in a square shape.” He overheard it and remembered it when he went engagement ring shopping for me. πŸ™‚

Post # 72
236 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I used my sister’s as a guideline (and easy way into the topic).  Like, “Oh, I really like her ring, but if it were me, I would have preferred a. b. and c.  Also made sure to tell my sister the ring I wanted, and she was able to be pushier with him (gotta love a big sis!) about making sure I’d love it.  Have you dropped ANY hints whatsoever?

Post # 73
2148 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

My fiance asked me what my dream ring would be and I told him

1. Platinum b/c I am allergic to gold

2. Square cut diamonds

3. 3 diamonds set w/ center stone of at leat 1 carat (I don’t like solitaires)

4. I wanted my e-ring and wedding band to be a matching set

He EXCEEDED my expectations in every way

Post # 75
958 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My center stone is an heirloom, so I only had input on the setting.  We shopped together to look at styles I liked and then he was on his own.

Post # 76
2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Most diamonds ARE conflict free these days if you buy from a chain or a reputable dealer.

I honestly don’t care about certification , grading, etc.  I don’t WANT him to spend 6K on a “perfect” 1ct. diamond.  Dig it out the ground and put it on my hand… it’s about the symbolism of the commitment we’re making to one another not how sparkly my stone is.


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