(Closed) How much is too much to ask someone to pay for a hens night?

posted 5 years ago in Parties
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper

It depends on the friends and what they can afford. That sounds reasonable for the price. Just don’t forget to budget in tipping

Post # 3
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Helper bee

The price sounds reasonable to me for all of that. Maybe they just aren’t comfortable with the activities? Idk what puppetry of the penis show is but it doesn’t sound like something id be interested in doing/paying money for and neither would a stripper (although of course I’d suck it up for a friend). People maybe be uncomfortable with belly dancing if they’re self conscious about their body or dancing skills. I know it’s in good fun and I would actually love a belly dancing class but I know many who wouldn’t like that kind of attention. 

Can you get some feedback from your friends because it really could be a number of things. Price, activities, time and scheduling conflicts etc

Post # 4
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Busy bee

Wow im amazed you got all of that, including hotel stay, for that price. No I don’t think its unreasonable, just try to chase people up and ask them If its too much/there are any other issues. 

theatrejulia:  we don’t tip here in Aus 😊

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  1. BibbidiBobbidiBoop:  I have been to your lovely country before. Tipping isn’t a big as in America but rounding to the nearest dollar for a taxi, roomservice, housekeeping and restaurants is normal. Don’t forget about the stripper
Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper

theatrejulia:  we don’t tip in Australia. Service is included in the price and we pay fair wages. Minimum wage here is just over $16.

cathiemaney:  As an aussie and knowing the prices of things especially alcohol I think that is a damn good deal for what you are getting. However I probably wouldn’t want to take part in some of those activities but I would suck it up for a good friend. But $120 is in my budget and I know that for some that is way out of their budget.

I think when planning things like hens night the bride/organiser has to find the right bałance between enabling friends to come and cost.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

theatrejulia:  Not really unless you’re paying in cash. I think it’s because of the wage differences. Over in the US service staff don’t get much base pay and it’s pretty much whatever they make in tips is what they live off. Here in Australia the base pay per hour is reasonable and tips (although are nice), are not really required to live. If you ask Aussies if they tip, I guarantee more than 80% of us would say never (unless perhaps if there is a tip jar in which case feel free to leave a few dollars).

cathiemaney:  To answer your question, I think anything is too much to ask someone to pay for a hen’s night however what you arranged is actually very reasonable for those who do want to pay to do something a little out of the ordinary. Just keep in mind drinks at the club after the initial cocktail can drive the prices right up and I know a lot of people who think just heading straight to a bar or club is more than enough for a hen’s night anyway. That way they only cover the door fee, how ever many drinks they want, shout a couple of drinks for the hen and then maybe have a cab fair in that as well.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

I’ve only been to one and I think it was about $80 and all it included was a ticket to a male stripper show at crown so I think you got an amazing deal!! But once again it depends on the friends and what they have going on in their lives- for some people $100 is nothing for others its a stretch- I hope you get more people coming because it sounds like a fun night!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Maybe it is the way you are asking? Are you sending a facebook invite or calling people? I’ve had a lot of parties/events I wasn’t planning on going to/sort of forgot about, but if someone calls me about it I will go.

If you are only inviting 10-20 girls I say you should call them individually to tell them about it/invite them.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I would say it’s not for your friend to decide what is a reasonable budget for people. 

I recently arranged a hen do that had a number of activities through the day. I sent everyone a message which outlined what I planned with a breakdown of the costs for each activity. This allowed people to pick and choose which parts they wanted to attend based on their preferences and budget. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK

Sounds really reasonable to me, I’ve been on a similar hen night (UK) and it was mopre expensive than that. I’m guessing you wouldn’t have booked these things if your bride told you everyone was ultra conservative, sounds like a fun day to me! For me it’s when the hen do goes over about £120/ $250 Australian dollars that it gets too expensive but that’s just me and I’ll turn down a hen do if it stretches me financially. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

“….a half an hour Puppetry of the Penis show”

I’m sorry, but WTF is that?

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

mangosandcats:  Um, it is men who can move their nether regions into shapes resembling other things. I would say google it, but it is not safe for work ;P

 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

Olivepepper:  WOW! Seriously laughing right now…I had no idea this existed.

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