(Closed) How much $ is too much $ or a BM dress?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: How much money is too much money for a bridesmaid dress?

    $100 or less





    I'd pay anything for my bride!

  • Post # 17
    2655 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @BrandNewBride:  +1 on wearing any free dress! 

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    @MrsRevolutionize:  Very generous of you to offer to pay for the dresses.

    If you aren’t going to pay for them now, just let your BMs pick the style of dress. That way whatever they spend is their choice ( so if they have an issue they have to work it out amongst themselves)

    THis is what I am doing. I just said it has to be some variation of light pink/blush and they all have to match

    Post # 19
    918 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    If it got much over $350 I would start to twitch (clothing costs a lot more in Australia so this may seem high to others overseas.) 

    Post # 20
    4145 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I( don’t like to go over 150 and like to be closer to 100, or even less. But it doesn’t always work that way. You could ask their opinions? My girls chose to go for a more expensive dress between our two options, but it was also much nicer quality.

    Post # 21
    7414 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @MrsRevolutionize:  personally, anything above $200 would be more than I would pay for a dress for anyone.  My Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses are $165 and I’m paying the tax for the girls (the shop offers no tax if they pay in cash and I’m not comfortable with that, I like the credit card insurance). 

    Honestly, if you’re paying for the dresses, I would wear whatever you told me to wear even if it didn’t look super fabulous.  I didn’t pay for it, who cares.

    Post # 22
    1006 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 1994

    I think $125 would be the limit for balking point.

    Post # 24
    8066 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I wouldn’t want to pay more than $200.  Closer to $150 would be best.

    Post # 25
    1875 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    This question pops up every so often and for me personally, it depends on the dress and type of wedding.  I’d be willing to pay $300 for a black tie wedding.  But backyard BBQ; probably no more than $150.  If I really like the dress I’ll be willing to spend more.

    But really, it doesn’t matter what other Bees are willing to pay, what matters is what your BM’s can afford.  As far as your situation goes, I’d just be upfront and honest with your BMs.  They are your nearest and dearest and should understand.  Explain that you’ll cover X amount and ask what their budgets for dressed would be (do this privately of course so no one feels pressured).

    Post # 26
    207 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I paid $569 (including alterations $379 for the dress, $80 for the sash and $110 for alterations – taken in, having the sash sewn on and the hem taken up) for a dress I will NEVER wear again, but I paid it because I could afford it and it’s what the bride wanted. I donated the dress after the wedding, it would be perfect for a formal (Australian prom?) and about the only person it would fit is a high school girl, so hopefully someone found it in the op-shop and loves it.

    Post # 27
    1682 posts
    Bumble bee

    @Bearimbolo:  Jesus! That’s more than my wedding gown will cost! 


    For me personally I can’t afford more than $120 right now but it all depends on what you’re looking for/what you or they can afford.

    Post # 28
    2393 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    It depends on their age and financial situation.  The last wedding I was in, the dresses were around $250 and the required shoes were $75.  Usually I find girls pick something closer to $150.

    Post # 29
    1034 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I would begin to frown around the $200 mark. It also depends on the type of event. I would go higher if the wedding were a black tie affair. I would also spend more if I LOVED the dress and would wear it again. I would absolutely refuse to buy a dress that cost more than $350 after taxes. 

    Post # 30
    1237 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Perhaps tell your girls that you are willing to cover up to $x amount, and then let them pick between the two dresses. 

    Although honestly, I’d wear a dress I didn’t like if it was purchased for me. 

    I recently was in a wedding where I paid about $200 on the dress and I felt a little pinched.  To be fair, I did really like the dress though.

    Post # 31
    616 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @MrsRevolutionize: To be honest, I’d be annoyed if anyone required me to buy a specific dress if I had no input, at almost any price! If I could choose the style myself, particularly off the rack (so I could wear it again) I’d be comfortable paying about $100. If i was “required” to purchase a specific dress I did not like, I would step down from the duty.

    Everyone was free to wear whatever they wanted at my wedding – I feel really strongly about the idea that my friends and family are not my fashion accessories. 

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