(Closed) How much is too much?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Is $300 too much to ask a bridesmaid to spend on a dress.
    No, it's expensive but could be worth the cost for the right dress. : (13 votes)
    13 %
    Yes, it's way too much, I would never ask someone to pay that. : (84 votes)
    82 %
    Other, explained below. : (6 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee

    I don’t think there’s one right answer. Are your bridesmaids students or are they financially stable? Are they traveling far to the wedding and throwing you a weekend-long bachelorette party? It definitely depends on their all-in costs for the wedding and their financial situations. 

    For me personally, all of the girls are financially stable. Their only expenses will be dress, shoes (~$50), hair (~$50) and two nights in a hotel ($60/night). However, I don’t want being in my wedding to be burden, so I chose dresses for $99. 

     

    Post # 4
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Mine were $140.

    Post # 6
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    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Holy smokes $300 is too much….I’m financially stable and i’ts still too much. Mine were $20 apiece, but I paid for them. I also paid their hair and makeup and told them to pick out their own shoes within some guidelines.

    Post # 7
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    1207 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    Mine were $180, and they needed to be rush ordered, so my mom and I paid for that.  They can wear whatever black closed-toed shoes they want.  Jewelry is whatever, as long as it’s classy.  I made them hairpieces and capes as their gift.  They will have to pay $30 for make-up, but I am paying for them to stay in the hotel two nights.  I figured since the costs are a little more spread out it isn’t such a burden.  The $180 was in August, whatever alterations they need and then the $30 day of the wedding.  I agree with PP that it depends on your girls, how many are in school?  Are they financially stable?  If you have a bunch of students, it might make more sense to be a little less expensive in your choices.  I tried to find a dress for less than $200 that the girls would look good in, and that could be altered easliy into a cute shorter dress.  I have even offered to alter the dress for the girls for free after the wedding if they wish.

    ETA: I would probably not ask my girls to fork over $300 just for the dress. 

    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    It totally depends on whether it’s too much FOR THEM. For instance, one of my BMs would be totally willing to spend 300 or more on a dress if I loved it and she loved it. However, for my other BMs, they just can’t afford that. Would you be willing to contribute some money toward the purchase of the dress to bring it within a price range they can afford?

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    It always depends.

    For me, a student without a job, I could comfortably spend about $50 for a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress, but no professional hair, makeup, hotel expenses, or matching accessories. Such is life.

    Post # 10
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    Bumble bee

    It depends on what kind of people your BMs are and what they usually spend on clothing. If they would normally go out and buy a new dress for a wedding they were a guest at and spend $150 or so, then I don’t think $300 is too much for them. But if they are more frugal and only buy stuff on sale and at TJMaxx, then $300 is too much.

    Post # 11
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    3162 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    $300 is too much. I have always paid about $200 and that’s what I’m capping it at for my BMs, one of whom I know can’t afford to spend that much so I’m going to help her out with the dress. I really tried to find something for less than that but since they wanted to wear different styles to suit their body types and I want a specific color (tealish/peacock blue) and I’ve found in my searching that that color isn’t that easy to come by, I had to go with Aria dresses which are around $200. I liked other dresses better, and style-wise so did my BMs, but we agreed it was too much. I hate having them spend $200 even but I can easily rationalize it by saying that that’s what I’ve always paid.

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    My girls paid $190 for their dresses (including tax and shipping). I told them to just pick any dress in any style at any price in one specific color, and they all ended up picking the same one.

    I think that as long as the girls are 100 percent okay with it, and the dress is one that they can either wear again or it’s so unique that it’s worth the price, it’s okay with me. BUT, everyone’s financial situation is different. I would take into account other expenses they might have like shoes (will you require they all get the same ones, or can they look for a bargain/wear a pair they already have?), hair/make-up (or  can they do their own), travel expenses/hotel rooms, etc.

    I usually say that for girls who are out of school and financially stable anything under $300 would be fine with me, but for girls who are still in school or just starting out, I would try to keep it to around $100 or $150.

    Post # 13
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I think its a lot.  I think $200 would be my limit.

    Post # 14
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I guess it depends on the girls but for me, $200 is the very most I would pay/ask my girls to pay.

    Post # 15
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    i think that’s way too high, just having been a bridesmaid. $150 would be my max, considering they have to pay for so much other stuff to be in the wedding. my girls got lucky, my mom paid for my sil’s dress which was $112, and my sister’s dress was only $30.

    Post # 16
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    605 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2010 - Ritz-Carlton, Half Moon Bay

    i agree with what some others have said–it really depends on your set of friends, their financial situation, and other circumstances (are you paying for hair/makeup, lodging, travel or anything else).  personally that price seems high to me, but i don’t typically buy dresses for myself in that price range (i would love to, though!).  if your bridesmaids regularly spend that amount on their own wardrobe, then maybe it’s not as big of an issue.  good luck!

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