(Closed) How much is too much?

posted 8 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

can you take photos at the university church and not use their facility for the wedding?

that would be one way to do it….

but honestly, what’s your budget like?  that’s really the most important factor.  if you can fit a grand into your budget for the ceremony and it’s what you really want, you’re FH is right, you do only get married once.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

I was going to write the same thing 🙂

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

what is your catering going to be and how many guests are you feeding??  that can be a huge expense.

also, photographers can be very expensive and musicians/djs aren’t too cheap either.

 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

with those estimates and a $1000 church you’re already at $8630.  linens, decor, favors, oot bags, bathroom baskets, invitations, save the dates, stamps, shoes, jewelery, gifts for wedding party, flowers, transportation….  i’m certain i forgot things too.

i’m not trying to disuade you, at all.  i am doing everything i am comfortable with for my wedding and budget of $3000.  i have made some sacrifices here and there to stay within our budget the best we can.

what i think you really ought to do is get a comprehensive list of the items that are typically involved with weddings (i suggest checking out weddingwire.com, it’s helped me a ton) and plug some numbers into their budget calculator and see how you feel.  it is truly amazing how fast everything can add up!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

oh hey..  i wanted to leave on a light note….  a great source for finding discounted vendors is craigslist.  my photographers (3 of them) are shooting for 6 hrs and giving me all photos (touched up) on disc with all rights for $300 – total.  our ceremony musician is an acoustic guitar/vocalist and we found him on cl, as well, for $100 for 2 hours.  there are deals to be had out there…. and you have plenty of time to find them, so don’t be afraid to bargain hunt!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Do you think the prettier church may save you money in decorations?  Just something else to consider, because even when you DIY that stuff adds up pretty quickly!

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

What is the deposit on the univ church?  If it’s a small deposit, and you’re willing to bargain with the loss of it, if you decide you can’t afford it, then that could be an option.

I do live in CA, but my wedding is in New Husband – in a very rural area.  I posted ads, but both of the vendors I mentioned, I actually contacted them through their ads on cl and totally gave them my low-ball price.  I was honest but kind.  I told them what sort of affair we had planned and what kind of service I was looking for specifically.  I did this to several vendors, and several came back with quotes twice what I could afford (albeit less than what their usual packages were).  I definitely had to do my homework, but I am pleased that I did.

Will your family be contributing?  I ask, because we are 33 and 41 and did not ask our families for anything because we figured we’re old and would just do what we could afford.  One of those “we could affords” was a Cake and Punch Reception – no meal.  We were fine with this, as it was the tradition long ago but out of the blue his parents offered to pay for catering, so naturally, we graciously accepted.  Same goes for our cake, I planned on baking our own, but my family has offered to take care of that expense and hire a baker.  I guess where I am going with this is, it could be that someone in your families is willing (or even planning) on contributing but hasn’t mentioned it yet because you still have some time before the wedding.  So perhaps talking about all of this honestly with family, too, may also provide some relief to your budget.

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m getting married at my University’s church.  It cost about $750 to hold the wedding there, and our budget is about $10k, just like you.  We actually rationalized that getting married at the more beautiful church would save us money on decorations for the church itself.  Because the University is out of town, we’d also feel less obligated to invite tons of guests – a good way to “self-limit” the amount of people you’re paying to feed.  We knew we’d have to cut some people from the list, but to get married our University’s church was worth it.  Also, we found other ways to trim the budget to fit in what we really wanted – because we knew that in 50 years, we’d want to look back on our pictures and remember the place where we met and fell in love.  We’d regret it if we didn’t get married at our University’s church – and you shouldn’t have regrets about something like that!!

To fit the church into our budget, we’re having a morning wedding with a brunch reception.  We scoured the internet for a great affordable photographer – DO YOUR RESEARCH and it can work!!  We’re planning on DIY-ing our invitations – I got invitation kits from Michaels on sale for $2.98 apiece.  If you’re willing to be diligent about saving money and preparing in advance to cut costs, you CAN do it!  Our wedding for ~150 people is shaping up to cost us about $8-9k, as it stands today.  🙂

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My budget is around $8000 and we decided to get married at our church as opposed to a prettier church in our area.  Yes, the churches that are around $1000 to rent are goregous and would make for beautiful pictures, but the church we are going to be married in is very special to us and that was the biggest influence. We are planning on taking pictures mostly outside and around the city, and the few that are taken during the ceremony, etc.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

yay!  glad you figured it out!  $200 isn’t a huge deposit, if you do have to lose it…  and the $800 more is only $2.25 a day for a year…  no more lattes and get a piggy bank!  =D

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