Post # 1
So bee’s, my shower invites are going out tomorrow and I just got off the phone with my sister/MOH and I feel like a peice of crap. Back when the shower planning was originally going on, I had four bridesmaids splitting the cost four ways, and everyone agreed on prices, the venue, etc. Well, since then, I’ve found myself down a bridesmaid and costs are now split 3 ways. Doing the math, the shower is going to be coming out to approximately 400, if everyone RSVPs. I’ve only been in two weddings, and I don’t remember how much I paid. So my questions are, is this overboard, and should I offer to kick in and help pay for the “missing” bridesmaid?
Post # 4
It seems like a lot to me. I would offer to chip in for the missing bridesmaid because your friends determined the budget with her included.
Post # 5
The shower for one of my friends was about $1,080 split between 7 bridesmaids. That came out to just over $150 per girl. I thought $1,080 was a bit over the top for a shower but not the bride’s fault since she didn’t know. It was the Maid/Matron of Honor who wanted to rent out a venue, pooh pooh-d the idea of us providing the food in favor of a caterer and had us purchase table runners and centerpieces – the whole shebang. It was like a mini wedding.
Post # 6
we normally split the cost of a gift, so that really depends on what we get them.
We have the shower at a relative’s house. we all bring a dish and the aunts/moms help and do the same if we need it. And then those that may not cook do the invites or favors and might bring a few drinks and paper products. Decorations are a minimum (pretty much a few flowers), one of my aunts almost always get the cake.
No RSVPs only regrets.
I don’t think I have ever spent that much! That is crazy!
Post # 7
I think I’ll be paying about $150 for my friend’s, but I’m hosting it at my house. Other BMs are bringing cupcakes and another is making sandwiches, but I’m funding invites, all of the other food and decorations, which is completely fine. I don’t think I could ever say I was okay with paying $400, not even if you were my best friend. Sorry :(. I would chip in.
Post # 8
This is helping me A LOT! Keep em coming.
@nqz100: thank you for posting this.
Post # 9
Is that $400 total or per person?
The most I’ve paid was abot $300. We rented out a room at a local restaurant and had the shower there. I thought that was reasonable. Shower turned out very nice and it was easy because we didn’t have to worry about food, or cleanup.
Post # 10
I’m praying my ladies feel this way. The venues my MOH is looking at will all equal about $300 per bridesmaid. I’m worried now…
Post # 11
Seems about right. Most showers I’ve thrown cost about $1600. (4 or 5 people intended on throwing)
Usually the attempt was to divide them between a bunch of people, but somehow a lot of them ended up dropping out of helping. For my sister I paid $1200 out of my pocket and my mom paid the rest. Her other bm’s contributed nothing.
Post # 12
we never have a clean up problem because everyone stays (not guests) and helps and it goes really fast, like 30 min maybe,
Post # 13
@nqz100: That seems like a lot to me. I paid $150 once, not including the gift. But it was at the brides parents house.
Post # 14
why is CT so damn expensive!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Post # 16
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
We did a shower for a friend in early May at a local winery, and it ended up being about $350ish per person for the shower (not including our individual gifts to the bride). There were 3 of us contributing. We had the rental fee for the winery, the tasting fee for the wines, purchased several bottles of wine for the group to drink, did a full spread of food and cake, and rented a bus so that no one had to drive. When we surprised the bride with her shower, tears of joy welled up in her eyes. That was all I needed. Best feeling in the world. <3