Post # 1
I am looking for chiffon dresses in a lilac/lavender color. I found the perfect ones on Dessy.com (LR153 in smashing) but they are $270, and cheapest discount I have found is $189 (new york bridesmaids).
Does anyone have any suggestions?
My sister (MOH) thinks that the cost is too high. I am having trouble finding dresses I like below $170, but maybe I am not looking in the right places.
I appreciate any input! Thank you.
Ps. I picked chiffon because I felt like it would not be too form fitting for my plus size bridesmaids and would breathe well if the May weather turns out to be hot.
Post # 3
davids bridal has cheaper dresses.. we are paying 130 each dress… our orignal dress was 171.
jcrew may have something in a nice price point for u
Post # 4
We bought our chiffon Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses for $98 each from J Crew when they were having an awesome sale (That price included shipping to Canada).
Post # 5
Check out Netbride.com. They have the same dresses as the stores but usually at a much cheaper discount. My girls saved over 70 bucks per dress. They were wonderful.
Post # 6
I think $189 is a reasonable price. I went through a bit of stress because my sister, who is asking as Maid/Matron of Honor, was upset that the dresses the other girls and I decided on were $250. It was more than we had planned to spend, but everyone fell in love with the dress and felt that they were a good value.
fast forward to this past weekend, the groommen’s tux rental from men’s warehouse came to $189. I don’t think its unreasonable to expect to pay more for a dress you will own than a tux that will be rented. Many of the dresses we saw were around $200
That being said, David’s has a lot of less expensive options, a myriad of colors and works in conjunction with men’s warehouse for deals/to match vests with dresses.
Post # 7
Each of your bridesmaids has a different financial situation, so before you start looking find out from them individually what their budget is. They may like the $200+ dresses you see, but might feel uncomfortable stating its too expensive, especially if you’re talking to them as a group. This way you can make sure to find a dress that suits everyones budget!
Post # 8
My Maid of honor, bridesmaid and flower maiden dresses were $42 each at Burlington. Bought them in September for my wedding in March.
My Matron of honor purchased her dress for $20 at Ross last friday. We also picked up the dress for FI’s mother at Ross on Friday for $20 as well. They all fit our color scheme and only one bridesmaid dress to go. We will look for it in 2 weeks when she has money.
Next stop for me is shoes.
Post # 9
We got beautiful Mori Lee chiffon dresses for $132 because my BMs got a 20% discount for buying them at the store where I got my dress. So they were originally in the $150s, which is a little better.
Post # 10
I think $150 is the most I would want to pay for a BMs dress and there are plenty of nice dresses at that price or less.
Post # 11
We went with convertible dresses from an etsy vendor and I got them for $91 each including shipping.
Personally I think anything over $150 is over-kill, especially if you’re asking for shoes and other items to be paid for.
Post # 12
The dresses I decided on are $198 each, but I’ll be paying a portion so that my ladies are only paying $150 each. It was a self-imposed budget but I still felt that anything over $150 was too much.
I’m also paying for hair, make-up, and they can wear their own neutral-colored shoes and gold-toned jewelry, if that makes a difference.
Post # 13
@Kristengettingmarried, keep in mind that if you dictate a specific shoe you must pay for it. Bridesmaids are monetarily responsible for dresses only. You could always choose a neutral color (black, nude, gray, silver) and tell them to find something in that color, since most people will already have something like that.
Post # 14
I’ve never heard of this before. I was thinking that if my bridesmaids’ dresses are inexpensive, I can also tell them which inexpensive sandals to get.
Is this something other people have heard of? (i.e. Is it wrong to ask bridesmaids to pay for their shoes if you want a specific style to match the dress?)
OP: Have you tried Etsy? I’ve been seriously considering flowy wrap/convertible dresses. They’re flattering and can be customized to suit the style of each bridesmaid, and the knee-length ones I’ve seen are around the $90 mark.
Post # 15
I think its a misconception furthered by the wedding industry. People have very different shoe likes and dislikes, and while one person may be perfectly happy in heels all day, another person may be in pain after 15 minutes. Dresses aren’t necessarily uncomfortable if worn all day, but shoes definitely are, which is why it can be better to leave it up to the bridesmaids’ discretion. I mean, I’d much rather have comfortable, happy bridesmaids than matching shoes with bloody feet and blisters in my pics!
Post # 16
I agree with you about the fact that people have different preferences for footwear, but I’ve never heard that a bride can’t ask her bridesmaids to pay for the shoes.
I wouldn’t dream of putting my bridesmaids in something that would hurt them! I’m thinking flat sandal-type shoes of some sort.