(Closed) How much is too much for bridesmaid dresses?

posted 14 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 17
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m on a very limited budget but I am purchasing the dresses for my bridesmaids.  I found sum really cute pink ones on Forever 21 too.  Might be the same dress as the above since I paid $11.50 for each.  Totally cute.  I just added a little pink lace to the mid section.  Couldnt tell the dress is under $20 at all.

Post # 18
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m with mantillabride. I found a dress I love, and the girls love too! totally rewearable after the wedding…and it’ll be $280 including taxes, but it’s made from scratch, so alterations are kind of included. And it’s the perfect color, so I went with it.

I see it as…if I were a bridesmaid for my friend’s wedding, I would pay anything (almost) to make it her happiest day ever.

But for bridesmaids in college, getting out of college, and traveling, I would say be mindful of their budgets.

Post # 19
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Worker bee

I wouldn’t ask my girls to pay more than $150. And to be honest, if I was a bridesmaid in someone’s wedding, I probably wouldn’t pay more than $200 – if it was more than that, I’d probably have to back out.

and JMO, but the girls with $270-280 dresses, I’m betting your BM’s weren’t exactly jumping for joy at that pricetag.

Post # 20
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Newbee

As a graduating senior who is going broke going to weddings and being in weddings. . . . $250 is way too much unless you subsidize it.  Add to that the cost of shoes, hair/makeup, and it gets overwhelming.

 Also keep in mind that ALOT of people are getting married within the year or so after college, so people are hardpressed picking which weddings to be a part of and which ones to go to. 

Post # 21
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

I think because of their current life situations, $250 may be asking too much.  I aimed for $150, but my bridesmaids vetoed every dress I sent them.  I finally found one for $180 (no alterations needed for any of them) that they all agreed on.  I feel bad, but it was the only one I found that they all liked.  One bridesmaid (my sister) is in high school, but my mom paid for her dress.  The other girls are late 20’s and have both been working for quite a few years – and neither will be paying for travel expenses – so I figured it would all balance out in the end.

Post # 22
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Worker bee

I was going to say 250 max, but given their situation ( in college, recently out and/or travellin) I agree with other posta that you should try to aim for 150 or less. I don’t know how much time you have until the wedding, but J.Crew dresses often go on sale, so if you can wait, that might be an option if you have your heard absolutely set on it.

 

Post # 23
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

I got Jim Hjelm dresses through Netbride for in the $160 range.

Post # 24
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

And remember, there’s plenty of places to get matching/similar dresses that aren’t from bridal/wedding sites/stores.  JC Penney, Nordstrom, Macy’s, Target… and as other people have mentioned, Forever 21!  I hadn’t thought about Forever 21 until now!

I think I’m going to go the department store route or Anthropologie or H&M.

Post # 26
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: December 2008

I think the best thing to do would be to talk to your bridesmaids about how much they would be able to spend on their dress.  Personally for their situation (I am a college student myself), I would find difficulty paying that price for dresses.  Maybe you can ask them to browse some websites for dresses they like in your color and in their price range.  You may be surprised at what they find!

Post # 27
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Newbee

I think if you truly love the dress and cannot find an alternative, you should go for it.  Just consider how much they have to spend in total.  You should either help pay for the dress or do as much as you can to reduce other costs – pay for their hair & makeup, their hotel rooms….anything to help offset the cost of the whole wedding for them.  You also should not insist on them buying matching shoes so they can wear a pair they already own, or buy a pair they know they will wear again.  You could also specifically request that they not buy you a shower or wedding gift since they are spending so much on the dresses.

Post # 28
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

It depends on quality. I’d pay up to 400 for a quality dress, especially if I could wear it again. The 178 I paid for a awful quality Ann Taylor Chloe- WAY too much.

Post # 29
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Well, $250 for a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress is a bit expensive.  I would try to look for an alternative dress that is similar to what you like.  You can also check out these dresses that are on sale from JCrew.  I know they are not the exact one you want, but the price tags are much more reasonable.  Also, they are offering an additional 20% off the sale items.  At least this way you are still getting the JCrew style you like.  Give it a try.  http://www.jcrew.com/catalog/category.jhtml?id=cat90218

Post # 30
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Newbee

i’m not so bothered by a $250 per se… but its the fact that its jcrew. dont get me wrong, i love jcrew, but what i’ve learned is that EVERYTHING goes on sale after the season. i remember getting my brother a $200 jacket for $20. which means they’re still making a profit on $20!! for $250, i’d want to buy something a bit *nicer* then jcrew. i think its nice but not $250 nice. i bought the cutest philip lim 3.1 dress for like $150 on sale… i just dont think jcrew’s worth it.

 just my 2 cents….

Post # 31
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Hey, after telling you about the J.Crew sale, I actually bought a dress myself.  I bought a party dress that was originally $200 for only $46.  This dress was part of last season’s Bridesmaid or Best Man dress collection.  So, with that said, if your wedding date isn’t coming up too soon, you can probably wait a little until it goes on sale or when you get some sort of coupon.  Like Bora mentioned above, it will most likely go on sale and you will see how ridiculous the original price may be.

I actually also bought the goddess long dress in ivory for $96.  It was originally $325.  I think it would be a nice dress just for the beach photos I plan to take, and I will wear the fancier one for the ceremony.  So happy about my find.

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