Post # 1
How much is too much to ask my girls and friends to pay for the bachlorette? They want me to give them ideas and i wouldnt mind actually going away. Somehting like a weekend at a cabin resort. Im not huge into clubs and stuff but if that is what they choose im ok with that to. If so would staying at a hotel downtown also be something too much to suggest??
Post # 3
It really just depends on your friends’ budgets so I would just be upfront and ask them what they would be comfortable spending (or maybe have your Maid/Matron of Honor ask). My FI’s friends are in their thirties and do pretty well for themselves so they’ve shelled out $500-$800 for each other’s bachelor parties. My friends, on the other hand, are in their mid-twenties and on tight budgets so we’re only doing about $200 per person.
Post # 4
I think it also depends on your friends. My girls surprised me with a trip and paid for everything. I would never have asked them to do that and offered to pay for meals, but they wouldn’t let me. I just paid them back with a nice wedding party gift.
Post # 5
I also think you have to consider what you are asking them to pay in total for them participating in the wedding. Are they also paying for a $200 dress + $50 shoes + $70 hair & makeup + $100 bridal shower + $xxx travel expenses to wedding?
If you are asking them to pay all of the above, I’d be hesitant to expect them to continue to shell out tons of $$ for a backelorette.
Post # 6
I would just ask your friends how much they are willing to spend. Then choose something based on what they tell you.
Post # 7
I think it all comes down to how much they can afford so maybe the best thing to do is just ask them what their maximum would be? And try to aim a little lower than that? I personally wouldn’t want to pay more than $300.
If it helps at all, my plan is to have a party where people can join in / leave depending on their budget.
– day out in Cambridge
– spa treatments (which people can opt out of and meet us for the next event if they want)
– traditional English afternoon tea at a hotel
– dinner & cocktails
– stay over in a cottage (again, people are free to go home at the end of the day if they don’t want to pay overnight accommodation)