(Closed) How much is too much?

posted 11 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Is $300 too much to ask a bridesmaid to spend on a dress.

    No, it's expensive but could be worth the cost for the right dress.

    Yes, it's way too much, I would never ask someone to pay that.

    Other, explained below.

  • Post # 17
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I does depend on where you BM’s are in their lives.  If they’re all financially stable it might be alright.  If not, that would be a difficult amount to come up with for a dress, especially one they’ll most likely wear only once.  I decided to make sure the dress I chose was under $150.  I think that’s reasonable.  And the dress only ended up being $120, no one minded at all.

    Post # 18
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    $300 sounds like a lot to me and I make a good enough salary… unless your friends are making big bucks AND like to spend money on expensive clothes, I think it’s a little high.

    Post # 19
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    It is a little much… But this depends on how financially well off your bridesmaids are. My friend asked us to pay $300 for our dresses about 3 years ago and I was just out of university and starting work so I didnt have much money. I can remember thinking to myself holy gawd. My dresses were $189 or $207… I am giving them a choice of which one they want. And I am paying for their hair and buying them $100 gifts cause I feel kind of bad.

    Post # 20
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    $300 is way too much.  Especially with the economy the way it is and the issues in the world.  I paid for my Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses and hair and makeup were both done in-house.  🙂 Thank goodness for stalking style mags and mastering hair and makeup!  However, my wedding was a destination wedding, so the BMs all paid to get to the location 🙂

    Post # 21
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I agree with others that it depends, but overall this seems WAY too expensive. 

    Mine are $100-$150.  In fact one of my BMs just got hers on sale for $80.

    Post # 22
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    It really does depend.  I’m trying to stay under $200 for the dress.  I know they will still have to buy shoes, makeup, etc.

    Post # 23
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2009

    I think that in general asking bridesmaids to pay for dresses that you pick out is too much.  If they pick them out, sure, but (to me! just my opinion!  Smile) it is just not right to ask them to pay for something that THEY are wearing because YOU ask them to that is almost a 100% chance that they will never, ever wear again, despite what is thought.

    Post # 24
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

    I think 300 is a tad high…If you’re super set on the dress, maybe you can stalk it a bit and see if it goes on sale or try to negotiate a price with a bridal salon, depending on how many you’re ordering? For me, I think $250 would be the most I’d be willing to pay for a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress…But like others have said, if your girls are ok with that, then it doesn’t matter!

    Post # 25
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2020

    Mine were around $170 (after tax) so I paid $20ish per dress. I didn’t want my friends to have to pay more than $150 for a dress.

    I think $300 is WAY too much. I would say that it does depend on where you are from and who your bridesmaids are as to what is appropriate to ask.

    Post # 26
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    The first time I was a bridesmaid the bride picked out dresses that were $350 after shipping, then another $50 for alterations.  I shelled out $400 for an unflattering dress I will never wear again, and even though she is a good friend I still cringe when I think of that wasted money.  Chances are your bridesmaids won’t want to tell you straight up “$300 is ridiculous” because they don’t want to hurt your feelings, but trust me that it is.  I completely understand if you love the dress and it totally fits your vision; in that case you should subsidize half of the dress and just factor that into your budget.

    Post # 27
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    @nycbridetobe: Could you include a link to the dress that you love?  Maybe someone could suggest something similar for a more affordable price.

    Post # 29
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    my girls picked out their own dresses, so they stayed within their own comfort zone financially.  I would guess that most of the dresses were between 30 – 100 dollars.  Mostly in the $50, on sale at Macy’s type of range.

    Post # 30
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I think somebody could make those for FAR cheaper! they look pretty simple to me!

    Post # 31
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Someone just posted one similar to that one shoulder one from Etsy.  Hopefully someone will remember what I’m talking about and re-post.

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