Post # 1
This past weekend all of my bridesmaids came into town to go dress shopping (for them). Prior to them coming I went out to the stores I had made appointments at and tried dresses on so I could narrow the pool for the sake of time. We all fell in love with one of the dresses, went back to the store later that afternoon to buy it, and was told it was going to be $210 (after some discounts). The girls were fine with it. Then, yesterday the girls got receipts that said they had been charged $249. No, it wasn’t a mistake on the store’s fault, we were just told the absolute wrong price of the dress.
Is this too much for a bridesmaid dress? They’re all from out of state so they’ll be traveling a couple of times before the wedding (only one has to fly from CA). I have offered to pay $25 towards each dress, and my mother said she would even pay $25 on top of that. What do you think? $250 too much? I thought it was steep, and never intended for them to pay that much, but I am already paying for some of the wedding, and plan to get them nice gifts in the end….
Post # 3
@BrideInDC: If you are concerned with the costs of the dresses, could you put more towards the dresses than just 25 each and spend less on their gifts? just an idea
Post # 4
I tried to keep it under 200 . I hate the idea of spending a lot on a one time dress as a courtesy to a dear friend. If you were told 210 by an employee it is the store’s fault and would fight for the 40 dollars.
Post # 5
@BrideInDC: Only your bridesmaids can you tell what is reasonable to pay. Talk with them about their budgets and what they feel comfortable spending on a dress.
Personally, I don’t think $250 is too much for a dress, I have paid around that price for every wedding I have been a bridesmaid in.
Post # 6
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Why don’t you call the store, and question why the dress is $39 more than you were told? Did that price include tax? If they told you the wrong price, then it *was* a mistake on the store’s part.
Post # 7
I think it’s fine if your BMs are fine with it. Maybe offer to pay for the difference between what you thought it would be and what it was? Or pay for alterations? Of course we’d like to be respectful of our BMs and limit their expenses, but at the end of the day dresses cost what they cost and everyone knows going into it that it’s not going to be cheap.
Post # 8
How is it not the stores fault if you were told one price and charged another? I’d threaten to cancel the order unless they address it.
I tend to be the odd one out but I don’t think $250 is awful and I think your offer to pay $25 is nice.
Post # 9
I am going to try and keep my Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses under $200. HOWEVER, I have spent $250 on a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress before and thought nothing of it. I’m my own double standard…
ETA: I agree with PP, it was the store’s fault for quoting the wrong price. Call them up!
Post # 10
I would say than anything over $200 is excessive, but I would just talk to my BMs and make sure they’re okay with it.
Post # 11
$250 would be too much for me, especially considering that doesn’t include the cost of alterations. Every wedding I’ve been in, the dress was under $200, so that’s more the norm in my circles, I guess.
Post # 12
I agree that $250 is quite steep, and more than I would care to spend on a bridesmaid dress…
Post # 13
It’s going to depend on your BMs, so I would ask them if they are still comfortable with the new price. If not, offer to chip in $20 or so to help them out (if you can), or go with another option.
I am trying to keep my Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses under $150, but that’s about average where I live and the type of weddings I have been in/to. Plus 1 of my BMs is in college, another is working 2 jobs, and another is engaged and planning her own wedding so I wanted to keep costs low for them.
Personally, I don’t think I would want to spend more than $150 or so if I were a Bridesmaid or Best Man, but that’s just me.
Post # 14
@rebwana: This. It is the store’s fault. Someone (you) needs to fight them about it.
They all agreed to pay $210. If you absolutely can’t get the price changed, then I’d make up the difference for them ($40).
Post # 15
I’m not sure what is normative in your circle, but for me, $250 (and even $210) would make me really uncomfortable. It’s important to think about the grand total the bridesmaids are spending, including flights/gas, possibly new shoes, maybe professional hair or makeup, gifts for you, showers, time off work, etc. I know they agree to spend a bit as a part of being bridesmaids, but it’s always good to help them keep costs down as much as possible. What do they think about $250?
Post # 16
Yeah, that’s too expensive for me. It would have to be the wedding of my best friend ever for me to pay that much, especially considering all of the other expenses that bridesmaids have. I tried to keep my Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses under $100.
But yes, this is the store’s fault. Call them and ask them why it was more than what they were already told.