(Closed) How much is TOO MUCH for a wedding dress?

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 16
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Helper bee

I bought a beautiful used dress on Tradesy for $300. 75% off  retail!  I suggest trying some dresses in the store and then checking for a used one online. Ebay has tons of dresses!

Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

This whole question is really pointless. The dress limit is absoultey going to vary. Make a budget and stick with it – just like all aspects of your wedding. There are beautiful dresses at every price point. If you think $5,000 is too much to spend, then don’t spend $5,000 on your dress. But there is nothing wrong with a bride that wants to spend money on her dress.

All that matters is how you feel in the dress – you will (hopefully) only have one wedding, so get something that YOU feel amazing and beautiful in. Who the F cares if your friends remember your dress or what anyone else thinks.

Post # 18
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Yup, defintely a subjective question as another PP said.

I think it really depends on YOUR budget and what you feel is too much. I was looking around $1K, and didn’t really want to spend more than that. I did really like a dress that was $1,500, but the salon cut all the tags out and wouldn’t let me know what designer it was so that I could review it online and decide between that one and the one I ultimately said yes to.

I did try on a few dresses around the $2K amount, but know I didn’t want to spend that much. I know they say to not do it, but was really picky with the budget and stuck to what I wanted to spend. In the end, the dress I fell for was $800! By the time taxes and shipping were added on (plus a discount from the salon), it was $880. I couldn’t have been more than thrilled.

My dress was a Jasmine Bridal dress, and they have so many other styles that are still very affordable and look grest. Even if I could havew afforded more, I don’t think I would have.

http://www.jasminebridal.com/

Post # 19
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I think you should look at it as a percentage of your overall budget, like 10% or less, maybe? Our wedding budget (not including rings) was 15K, and my dress was $550 + $300 in unplanned alterationsbecause I lost too much weight. 

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

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elizabethturner:  After looking at dresses online and in the store I decided to try to find a dress close to $1,000 (I am paying it on my own). I fell in love with a $1,300 one and just could not commit to the price, but was willing to pay it if I did not find anything else that caught my eye as much as that one did. Our overall budget is $10,000 max and I knew the more expensive the dress the more I would have to cut from other places.

I went to a desiger bridal store over the weekend and their dresses were averaging closer to $2,000 and above and guess what, I didnt like any of the dresses. It just wasnt me, not even about the price, I just didnt like them. I went to a bridal outlet in the areas and the dresses are sample, discounted, and discontinued dresses. I saw these beautiful dresses for $500+! The one I fell in love with was $700 ($744 including taxes). I am really happy with my dress! It is possible to get a dress based on your budget, it is just about looking for them and keeping an open mind.

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

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elizabethturner:  It’s different for everyone.

For me personally, anything over $800-$1000 was too much!

I think I ended up with $300-$400 into my dress with alterations and cleaning. I upcycled my dress and had it made for me.

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - St. John\'s Lutheran Church

In my mind, I would never spend more than $200 on a dress, and that would be for a dress I would own for years and wear multiple times. So why would I spend $1000 on a dress I’m only wearing once? But then again, I want my wedding day to feel a little more special than any other event I might wear a dress to. I am making my dress, and have a budget of about $250. I feel confident I can achieve my dream dress on that budget.

Post # 23
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

This is so subjective. I spent over 5k on my dress and no way in hell is my wedding costing over 100k, that’s ridiculous. I could comfortably spend that and the dress was very important to me, so I made it happen. There is a huge range from 500-5009, so find something in between. 

Post # 24
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Bumble bee

I have these price points in my mind for certain items. I don’t like to spent more than x amount on a car, Christmas gifts, groceries, etc. I think there are budgeting tools for how much should be spent on attire out of the whole budget if you’re interested (The Knot, Brides, Weddingwire, etc.). But my particular price point was $1500 for the dress, $2000 total including veil, accessories, shoes, and undergarments. I spent $2199. I got lucky–my mother insisted on buying the dress so that was a huge chunk right there (the dress is a Maggie Sottero and it retails for $1300, so I was under a major price point, fortunately). I’m in the greater Boston area so this is pretty reasonable for a dress. That being said, I loved a LOT of BHLDN dresses, many of which were under $1000. The problem is that there aren’t any BHLDN retailers nearby and I only had one weekend to go dress shopping with my mom (she lives several states away).

I think $500-1000 is a reasonable budget for you, bee! It can certainly be done!

Post # 25
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Busy bee

Etsy has a ton of handmade dresses for well under $500.

Mori Lee has dresses for under $1k.. some even under $500

ModCloth has wedding dresses for under $200

Post # 26
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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sumshine.dawn:  How very awesome! Very pretty on you!

OP set a budget you can live with then go on the hunt! Chances are you will find something you love within your budget.

Post # 27
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - North NJ

I have a Maggie Sottero gown. Gown + alterations came to $1500. I am upset by how much it costs (alteration cost ended up being multiple hundreds). I have the money to spend 10x that on a dress if I wanted to, but I don’t see the value in that. 

If you watch say yes to the dress, some of the girls are REALLY rich (saudi princesses, etc). Others dont’ have a lot and you know their parents are making credit card payments on that dress for years. Up to you what you want to spend. Just know that show is not the norm. 

Post # 28
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: Church

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elizabethturner:  You can find some very beautiful dresses in your budget without breaking the bank. Take some time and look around. You’ll be surprise at the beautiful gems out there. A happy bride can make any dress beautiful whether it cost 100, or 100,000. It’s all about feeling good about yourself. I personally couldn’t see going into debt for a gown that I will only be wearing a few hours when I could spend the money on some thing long term. I ‘m donating my dress to charity right after the ceremony . I think every brides wants to feel like a princess on her wedding day and I still dream of having a more expensive gown but it was love at first sight.  I love my DB wedding dress and it cost less than 700 🙂  As far as the bridal tv shows, yes they are fun to watch but I’m sure more goes on behind the scene that we don’t get to see. 

Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

As many have said, “too much” is really, really subjective. I didn’t want to spend anything over $1500 for my dress and was really happy with one I found for $650 (though, with an added sash, veil, accessories and alterations it will be close to the $1500 in total). The best thing I did was to figure out my budget before shopping and tell the consultant/stylist what it was. I basically didn’t touch any dress that was over my budget, which really helped.

BHLDN has some really great dresses (it’s where I purchased mine) that are under $1500. I went to their New York City location (my stylist was Chelsea and is amazing). I also loved that I could purchase multiple dresses to try on different sizes at home and still return (for no extra shipping) the dresses I didn’t want. The dresses also arrived super fast (within 5 days of ordering for me), so it was really convenient for me.

That said, if you’re struggling to come to terms with spending so much on a dress (as I was) before I chose my final dress I also went to a salon in NYC called the Bridal Garden which is a not-for-profit salon selling sample/overstock/used bridal dresses. The proceeds of the sale of the dresses goes towards educational opportunities for disavantaged kids. Some of the dresses were in iffy condition (small tears/missing buttons) and the prices varied significantly. Before settling on the dress I finally purchased, I was torn between a beautiful dress I saw there for $750 – but in the end it was just a bit too much dress for me (huge train, lots of sparkle…they really are designer, couture dresses, which isn’t really my style). I was really bummed not to find something there, since I thought it was such a good cause and that it would be wonderful if the purchase of a wedding dress would benefit someone other than myself.

But setting a budget for a wedding dress is the same as budgeting for anything else (vacation, car, etc). You have to look at what your finances allow, what’s important for you and then make the decision yourself.

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