(Closed) How Much is TOO much?

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Too many Bridesmaids?
    Theres No such thing as too many : (11 votes)
    11 %
    4-7 : (30 votes)
    29 %
    8+ : (61 votes)
    60 %
  • Post # 3
    6391 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    It seems like a ton to me, too, but DH had 8 groomsmen, and our day wouldn’t have been the same without all of them. I’m really glad they were all standing with us!

    Post # 4
    1961 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Large bridal parties seem to be a big thing lately. I have a lot more bridesmaids than I originally wanted, but I couldn’t decide between my friends (and having FI’s siblings and my sister was a must). We are at 8 girls and 9 guys. We are not having any junior BMs or GMs. As of right now we don’t have a flower girl or ring bearer either.

    My Future Sister-In-Law had 9 on each side when she was married. Our venue said that they’ve had to accomodate the head table for large parties quite a bit this last year. If I started my planning over again I probably wouldn’t have picked so many people. 

    Post # 5
    3000 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    You might want to change the poll to add more options. I have 4 BMs in my wedding, and I think 6 is too many, so there wasn’t really an option for me to vote!

    Post # 6
    542 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I think after like 6 of each, it’s just more of a hassle and a lot of people to deal with (especially for pictures), but everyone is different I guess.

    Personally myself I’m having 5 BMs, 5GMs, flower girl and ring bearer.

    Post # 7
    7365 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    For me I think anything over 3Bridesmaid or Best Man is alot. I just do not want to deal with more personalities than that. However, lately I’ve been thinking of adding one more girl as a Bridesmaid or Best Man, but I doubt if I’ll end up doing that. I’ve always imagined 3 girls.

    In addition, there is one of FH nieces (she’s a teen) that mentioned last year that she wants to be part of the bridal party. I think at the time I was like “sure” cause I what do you say at that moment. But she’s a really sweet girl and it would mean alot to his family, so she’d be Junior I suppose. Clearly nothing is set in stone.

    Post # 8
    904 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    The more people you add the more complicated it gets! Haha, we each have 5 on our side along with a flowergirl and ringbearer. I’m already dreading trying to get them to give input on a dress. 

    Post # 9
    40 posts
    • Wedding: July 2012

    We are both having 8. I think if I could redo my decision, however, I would have chosen only family. It’s complicated having this many and I feel as though they do not get as involved as they would with a smaller bridal party!

    Post # 10
    391 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Well that all depends on finaces too. BC the more girls and guys the more expenses can add up with their gifts etc.

    But the top thing I heard from my photographer is that she loved that we only had 4 Bridesmaid or Best Man and 4 Groomsmen bc it becomes really hard to do group pics w.too many people. BC their heads will becomes super tiny to get everyone in the picture and also it can be hard to organize bc people dont always listen.

    Post # 11
    611 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I voted 8+ but truthfully I think anything more than 5 is overkill…

    Post # 12
    893 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @allieluvs21:  I think double digits is too much, but I’ll be having 7 or 9 bridesmaids, while my Mr. Popular Fiance will be having double that!  My bridal party will have 2 groomsmen each, and they’re liking the idea, LOL

    Post # 13
    2853 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I think the bigger question is…. how many schedules do you want to have to try and coordinate? Especially for things pre-big-day. Dresses… e-party/showers… bridal party meet’n’greet… that kind of thing.

    Post # 14
    108 posts
    Blushing bee

    Really it’s up to your preference, the size of your wedding and how many people you’re willing to work with.  15 attendants on each side for a 75 person wedding would look awkward–half your guests would be in the wedding party!  I always feel that when in doubt, go smaller.  Fiance and I are having 3 on each side for our wedding–we don’t feel the need to drag up every one of our BFFs.  Most of our friends are going to be guests and probably much happier that way.

    Post # 15
    2192 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We have 8, which includes my daughter, two sisters, two FSILs and 3 friends.  It is even on both sides.  I am ok with that.  But once you get over the double digits I think its a bit loony.

    Post # 16
    365 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I think it depends how involved you want your girls to be. If you’re expecting them all to come round to help craft, or get together for lunch once a month than yes having lots of bridesmaids would be a headache.

    I had 3 bridesmaids and 4 flower girls, so 7 girls altogether, and I loved it. But I didn’t expect much from them, so there wasn’t much hasstle or drama.

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