(Closed) How much is too much?

posted 11 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Is $300 too much to ask a bridesmaid to spend on a dress.

    No, it's expensive but could be worth the cost for the right dress.

    Yes, it's way too much, I would never ask someone to pay that.

    Other, explained below.

  • Post # 32
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    No way on earth would I spend $300 on those dresses, sorry! They are cute, but not THAT cute. I suggest you do a screen capture of the dresses or find them in a store and take pics, and then get someone on etsy or a talented seamstress you know to make them for you. Good luck!

    Post # 33
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    Another thing that you have to consider is that the cost doesn’t always stop with just the dress. I recently paid $250 for a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress for my bestie’s wedding – but myself and the other BM’s all had to pay for alterations to the dresses (taking straps up or having them taken in) which then bumped the price up to $290 – which was A LOT for us considering that all of us were students at the time! Also, while one of us chose the dress we all had the same dress and it’s very “Bridesmaidy” so it’s not something I’ll wear again! Add to that the cost of shoes, jewellery, make up, hair, wedding/shower presents, possible travel or accomodation expenses etc and being a bridesmaid can be a costly affair!!!

    In my opinion if you’re asking you’re girls to spend that much they should at the very least have a good say in what they’re spending it on!

    Post # 34
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    Well, mine were $240 plux tax so basically $272.00 plus alterations. My girls could afford it but I still felt bad. I wanted to stay under 200 but one of them said “Court, pick out the dresses you love and don’t worry about it…it’s really okay!” So I went for it and I am SO happy I did! They are BEAUTIFUL! I wish I had one! 🙂 So I say go for it if they can afford it too!

    Post # 35
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010 - Philippe Park

    $300 is way too much, in my opinion, and we’re financially stable. I wouldn’t never ask my BMs to buy a dress over $200. And if I fell in love with a dress over $200, I would pay the balance.

    edit: The dresses are beautiful, but there’s no way I’d spend $300 on them. I’ve seen styles similar to those elsewhere for less $. I’d say either keep looking or pay the balance.

    Post # 36
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    300 Bucks?? I CURRUMBAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!! way to much, sorry!

    I felt bad even askng them to pay for their bridesmaid dresses! I had a friend who had to pay 270 dollars for her bridesmaid dress, pay 90 dollars for shoes, went on a hens weekend, had to contribute for fuel, accomodation. Organised things for the bridal shower.  all in all being a bridesmaid set her back about 800 dollars.

    She said never again.. I kept that in mind when i went shopping with the girls.

    I had asked the girls to budget a maximum of 200 dollars for dress and shoes and the girls were happy with that. We went shopping and found all the girls bridesmaid dresses 50 dollars each (on sale!!), really good quality red silk and then they all found shoes for 50 dollars.

    In the end, because it ended being quite cheap, i paid for the girls dresses and shoes. whatever works, sometimes you dont have to pay the exorbant price for quality.

     

    Post # 37
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2010 - Carlouel Yacht Club

    Hmmm it depends…on how much more you’re asking them to spend on other things (hair, makeup, shoes, accessories). If you plan to pay for a lot of these things for them, then maybe it wouldn’t be so bad, but personally I would be kind of upset as a Bridesmaid or Best Man if I had to pay for a dress, plus hair, accessories, travel/accommodations, etc. etc.. I am not made of money, and it would be a pretty big financial hardship to invest $500+ on attending a wedding when all is said and done!

    Post # 38
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    meh. i’ve thought about this and here’s what i plan to do. as a luxe addict, i don’t want someone to be wearing a cheapo dress if they’re one of the focal points of my wedding. sorry. i want all of my BM’s to be in the EXACT same color but am willing to allow them to go nuts with the style, so i’m hoping to find a designer who does high-quality dresses in lots of shapes and fabrics.  i’ll tell my BM’s to let me know what they can pay and we’ll pick up the rest.  if i stick with the BM’s i think i’ll have, this won’t be a big deal, i know them all well enough that it won’t make them uncomfortable.  i mean, we don’t have an unlimited budget, but if it’s the difference between an ill-fitting polyester dress in some god-awful clashing shade of my color and a beautiful dress in all of the pictures with my bridesmaids, we’ll shell out an extra few hundred.  as for getting the dress made, well, i just don’t know any talented seamstresses and there’s enough time-consuming work in planning a wedding.  just my priorities.

    Post # 39
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    Sugar bee

    I do think it depends on your group of friends and their financial situation.  Personally, I”d be upset if I were asked to spend that much and I would never expect my friends to pay that much for dresses.  If you really have your heart set on those dresses, then maybe you could pay for a portion of the dress to help them out?

    Post # 40
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    One of my BMs said the $125 dress I originally picked was too high (we switched to a $60 one, and we paid for them), so it depends on your situation, of course, but $300 is a bit unreasonable In My Humble Opinion.

    Post # 41
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    Oh..I think $300 is a lot to ask for someone to pay for a dress that they’ll only wear once. Would it be possible if you were able to subsidize the cost a bit. I think anything over $200 is a lot to ask and my friends and I are all in our 30’s and quite financially stable.  Could you find a similar dress at a lower cost?

    Post # 42
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    My BMs dresses are $165. I only asked them to pay for the first $100, we are paying the rest. 

    Post # 43
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    i really think it depends…actually, my moh and i were just talking about this–we really like a dress that we found out costs $310. i would feel bad asking people to spend so much, but she says she doesn’t think it’s a big deal, she said for her it amounts to saving a minimal amount extra per month for a few months. we’ll see though–i’m planning on asking the girls how much they’re willing to spend and then subsidizing any amount that goes over from the wedding budget, i think…if it matters, i won’t be asking them to buy matching shoes and i’ll be buying any particular accessories they wear. and the dress will actually be several options in the same fabric/designer so they can choose a style that’s best, cocktail length, and the color will either be a neutral green or gray so it’s hopefully rewearable…buuuut if we find a cheaper option that’s just as nice or nicer, i’ll just get the expensive dress for me in ivory and wear it for the rehearsal dinner 😉

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